Becker Funeral Home


Raymond H. Bruppacher

August 10, 1949March 26, 2021
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Raymond H. Bruppacher passed away on March 26th. Ray was born on August 10, 1949 to Herman and Dorothy Bruppacher (Bengal), and spent his formative years in River Edge, NJ, and graduated from River Dell Regional High School. Ray attended Stevens Institute of Technology and majored in mechanical engineering. He participated in the Army ROTC program and served in the National Guard from 1971 to 1977. He met his future wife, Mary Ann (Shields) of Dumont, NJ, in 1977 at the Bergenfield Adult School where she took Ray’s auto mechanic class. The two would marry in 1984 and settle into Ray’s childhood home. Later in 1984, they purchased their forever home in River Vale where they raised their son, John.

Ray’s love of cars brought him to Bergenfield in 1970 where he worked as a mechanic at Bergenfield Exxon. In 1971, he became a minority owner of the business and in 1978, became co-owner with Brian McDowell, who was his business partner for over 43 years. Together, they built a business they were immensely proud of - helping the community with their cars and establishing long-term relationships with so many customers and families in Bergenfield and the surrounding towns. Everyone knew Ray and Brian and knew they could count on them to help them with their car troubles.

Ray loved going to work at Bergenfield Exxon every day and did so up until his passing. He enjoyed talking with customers who stopped by to say hello or get work done. He was always helpful and willing to lend a hand to everyone and mentored many dedicated employees through the years.

Ray could fix anything, whether at work or at home. He made sure he passed this knowledge onto John his “laddie”. By the age of two, John knew how to use all the tools on his tool belt. Father and son spent countless hours through the years working on home projects. Ray passed along his love of cars as well. Many weekends were spent attending car shows and eventually became wonderful destination trips for father and son. Ray owned a 1940 Chevy Street Rod that he loved working on at home and taking for drives - sunny days only!

John fell in love with Lauren Kubler while they were freshmen in high school. Ray and Mary Ann welcomed her immediately into the family. She was the daughter they never had. Lauren and Ray shared so many things in common that she quickly became known as “little Ray”. Lauren, a registered nurse, provided so much love and care to Ray through the years. Lauren and John were engaged in March of 2020 and will be married this May. Ray will be there in spirit to share their beautiful day. Ray’s love of food could only be admired. Luckily for him, he married a girl who loved to cook and bake. Mary Ann filled their home with wonderful smells and delicious meals, and Ray was always happy to try any new recipe. He loved the holidays because they were always celebrated with family and friends along with special cookies and desserts baked by Mary Ann and John.

Ray was an amazing man who always smiled and never said no to anyone asking for his help or advice. He will be missed deeply by his family, friends, business partner, customers, and all the countless people he assisted along the way.

Ray is survived by his wife, Mary Ann, of River Vale; his son, John Herman Bruppacher of Farmington, CT; and his future daughter-in-law, Lauren Rae Kubler of River Vale. He is also survived by his sister, Janet Gaston, and her husband, Richard; his niece Jamie Gaston; his nephews Timothy and Brian Gaston; and his brother-in-law, Peter, and his wife, Mary, of San Antonio, TX.

Visitation will be Thursday, April 1st, 4-8 p.m., at Becker Funeral Home on 219 Kinderkamack Road in Westwood, NJ. A Funeral Service will be held on Friday, April 2nd, at 10 a.m. at Becker Funeral Home. Interment will follow at the South Presbyterian Church Historic Cemetery, 150 W. Church Street, Bergenfield, NJ. In lieu of flowers, donations in Ray’s memory may be made to the NJ Sharing Network at


  • Visitation

    Thursday, April 1, 2021

  • Funeral Service

    Friday, April 2, 2021

  • Committal Service

    Friday, April 2, 2021


Raymond H. Bruppacher

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Rob't Black

April 12, 2021

Very upset to have learned of Ray's passing... He is sorely missed... Yet I can see him sitting in his chair in the office 'taking care of business'...

A Bergenfield neighbor recommended his & Brian's Exxon station for a problem that could have been super costly; suggested workaround was implemented by one of their magician mechanics and our car lasted 10 more years... I was hooked!

