Thomas J. Tobin
November 28, 1953 – June 22, 2019
Thomas J. Tobin passed away on June 22, 2019 at his home in Whiting, NJ. Thomas was born in Staten Island, NY and was a New York resident until moving to Whiting four years ago. Thomas was employed by the New York City Police Department for 18 years before retiring as a Detective in 2000. His hobbies included but not limited to fishing, going to the beach and photography.
Thomas is survived by his mother, Jacqueline; his wife Jeanne of 44 years; a daughter Ann & her husband Sean Jennings; a son Thomas Tobin and his wife Eileen; two grandchildren Matthew Jennings and Kaitlyn Jennings; brothers Timothy, John, Michael, James and Dennis Tobin; and sisters Elizabeth Sosa and Jacqueline Byrd.
Visitation will be held on Thursday, June 27, 2019 from 4-8pm at Anderson & Campbell Funeral Home, 115 Lacey Road, Whiting, NJ. A Mass will be held on Friday, June 28, 2019 at 9:00am at The All Saints Chapel at St. Elizabeth Ann Seton R.C. Church. In lieu of flowers the family requests donations may be sent to R.S.D.S.A at www.rsds.org.
- Visitation Thursday, June 27, 2019
- Funeral Liturgy Friday, June 28, 2019
Thomas J. Tobin
June 26, 2019
My sincerest condolences to the Tobin family.
I'll always treasure the memories shared working with Tommy in the 120 precinct. Although separated by many miles in our later years our friendship continued and we kept in touch almost daily. Tommy was a trusted, good friend who I miss tremendously. My heart is broken.
I admired Tommy both as a police officer and as a man of integrity, honesty and loyalty. A true friend. He was a man of strength dealing with adversity. To honor Tommy is to try to live like Tommy.
What comforts us is knowing that he is now experiencing the great joy and wonder of Heaven. Revelations 21:4 promises, “He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.” This is our belief.
Again, my heartfelt condolences to you Jeanne and thank you for caring for Tommy while he was with us. He referred to you as his Saint and that you are. My prayers to you and the Tobin family. God bless.
June 26, 2019
My mom Jacquie and I had a wonderful visit with Tom and Jeanne in N.J., 2 weeks ago. Tom was in great spirits. He was funny, happy, full of great stories of growing up on Staten Island in the 50's and 60's, the Jones cousins, going to movies with Bin, St. Peter's HS, Annie and Tommy aka Bubba growing up, painting houses, working at NYPD in the 80's and 90's, etc.
Tom's heart was full with the satisfaction of living a good and purposeful life. The NYPD motto for fallen officers is 'Fidelis Ad Mortem' --- Faithful Unto Death. No old copper ever earned that description more than Tom.
I love my brother Tom. I'm glad I got to tell him he was always my hero. He brushed it aside with his usual modesty. I hope he knows I meant it with a full heart. My wife Cindy says don't worry, he heard you...and he hears you.
My heart is broke now, but as Tom's old NYPD partner Big Jim Marion said it is selfish for us to feel this way. Tom is whole and complete now, free of the pain that has troubled him the past 20 years. He' s gone home and is hanging with Dad, Bin, and all the loved ones who have passed. I have no doubt at some point Tom will corner Coach Lombardi for a thorough analysis of the Packer Sweep... and Coach had better bring his A game!
One of the last texts I got from Tom was about his plans to walk across N.J. for RSD awareness. This text was followed by another that said "It's early days, mate." Cambridge.org tells me this phrase from the U.K. means "It's too early to to tell how things are going to work out." This is true for all of us, of course. Enjoy every sandwich.
Tom mentioned one of his favorite songs is "Itchycoo Park." I'm not sure why he loved that song. Maybe it was the line about "resting my eyes in shades of green."
When you're done reading this, crank up "Itchycoo Park" in honor of Thomas J. Tobin. The best of the Finest....and one of the finest human beings we're all ever likely to know.
" It's all too beautiful..."
June 24, 2019
So sorry to hear about Tommy’s passing. We worked together in the 120 and I’ll always remember his great sense of humor and all the pranks he played on people over the years. Was glad I got to know him.