Joseph A. D'Elia

May 18, 1930February 21, 2021

Joseph A. D’Elia, 90, of Wethersfield, beloved husband of Joyce (Scoppetto) D’Elia, passed away peacefully on Sunday, February 21, 2021 at St. Francis Hospital. Joe was born May 18, 1930 in Hartford, CT, the son of late Joseph and Margaret (Barrett) D’Elia. He graduated from Weaver High School in 1949. Joe and Joyce married on October 13, 1951. Joe was with the United States Air Force and in December 1951 was deployed to Japan and Korea. In May 1953 Joe was honorably discharged as a staff sergeant. Joe attended Hillyer College for technology. During his career he held several different jobs and in 1956 he joined IBM. Joe was a toast master on many occasions because of his stand-up ability and humor. He retired from IBM in 1991. In addition to his wife of 70 years, Joe is survived by son Stephen D’Elia and wife Susan of Colchester; brothers Carmine (Bud) D’Elia and wife Filomena of Scottsdale, AZ; and Robert D’Elia and Karen Kazmen of Vallejo, CA. He also leaves four grandchildren, Kareemah, Hassanah, Hassan and Stephanie D’Elia; eight great-children and many beloved nieces and nephews. Besides his parents he was predeceased by his daughter Gina D’Elia and sisters Mary Joan and Constance D’Elia. He was a wonderful husband, father, grandfather and friend who will be sadly missed by all. A Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated on Saturday, February 27, 2021 at 10 a.m. at Christ the King Parish (Corpus Christi Church) 601 Silas Deane Highway, Wethersfield. Everyone is asked to please meet directly at the church. Masks and social distancing guidelines will be followed. Military Honors will take place at the church following the Mass. Burial will be at a later date. Funeral arrangements have been entrusted to The D’Esopo Funeral Chapel, 277 Folly Brook Blvd., Wethersfield. The family would like to thank the staff at St. Francis Hospital for all of their care and compassion during this difficult time. In lieu of flowers, Joe’s favorite charity was the Wounded Warriors Project, P.O. Box 758516, Topeka, KS. 66675-8516. For online expressions of sympathy to the family, please visit


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Walt Stachura

March 4, 2021

I always enjoyed being in Joe's presence. With his wit and sense of humor one never knew what gem might escape his lips. I feel privileged to have known him.

Walt Stachura

Denny Kerin

February 28, 2021

Joe, I salute you for your deep devotion to your family.
Thank you for bailing me out of a difficult bug at 2 am,
for taking the tough meetings, for nurturing your
colleagues, your moral leadership, and making me laugh.
I won’t forget you. Thanks for the memories.
Time to say “Well done”. Denny

Charlie Gilman

February 28, 2021

Joe hired me to IBM and was a great supporter thru the early years of my employment. Joe was a great friend and mentor. He will be missed.

Donna King

February 28, 2021

Dear Joyce, my sympathies to you and your loved ones on the loss of your husband. I send up prayers of comfort to you and may Joe rest in peace.

John Joy

February 27, 2021

Dear Joyce, Sincere condolences. Remember Joe and his jokes and stories so well. I can recall a few that stuck with me, but when I repeated them, they were never as funny as Joe told them. Always lots of laughs at IBM parties , and after softball games between CE's and Admin. Look back back fondly when you, Joe and Connie stopped by 3 or 4 yrs ago to say hello. Stay well.
Fondly, John & Gerry Joy

Robert D'Elia

February 27, 2021

Everyone who knew Joey loved him. He was the leader of our pack. He was my hero—my big brother.
I'll always remember those Saturday nights watching Jacky Gleason together, the Sunday macaroni and meatball dinners with Mom and Dad, and those great summer trips to Hammonasset Beach. I love Joey dearly and will miss him always, until we're all back together again.
To my dear big sister, Joyce, I love you and I'll always be here for you.

Mike Sutton

February 25, 2021

Joe was one of my true heroes. As my manager, he helped me immensely when I was an IBM Customer Engineer. Joe always provided great advice on issues I had outside of work as well.

I had the good fortune to speak to Joe last year. I called to ask permission to use his name for one of the major characters in my next book. He very graciously agreed. My great regret is that I couldn't get a copy to him before he passed. Joyce will get the first copy off the presses.

Rest in Peace, Joe. You will always be in my heart, sir.

Vincent Mazzotta

February 25, 2021

I meet Joe at IBM in 1967, he was a Great Manager and a Good Man!! Rest in Peace.....

Richard Hamel

February 25, 2021

Joe will certainly be sadly missed by all who knew him. I have fond memories, as a kid, hearing his booming voice followed by laughter of all who were around him. My Dad, can't tell a story about Joe without laughing out loud. My Mom can't tell a story about Joe without shedding a tear regarding his love of family.

Judith Norris

February 25, 2021

I am so sorry for your loss.

I worked at IBM in Hartford CT and knew "Joe". He was a true gentleman...always had a smile and an uplifting funny story.

I remember the day when the team was struggling with a problem and most of the IBM "nerds" were suggesting complicated technical solutions...not JOE!.... he said..."Does anyone have paper and a pencil?" PERFECT!