Once when grid was out for maybe 5 days, he & Brian set up portable pumps to get the gas thru the retail pumps... And he got distributor to keep his supply coming... One of the few stations able to keep filling vehicles... With demand crazy, he & his crew plus some volunteers (me included) set up a workable system, with public lining up on Washington Ave headed south & turning west to use 3 lines; emergency, police, & other responder vehicles coming east up W. Church to use the 4th side (where diesel was located); and pedestrians w/gas cans walking in from the corner to use that corner pump on the 4th side... It ran like a charm w/no complaints or arguments... Unbelievably smooth... That was Ray - a successful solution for every challenge...

My life was enriched by knowing & interacting w/Ray... The Eternal Father must have wanted him for something, 'cause he was taken far too soon... May his eternal soul rest in enduring peace... And may his family & friends be blessed w/the Lord's succor...

John A. Fuhrman

April 6, 2021

I have been friends with Ray and Brian for 30 years, since I met them at Bergenfield Exxon. Many people say "Ray was a great guy" which is certainly true, but he was much more. He was a man who cared about people, inspired confidence, put people at ease, and helped many people over those many years. He was a man who knew who he was and the importance of his family while never being pretentious. He had very deep knowledge of the mechanics of cars from the dawn of the automobile to the present. He was also the guy who would slip you a can of gas for your generator after Hurricane Sandy... give you a ride to and from home... or give you a loaner when your car stayed overnight, even though you didn't ask for it. His humor, insights, and management style are all things to be treasured. Ray was an honorable and good man. I again extend my sincerest condolences to his family , to Brian and their employees, and to all his friends on his untimely passing. He will long be remembered by many of us.

Pat Rose

April 3, 2021

Almost 45 years ago, we were celebrating our wedding with you as an usher. Hard to believe all these years have gone by. And now we mourn your passing. Our sincere condolences to Maryann, John, and Janet and family. Rest In Peace old friend.
Pat and Tom Rose

Davin and Alissa Rosenblatt

April 1, 2021

We were saddened to hear of the passing of Ray. I have been taking my care to Ray & Brian for 30 years and in the marriage my wife gained my mechanics, Ray & Brian. Ray was always quick with a joke and a smile. I will miss seeing Ray in his shorts when most people in their right mind would be in a winter coat.

We wish Ray's family, Brian, and Ray's friends our sincerest condolences.


Davin & Alissa


April 1, 2021

I worked for Ray back in the late 70s. I was a clutz with no mechanical skills at all, but Ray was patient and supportive. He was a great boss that taught me so much about working, and having work ethic.
Ray was the only person, outside my parents, that called me 'Marky'. Although he had fun with that, I always accepted it as a show of his affection.
Thank you Ray for teaching me about cars, work, and life. I sincerely appreciate the impact you had on me. Maryann and family, may God be with you to comfort you in this loss of a great man.

Stephania Gil

March 31, 2021

If we needed anything fixed, Ray was there! His smile brightened up anyone's day! We will miss Ray dearly.

The Regency Club

Tony De Feo

March 31, 2021

I have been a customer/friend of Bergenfield Exxon for more than 50 years, starting with Warren, then Warren and Ray, and then Ray and Brian. They took care of my cars, then by landscape business trucks for more than 27 years. They still take care of my car. I loved dealing with both Ray and Brian. Never had a dispute or problem. Always friendly and professional. It is so sad to hear of the untimely passing of my friend Ray. Our condolences go out to Maryann and John and all his family. May he Rest in Peace.
Tony and Marilyn De Feo

James Schopperth

March 31, 2021


Billy Joe Martin

March 30, 2021

I Love working with my boss Ray! I’m going to miss him so much! Pray for his wife Mary Ann and my adopted brother John I loved Mulching at Ray’s house in River Vale I’m so stunned. My boss was the best boss he hired me over 13 yeas ago happy to worked with him and Brian! Got get some help for Brian! Prayers of Comfort

steven edelstein

March 30, 2021

Ray was a friend and a wonderful person to do business with. We will miss him sorely.
- Sunshine