John "Diddy" M. Civitillo, Jr.

August 21, 1930September 25, 2020

John “Diddy” M. Civitillo, Jr., 90, of Wethersfield, passed away peacefully, with his family by his side on Friday, September 25th, 2020 at Hartford Hospital. He was the beloved husband of Lorraine (Cleary) Civitillo, with whom he shared 67 wonderful years of marriage. Born in Hartford on August 21, 1930, he was the son of the late John Mario, Sr. and Margaret (Proccacino) Civitillo. He was a graduate of Bulkeley High School, Class of 1949, where he played both Basketball and Baseball. Along with his brothers, he owned and operated Civitillo Masonry and was especially proud of the many buildings he constructed throughout the state. He was also a member of the Bricklayers Union Local 1. An avid golfer, John frequented the Wethersfield Country Club where he held a longtime membership and achieved 4 holes-in-one. Together with his wife, he summered at their beach home in Cornfield Pt., Old Saybrook and wintered in Jupiter, Florida. He was a fan of the New York Yankees and Giants, and enjoyed a good card game with his family and friends. John was extremely proud of his family; always sharing photos and pictures of them. He loved spending time with his entire family whenever possible and he looked forward to their Thursday and Sunday pasta dinners. Besides his wife Lorraine, John is survived by their five daughters, Joanne Gunn and husband Jim, Linda Miller and husband David, Cathy Capsolas and husband Peter, Christine Civitillo, Michele Teixeira and husband Jack, eight grandchildren, Matthew Gunn and wife Taylor, Christopher Gunn and wife Brienne, John Capsolas and wife Nicole, Allyson Ceus and husband Jude, Evan Gunn, Zachary Miller, Jack Teixeira and Jenna Miller and eight great grandchildren Enzo, Rocco and Rainee Capsolas, Audrey and Easton Gunn, Charlotte and Finley Gunn and Scarlett Ceus as well as numerous nieces, nephews and friends. He was predeceased by his brothers, Nicholas and Savino Civitillo. The family would like to extend a special thanks to Dr. Vichot for his compassionate care. In light of the current restrictions on large gatherings, a Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated privately. Burial will be in Cedar Hill Cemetery, Hartford. Family and friends are invited to attend a public, drive through visitation from 4 – 6 p.m. on Thursday (October 1st) at D’Esopo Funeral Chapel, 277 Folly Brook Blvd., Wethersfield. Everyone is asked to please remain in their vehicles at all times as they pass through. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made in John’s memory to the Kidney Foundation at, the Church of the Incarnation or to a charity of the donor’s choosing. To leave a message for the family, please visit


  • Public Drive Through Visitation

    Thursday, October 1, 2020


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Carol-Ann Neal

October 3, 2020

Lorraine, Brian and I are sorry to hear that "Diddy" passed. All of you have always been so nice to us. Brian learned how to play bocci from all three brothers. We have good memories.

Carol-Ann and Brian Neal

Joan Cornelio

October 3, 2020

Deer Lorraine and family:
A very difficult time of life. To lose a loved one is heartbreaking . We had many good times with our families both in Old Saybrook and Wethersfield. I cherish those times.
I am thinking of all of you.
Joan Cornelio

Jeanne LaBelle

October 2, 2020

Lorraine and family,
I’m deeply sorry to hear of your loss of John. May he rest in the peace of Christ. The entire Manning family sends their condolences.
Jeanne LaBelle (Manning)

Gerard "Jerry Jr." Proccacino

October 1, 2020

Lorraine and Family, My sincere condolences to you on the loss of "Diddy". God Bless You. ....I have fond memories of my older cousins "Diddy", "Callie" and "Sabu" making some time for me. It took me a while to learn their real names, John, Nick and Savino.
May John Jr. rest in Peace and God Bless Him.
Gerard "Jerry" Jr" Proccacino
Newport Beach, Ca

Janet West

September 30, 2020

Our deepest sympathy for your loss.
Eleanor West & family

Tara and Dr. Bernard Shapiro

September 29, 2020

Our sincerest sympathies to the family. Our deepest thoughts are
with you as you mourn the passing of your dear husband, father, grandfather and great-grandfather. John was a fine gentleman!
May he rest in peace!

Tara and Dr. Bernard Shapiro

Eugene Dessureau

September 29, 2020

I'm so sorry to hear of Diddy's passing. He was just one of the nicest guys to know and be with. He was an excellent athlete at Bulkeley High. My sincere condolences to Diddy's family.
Gene Dessureau ---BHS 1949

Maryellen Civitillo

September 29, 2020

Aunt Lorraine, Joanne, Linda, Cathy, Christine, Michelle,
I am so very sad to hear about Uncle Diddy. He always had a smile on his face and kind words for everyone. I will always remember the fun times I had with him and especially when playing cards one Sunday. I quickly learned his rules. “You had an ace and didn’t bid”!
Love to you all, Maryellen

Sharon Courneen

September 28, 2020

My deepest sympathy to you on the loss of such a wonderful and loving man, and great friend to my parents. I’m sure Marty is giving Diddy the lay of the land up in heaven. ❤️

Rosanna & Danny D’Aprile

September 27, 2020

Dear Mrs. Civitillo , Joanne, Linda, Cathy, Christine, Michele and families,

Our thoughts and prayers are with each of you at this difficult time and always. Your husband, dad and grandfather was always kind and a true gentleman; he will be missed by all.

Our deepest sympathy,
Rosanna, Danny, Lisa & Daniel D’Aprile
And Everyone at
D&D Market


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