Thomas John Allen

July 17, 1941June 4, 2021
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Thomas John Allen, age 79, passed away on June 4, 2021. He was born July 17, 1941 to James and Emma (Dempski) Allen in Natalie, Pennsylvania. Thomas was a devoted husband, father, brother, grandfather, great grandfather and friend who will be missed by many.

Thomas became an Eagle Scout in 1956 and was an "Order of the Arrow". He graduated from Mt. Carmel Joint Senior High School in 1959. After High School he joined the U.S Air Force and was sent to McConnell AFB. While stationed there, he met the girl of his dreams, Nancy Gilstrap; they had 4 daughters.

He served 20 years on the Wichita Police Dept. with the rank as a Police Examiner. Thomas was a 4th degree of the Knights of Columbus and was appointed Captain of the 3rd degree team.

Thomas was a member of the VFW, American Legion Post #3115, Kansas Police Officers Assoc., and a member at Christ The King Catholic Church where he was a Lecture and an Usher. He was an avid Wichita State Shocker fan as well as a huge Kansas City Chiefs football fan.

He was preceded in death by his parents; brother, Fred Allen; and grandson, Jacob Farley. Thomas is survived by his wife of 60 years, Nancy Allen; daughters, Carrie Seyam, Kelly (Mark) Jordan, Kris (Jaime) Rodriguez and Carla Farley; brother, Jim (Marge) Allen; sister, Kathy (Terry) Dietz; 10 grandkids; and 17 great grandkids.

Tom and his family would like to give a special thanks to Heartland Hospice; especially to his Hospice Nurse, Amy Degenhardt.

In lieu of flowers, memorials in Tom's memory can be made to St. Jude Children's Research Hospital, 262 Danny Thomas Place, Memphis, TN 38105 And/Or Heartland Hospice, 2872 N. Ridge Rd #122, Wichita, KS 67205.

Visitation will be from 5:00PM to 7:00PM, Monday, June 7, 2021 with Funeral service 10:00AM, Tuesday, June 8, 2021, both at Resthaven Mortuary, 11800 W. Highway 54, Wichita, KS 67209.

Tom's Funeral and Committal service will be livestreamed from Resthaven Mortuary & Resthaven Gardens of Memory Facebook page at


  • Ahmad Seyam
  • Yusef Seyam
  • Douglas Gibson
  • Jaxson Penner
  • Eric Jordan
  • Kassem Awadi
  • Jacob Farley, Honorary Pallbearer


  • Visitation

    Monday, June 7, 2021

  • Funeral Service

    Tuesday, June 8, 2021



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Diana Skocypec

June 8, 2021

To the Allen Family,
My dad, Joseph Dempskie was Emma Allen's oldest brother.
I remember reconnecting with Tom at Stella and Michael Causey's wedding.
When I was a little girl visiting from NJ in PA, we usually stopped by to visit Aunt Emma. I remember playing on a lawn in front of the house.
My sister, Barbara, 12 years older than me, remembered more but she passed away in May of 2020.
With sincere condolences,
Diana Dempskie Skocypec

JoAnne Kruschke Smith

June 8, 2021

Nancy, Carrie, Kelly, Kris, Carla and families,
I have many memories of hanging out with your family and Tom over the years. My thoughts and prayers are with you all at this time.
JoAnne Kruschke Smith

Stella Dempski-Causey

June 8, 2021

Dear Nancy, Kathleen, Jim and Family,
For those who don't me I was first cousin's with Tom. His Mom and my Dad, Louis Dempski were sister and brother. First I'd like to speak for my Dad. My Dad saw Tom like a son rather than a nephew. My father was so honored when Tom and Nancy flew out and came to visit him and you took him to see the Statue of Liberty. My father honored him with a knife he got in WWII. I hope you will not sell it. It is a family heirloom. Tom flew out for my Dad's viewing and funeral services that meant a great deal to my Mom and I. What meant even more was when he came for my Mom's 4 years later. I have some nice memories of when Kathleen and Tom came out for Amy's first wedding and when he and Nancy flew out for for my wedding. All these trips and visits told not only cared about his nuclear family, but his extended family as well. In the last couple years I enjoyed speaking on the phone on occasion.
My sincere sympathy on your losses. I wish I could have represented my father and myself at the services, but due to severe health conditions I can not travel alone. If someone could please e-mail Kathy's address, phone, and email I would appreciate it.

Stella Dempski Causey
220 Grandview Circle
Columbia, SC 29229
PH 803-699-8006

Michele Cox

June 8, 2021

Kelly and family - I am so sorry for your loss. I know it was a long struggle and that your dad can rest now. I will always remember your dad's wonderful sense of humor when he was working as a CSO at the federal courthouse. He always could make you smile. He made it a joy to walk into work each day. He was a wonderful man and will be missed!

Max Patrick

June 7, 2021

Nancy & Family:
So SORRY for Your LOSS... I've known You/ALL Your Gilstrap Family, for a Very Long Time, and consider each one of You, as part of My Family!!! I met Tom, when You'all were Dating, and later Married, etc. May he Rest In Peace, FOREVER....Celebrate, and Give Thanks, for the 60 Years, you had Together, Your Beautiful Girls, Grand Kids, and Great Grand Kids...

Linda Jobe

June 6, 2021

Dear Nancy and Family, I was so sorry to hear about Tom. I have so many good memories of all the cards we played, bowling tournaments we went to, Friday nights at Barney's and time spent with you and Tom. I let Grace Smith know about Tom. I pray that God will wrap you and your family in His peace. Hugs and Love, Linda

Jennifer Fullhart

June 5, 2021

I met Tom and Nancy when at the time Jake Farley, their grandson was 14. A very wonderful and kind family. My thoughts and prayers are with you all, my deepest condolences. My heart hurts for all of you. Rest In PeaceTom. Give Jake a hug for me. 😢😢.