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D'Esopo Funeral Chapel

277 Folly Brook Boulevard, Wethersfield, CT

OBITUARY

Dr. Santo Buccheri

December 20, 1959June 27, 2020

Santo Buccheri, MD, 60, of Wethersfield, CT, passed away on June 27, 2020 at St. Francis Hospital surrounded by his loving family. His untimely death came after a courageous battle with COVID and its complications.

Born in Melbourne, Australia, on December 20, 1959 to Sebastiano and Rosa (Ierna) Buccheri, he immigrated to Hartford, CT in 1970. A graduate of South Catholic High School, he was an All-State Tenor who also performed in the Drama Club to familial acclaim. After graduating from Fairfield University and The University of Hartford with degrees in chemistry and biology, respectively, he attended Eastern Virginia Medical School and graduated in 1985 with his Doctor of Medicine degree.

Having practiced medicine for over 35 years, Santo actively contributed to the Greater Hartford medical community and held his fellow doctors and nurses in high regard. During the course of his residency, he met his lovely wife, Louise (Neptin), and married in 1989. After completing his residency in Internal Medicine at St. Francis hospital in 1988, he established a private practice in Hartford’s South End (Little Italy); was one of the founders of Prime Healthcare (a preeminent integrated healthcare system in the greater Hartford area); and served as the Medical Director for a number of nursing homes, most recently at Salmon Brook, Bloomfield Healthcare, and Maple View Manor. An enthusiastic supporter of technology in medicine, Santo founded a medical technology company with one of his best friends, Sam Merkouriou, and helped spread the use of electronic medical records across medical offices in the 1990s.

His life was marked by an array of hobbies that intersected with his friends and family. An avid fan of aviation since childhood, Santo loved flying radio-controlled model airplanes and attended thunderous vintage airplane shows – he even flew in two of them – with his friend Seby Bordieri. He reveled in good times like at the midnight premieres of Star Wars films or at Seby Bordieri’s annual 4th of July celebration. He regularly attended swap meets with his friends Peter, Anthony, and Peter Jr. Aniello on quests for treasures. He loved black tea and stashed Cadbury chocolate bars anywhere he could hide them. He drew great pleasure in collecting and restoring vintage Mustangs and riding motorcycles. Often, he enjoyed cruise nights during the summer with his family in one of his roadworthy Mustangs.

As a father, Santo was the model of timeless dedication to his family: he was a regular at his daughter’s dance recitals, pageants, and professional productions as an actor; played board games with his children, including the short-lived Yu-Gi-Oh! card game, and the, at times, regrettably long game of Risk; chaperoned overnight camping trips with the boy scouts; fixed computers as projects; embraced the magic of yearly family trips to Disney World; and saw so many wrestling and judo matches that he probably picked up a few moves himself. Ever interested in his family’s provenance, he passionately built a family tree that connected generations of the Buccheri family across the U.S., Argentina, Italy, Austria, and Australia.

His beloved German Shepherds, Gunnar and Tanner (known as “the Boys”), roused in him a contagious smile and chuckle. Appropriately, Santo brought the Boys to work to serve as a welcoming committee and therapy duo for his patients. Easily influenced by them, Santo cradled the Boys during thunderstorms, and gave them a bounty of handouts at the dinner table (the Boys especially loved him for this).

A comprehensive reflection on Santo’s kind acts to friends is constrained by the limits of this text, but it is with a brief pause that all those reading can reflect on the gentle marks that Santo left on each one’s lives…

Santo was incredibly compassionate, sensitive, and loving to all who knew him. He never gave it a second thought when someone needed help at any hour, and never asked for anything in return. He guided countless patients and their families through health, healing, and unimaginable grief, and our only wish is that he could be here to guide us through this grief too.

Santo is survived by his loving and devoted wife of 31 years, Louise and his three children, Sebastiano, Andreanna Rosa and Cristofolo Santo. He is also survived by his parents, Sebastiano and Rosa Buccheri, a sister, Carmela Carpentieri and her husband Bill, brother-in-law Phil Neptin and his wife AnnMarie, sister-in-law Marianne Neptin, sister-in-law Rosemary (D’Amato) Neptin, sister-in-law Deborah Grahn and her husband Mark, and sister-in-law Catherine Neptin and her husband Bill Touhy. Santo was predeceased by his father-in-law Philip M. Neptin, brother-in-law Bill Neptin, and sister-in-law Clara Brown. He also leaves behind his aunts, uncles, nieces, nephews, grand-nephew, grand-nieces and many cousins and friends here in the U.S. and globally.

The Family of Dr. Santo Buccheri would like to express their heartfelt gratitude for the care provided by the nurses and medical and surgical staff at St. Francis Hospital and Medical Center.

In lieu of flowers, donations may be made in Santo’s memory to Holy Trinity Church, 53 Capitol Ave., Hartford, CT 06106, Fidelco Guide Dog Foundation, 103 Vision Way, Bloomfield, CT 06002, or FoodShare, 450 Woodland Ave., Bloomfield, CT 06002.

