Nelsen Williamsburg


Catherine Patricia Heaston

March 26, 1950November 12, 2021
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Catherine “Cathy” Patricia Heaston, age 71, of Williamsburg, Virginia passed away on Friday, November 12, 2021. Born March 26, 1950 to George and Louise Spisak of East Chicago, Cathy was the second-eldest of eight sisters, MaryAnn, Elizabeth, Barbara, Louise, Dolores, Patty, and Christine.

Cathy is survived by Steven Heaston, her husband of 43 years, and her two children, Kristina Whitley (David) and Jeremy Heaston (Rebecca). She is also survived by six of her sisters, numerous nieces and nephews, and cousins. Family meant everything to Cathy.

Military lifestyle meant frequent moves, which meant numerous deployments across the United States and Germany for Cathy and her family. While the moves were difficult, she formed many friendships that endure to this day. It gave Cathy immense amounts of joy remaining connected with those lifelong friends and making them part of her extended family.

Cathy contributed significantly to the quality of life for service personnel by being a lead for the Village Hostess program in Grafenwoehr, Germany, providing for the welfare and emotional support of young families in very remote areas. Although the family was far from home, we traveled throughout Europe, and yes, she loved to shop in every country she visited. In addition to volunteering her time, she also worked for years at the Army Education Centers. While supporting the soldiers’ educational goals, she also pursued her own education, graduating with a Bachelor of Science Degree in Management. At Fort Eustis, Virginia, she received recognition for outstanding service in the Deployment Modernization Office and was a key staff member in planning practice exercises for overseas deployments. Her final work was as a data analyst at the Defense Supply Center Richmond. OEM representatives from Rolls Royse, Pratt and Whitney, and GE all knew Cathy. We used to joke that we had jet engines on pallets in the back yard.

Upon retirement, Cathy focused on strengthening connections with and caring for friends and family. Much of her time was spent with her two grandchildren, Charlee and Kai, and on helping prepare for her third grandchild, expected in January. Her boundless compassion extended to her pets and grand-pets, for whom she made sure that they were given the love, attention, and more-than-occasional treat she felt they deserved.

Those who knew Cathy knew her to be more than the avid fisherwoman or pickleball enthusiast. She was audaciously funny, selfless, and profoundly loving to those around her. While outwardly she focused so much of her attention on others, she was also quietly dynamic - the more you got to know her, the more you uncovered beautiful layers to her personality and the more you saw her working diligently on her personal growth. One of Cathy’s best traits was to never have any regrets of leaving words left unsaid. She always made sure, before you parted ways, to give you a big hug and tell you that she loved you. Her warmth and positive energy will persist with us always.

Visitation for Cathy will be held Tuesday, November 30, 2021 from 10:00 AM to 12:00 PM at Nelsen Funeral Home, 3785 Strawberry Plains Rd., Williamsburg, Virginia 23188, followed by a service at 1:00 PM. Fond memories and expressions of sympathy may be shared at for the Heaston family.

In lieu of flowers, please consider a donation in Cathy’s name to the ASPCA:

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Paula Schrader

November 30, 2021

I, along with all who knew her, are deeply disturbed and saddened by Cathy's death.
In my mind, Cathy was the prime example for sure of how a person should live life to the fullest.
Many words can describe Cathy; loving, kind, generous, funny, happy, truthful, helpful, intense, determined, supportive and strong.
I remember most Cathy's love of baking and gardening.
Everyone who had the opportunity to know Cathy, will forever be instilled with her love she shared.
Cathy will forever shine her light on us.
Cathy remains in the hearts of all who knew her and all those who will hear about her and how wonderful she truly was.
Love and miss you, dear Cathy.

Ginny Spangler

November 29, 2021

Cathy's smile, when I first met her at the dance studio, warmed my heart. She seemed to just light up the entire room. I was one of the many who was
privileged to have met her.
Heartfelt sympathy to Steve and family.

Gloria Sciole

November 27, 2021

I have been asking myself just how do I express the loss of such a beautiful lady, with a beautiful smile and such a beautiful heart. I, as many, find her passing unbelievable, incomprehensible. Cathy, so loved by everyone that had come to know her, find it so difficult to accept. I met Cathy and Steve some fourteen years ago at a ballroom dance studio. There were eight of us that always seemed to be sitting at the same table and we jelled for sure. Thus, began The Gang. We took turns sharing meals at each other's home, watching movies, gathering for Cinco de Mayo festivities, Memorial Day, 4th of July, Labor Day, Christmas and New Year's Eve just talking, laughing and enjoying each other's company along with good food. Cathy was never without her cell phone and made sure that we were all kept abreast of Jeremy, Kristie and the grandchildren, Charlee and Kai. Rest in peace Cathy as you will always, always be loved and remain in our hearts. Sincere condolences to Steve, children and the grandchildren.

