D'Esopo Funeral Chapel

277 Folly Brook Boulevard, Wethersfield, CT


Ralph "Scott" Whinnem

December 12, 1938September 3, 2019

Ralph “Scott” Whinnem, 80, of Wethersfield, beloved husband for 30 years of Carolyn (Brooder) Whinnem, passed away peacefully on Tuesday, September 3, 2019. Born in Wethersfield on December 12, 1938, he was the son of the late Ralph and Beret (Jenssen) Whinnem and had lived in Wethersfield all of his life. He was the longtime owner of Scott’s Music Center in Wethersfield, where countless kids were given the gift of music through instrument rentals and lessons. Scott was a member of NABIRT (National Association of Band Instrument Repair Technicians). He enjoyed cooking and loved spending time with family and friends at his Bashan Lake house. Scott was a master of all trades and a longtime fan of the Hartford Whalers. A loving husband, father and grandfather, Scott will be forever missed by his devoted wife Carolyn; three sons, Robert Whinnem and wife Sandra of Newington, Reade Whinnem and wife Beth of Marion, MA and Ryan Whinnem and wife Eli of St. Paul, MN; two step-daughters, Rebecca Fachner and husband Craig Sorvillo of Washington, DC and Rachel Sample of Portland, OR and six adored grandchildren. He is also survived by his brother, Ronald Whinnem and wife Mary of Holiston, MA; his niece, Jen Gerber and husband Ben and nephew, Russ Whinnem. Special thanks to the nurses and staff at Newington Rapid Recovery.

Funeral Service will be Saturday (September 7) at 9 a.m. at the D’Esopo Funeral Chapel, 277 Folly Brook Boulevard, Wethersfield. Burial will be private at the convenience of the family. Relatives and friends may call on Friday from 5-8 p.m. at the funeral chapel. Donations in Scott’s memory may be made to the American Parkinson Disease Association, P.O. Box 248, Shelton, CT 06484. To share a memory of Scott with his family, please visit www.desopofuneralchapel.com.


  • Public Visitation Friday, September 6, 2019
  • Funeral Service Saturday, September 7, 2019


Ralph "Scott" Whinnem

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Lorraine Casanelli

September 5, 2019

Scott will be remembered by my family as a well-loved neighbor and friend whose sense of humor was surpassed only by his selflessness. He helped create some fond memories, when all our children were little, square dancing with several couples who would wind up afterwards at Friendly's for ice cream, to replace all those calories we had just burned off! Scott, you were a good man who is going to be sorely missed by many.

I wish I could be there for the service, but I am sending my love and sympathy from Texas to his sons, who will always be "the boys" to me.

Eric Bostelman

September 4, 2019

Such great memories of backyard BBQ memories at Bashan Lake with the Bostelman family...Scott was always vibrant in our conversations of music...such a great friend n summer neighbor to my brother Bob and his wife Suzanne and family... RIP Scott

Deb Stockburger

September 4, 2019

Our hearts, thoughts and prayers are with the Whinnem family during this sad and difficult time of losing Scott. There are so many memories of the summers spent at Bashan Lake, ie, the laughter, bonfires, swimming at the lake, cookouts and friendships lasting a lifetime. Scott will be greatly missed by so many lives he touched.

May you hold your memories close to your hearts. Sharing this Irish blessing.

May the road rise up to meet you,
May the wind always be at your back.
May the sunshine warm your face
May the rain fall soft upon your fields.
Until we meet again, may God hold you in the palm of of His hand.

Sending lots of love and prayers to you all.

Deb Stockburger and Suzanne Bostelman