Private funeral services and burial have been entrusted to D’Esopo Funeral Chapel, 277 Folly Brook Blvd., Wethersfield. To share memories with the family, please visit www.desopofuneralchapel.com.

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Dr. Santo Buccheri

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Shari Romano

July 11, 2020

Santo was a very sweet & kind man who was a classmate of mine at South Catholic High School. He had a beautiful voice that resonated through the whole auditorium. We spent lots of time talking about his love for planes and dreams of being a pilot. I was so sorry to hear of his passing and send my condolences to his family, friends & patients. He was a Blessing to all who knew him. Rest in eternal peace! 😇

Clara O'Brien

July 11, 2020

My deepest condolences to the Buccheri family.
I met Dr. Buccheri (Dr. B.) about 6 years ago when he became the Medical Director of Salmon Brook where I was a nurse. We shared a lot in common and became good friends; love for German Shepherds, (mine had died 6 months earlier) Italian heritage, and the love and devotion to family. I admired him and he became a mentor. He was a kind, compassionate, sensitive and loving doctor. His face lit up and he had a big smile when talking about his family and their many accomplishments. His love and pride of his children was so evident. His “boys”, Gunnar and Tanner were always beside him, either leading the way or trailing behind with leashes dragging. They were his pride and joy. When I went to Italy, he shared his tips for my trip and I texted him pictures when I reached the destination he said was so special to see. He always asked about my family, the triplets, to see how they were doing in school or work. He truly cared about everyone. We texted each other for every holiday and somehow he was always first getting out the greeting. I will truly miss him!
Rest in peace, you will never be forgotten my dear friend, but very deeply missed. May God help his family find comfort in remembering and cherishing all the good times they shared together.
Clara O’Brien
Friend / Coworker


Kathy Whalen

July 10, 2020

Carmela, I was so sorry to hear of Santo’s passing, how heartbreaking. I remember when he got out of medical school and was going into his own practice years ago, got married and started his family. Although I only knew him through you, he sounded like an extraordinary man, MD to his patients, loving and devoted husband and father. It has been years since I have seen you but please know my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this time.

Joe LaRosa

July 9, 2020

I just learned that Dr. Bucchieri passed away, and am extremely disheartened. As a longtime patient of his I extend my deepest condolescences to his famly, staff, and "the
We have lost a wonderful doctor and an even better man with an innate care for all in his life.
BEST
Joe LaRosa

Maria Torres

July 8, 2020

Sorry for your loss, it was my loss too. He was my first doctor. I met him in the ER St. Francis Hospital and after treating me he give me his new card of his new office very proud. He was my doctor, my friend and my family and we share our Birth day December 20. I'm very proud of him and me and my family will miss him always. Now he is with his creator "God". I will miss you always.

Kathleen Falcon

July 8, 2020

I had the pleasure of working with Santo when he was a resident at St Francis Hospital. He was an amazing human being, and a kind and compassionate doctor. Always a gentleman to all of us nurses. He was so kind and understanding to his patients. My heart goes out to his family. The world has lost someone so very special. Rest In Peace dear Doctor
Kathy Falcon LPN

Shawn Paggioli

July 7, 2020

I’ve struggled with words to express my shock, grief and sympathy to Dr. B’s family and friends. I am still in disbelief that my dear friend of 25+years, my former colleague and PCP is gone. All of the memories I’ve read share a theme depicting a man who exemplified grace, love and service to others. He was an angel on earth. May we all aspire to the example Santo set for us in this life.

My Deepest condolences,
Shawn C. Paggioli

Lucy Capodicasa

July 7, 2020

To the Buccheri family I was so sad when your husband and father passed. He was such a wonderful man. He was my doctor for over 20 years and every time I went to his office he would take the time to listen and talk to you. Then when I was in rehab for my leg and he would come in with Tanner and Gunnar it made me feel so much better. He had so much to give for his patients and he cared for everyone of his patients. I could never find a better Doctor and human being. He will truly be missed by everyone that knew him.

Daniel Alexander

July 6, 2020

At Santo’s funeral service today, the mournful howls of distress from Tanner & Gunnar gave voice to the pain of loss in all of our hearts.
Santo died in the line of duty, serving his oath to humanity’s healthcare needs, even during a pandemic when his own health and life were at risk.
Over Santo’s many years of compassionate medical care, his family of patients ever expanded, from a young couple, to their children, and to their children, nieces and nephews.
All this because they trusted and loved Santo without reservation.

Sebastiana Ierna

July 6, 2020

How many happy memories I have of my dearest cousin Santo. how many happy memories I have of my dearest cousin Saint. Unfortunately I was in Europe and he was in America and distance kept us away.
His kindness, his humility, love for the family, his enormous kindness reminds me a lot of my beloved dad. Now both are in the highest heavens and guide us on our earthly journey. My husband and I, my mother and my in-laws join the pain of the family and we are very, very close with the affection that unites us and with our thoughts. My dear cousin Santo, that you can rest in peace and you can always be one of the brightest stars in the sky. We will love you forever.

FROM THE FAMILY