Bern & Judy Smith

November 24, 2021

Several years ago we met Cathy at a Ballroom Dance Studio, as well as her group known as "The Gang". Either because of our magnetic personalities or they just felt sorry for us, we were soon included in the Gang's activities -- celebrating birthdays, holidays or just a get together party to enjoy each other's company.

Thinking back on the years we have known Cathy, we cherish the conversations we had with her about family, friends and her grandchildren, whom she adored. Her place to find peace and solace was spending time with her dear friends, Steve and Fran Kolete, fishing on their dock most Sundays. An integral part of our conversations, generally held at the dance studio, the dock or around the table, included Cathy's cell phone photos featuring pictures of friends, family, grandchildren or the last big fish she had caught.

We are very fortunate to have had Cathy as a dear friend. Her infectious smile and vibrant personality lit up a room and made everyone who met her feel special. To have lost a good friend in such an unexpected way has been very difficult, but we know she wouldn't want anyone to be sad. She had so many big plans and so many more years to live out her dreams.

We would like to extend our deepest sympathy to her family.

RIP, Cathy.

Sallie Schultz

November 24, 2021

Karl and I want to send our condolences to Steve and the family.
I got to know Cathy well when she started working out at the gym. Her smile and personality truly shined during that time. Our gym group were sorry to see her have to stop joining us for exercise due to a foot injury.
Cathy surely kept herself busy with the kiddos. She enjoyed that special time.
To Steve and the family, we are truly sorry for your loss.
Sallie and Karl Schultz.

Fran Kolet

November 24, 2021

How can you put your feelings about your best friend in a paragraph? I met Cathy when I met my husband, Steve. There was a group of eight close friends who had dinners, went to ballroom dances and events. I was lucky enough to be included and Cathy and I became best friends. We both went to the "Y" and had a great time in water aerobics and exercising. We have a home on the James River and Cathy came over almost every Sunday to fish and sit on the dock. We were always talking, texting and laughing. Her smile lit up her whole face. She took incredible pictures, especially of her family. Family was everything to Cathy, including old friends. Cathy always brought food, she was an incredible cook! Cathy frequently bought different foods for us to try. We will especially miss her pancit and flan. We met for shopping, lunches and just visiting. We shared books and movies. Cathy always showed her emotions, and let you know how much you meant to her. I have many cards and gifts from Cathy that I treasure. Our lives will be changed forever without her.

Steve Kolet

November 24, 2021

I met Cathy shortly after moving to the area in 2006. After I moved to Williamsburg in 2009 I found Cathy and Steve lived a few miles from my house and we started to have potluck dinners with a circle of friends. The dinners were great fun with lots of laughs and sometimes a movie with dessert. After moving to Smithfield, Cathy, Fran and I spent a lot of time sitting on our dock in Smithfield fishing and talking. I became the brother she never had...and sometimes wished she never had after I pranked her. I am so saddened that I no longer can see her smile and hear her laugh.

Diana Heaston Bittrick

November 21, 2021

Steve is my first cousin. In 2018, I took two of my grandchildren to Williamsburg for their 10 year old trip. My rental car did not come through so Steve chauffeured us around. First stop, their house for supper. Cathy was such a warm hostess. Spent a wonderful evening visiting and playing with her dogs. She tried to take the kids fishing another day, but when we got to the pier, the wind was blowing so hard I was afraid the kids would be blown in the water. Wonderful visit. So sad for her grandchild that her life was cut so short.

Tom & Gloria Franko

November 20, 2021

To Steve, Christie, Jeremy.. we want to extend our deepest sympathy at this saddest of times.
The friendship that evolved w/ Cathy recently, will forever be engraved in our hearts…
May God embrace Cathy in His arms & hold her precious family
close to Him.
Sincerely, Tom & Gloria Franko

LaVerne Charity

November 18, 2021

To the Heaston Family,
Such a sad day to see a beautiful person leave us. She will be missed and remembered by so many. I worked with Cathy at DSCR and retired the same year. She was such a sweet person and a joy to be around. Her smile always brightened up our office. Rest In Peace and Heaven. Gone but never forgotten. Prayers of comfort for this beautiful family. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