Nelsen Williamsburg

3785 Strawberry Plains Rd., Williamsburg, VA


Kirsten Marie Bender

December 20, 1969July 25, 2020

Kirsten Marie Bender, 50, of Williamsburg, Virginia passed away July 25th, 2020. She was preceded in death by her paternal grandparents, Herman and Nellie Bender; and maternal grandparents, Henry and Peg Recchia. She is survived by her parents, Robert and Carol (Recchia) Bender; sister, Lisa Kincaid and brother-in-law, Ron Kincaid; nieces and nephew, Chelsea and Anna Yanc, and Bailey Kincaid.

She was a member of The Arc and St. Bede Catholic Church, as well as active with Colonial Behavioral Health. Kirsten’s hobbies were arts and crafts, singing with peers, dancing to Michael Jackson tunes, and family gatherings. She was also an avid football fan of the Redskins.

The Bender’s wish to thank all who touched Kirsten’s life. Kirsten’s smile and winning personality brought out the best in all she came into contact. She will be missed by many. May her life be a blessing.

A visitation will be held from 6-8pm on Wednesday, August 5th at Nelsen Funeral Home Williamsburg, with a service to follow at 8pm. In lieu of flowers, please send donations to a charity of your choice.



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Helen Nixon

August 2, 2020

So very sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with family and friends.

Doug, Irma and Jason Rohde

July 31, 2020

We are so saddened by this news. Kirsten was such a sweetheart. So warm and friendly from the first time we met her years ago through the Arc. Our loss is certainly God’s gain. Our prayers go out to her family and her many friends. God bless you Kirsten. We will truly miss you.


July 31, 2020

As a memory of my aunt i'm wearing a Mickey Mouse shrit to work my aunt was obsessed with Mickey mouse so I just want to bring a little spirit on how much I miss my Aunt Kirsten. And that she ment the world to me

Anna Yanc

July 31, 2020

A memory of my aunt my aunt and I would laugh at jokes together we also would watch bring it on the movie over and over again and my aunt would have a ruler in her hand and jam out to music I would call her happy feet because she would always watch the movie happy feet and then pretend that she is Michael Jackson and then she would call my dad princess and hot dog and tuna fish she would always say that she wanted a Bud Light I would buy her Mickey Mouse items and crowns so she can look like a princess she knew I was in pageants so I got her a crown so she can be like me she was always excited to come to my houes and vist one time I took her blowing I will cherish this memory for ever

Janet Mejias

July 31, 2020

Well, I want everyone to know Kirsten often called my name out to others and I became popular throughout Williamsburg. I only knew this because her mom told me. LOL!! I probably had some idea about one thing she might have said. Sometimes when she was seated beside me, Kirsten would gesture using her index finger, to a person we knew, to come near because she had something to say. Then point towards me and say, “Janet drinks Champagne!” smile and laugh loudly. I would say, “You talking about me? In front of my face.” Then Kirsten would say, “Yes!” I would tell her, “Girl! I don’t like Champagne but a good whiskey is fine with me. Well, you like beer how about that!” Then we would laugh so loud and hard.
I got to see Kirsten in her work and home environment. What a diligent and helpful lady she was. I often had to tell her to let others do their own jobs and duties. She would say, “Okay”, stop and then return to helping them again because she couldn’t help it and frankly because she loved doing so. I will miss her so much. Kirsten touched my life in so many ways and I made sure she knew. Kirsten was a fine example of love and courage.

Jackie Greenhow

July 30, 2020

She was my friend and always treated me like a friend. I will keep her family in my prayers. Rest in the arms of Jesus until we met again my friend

Erica Lee

July 30, 2020

Her. Was. Good. People. in. The. Arc and just. os. Sweet heart. to all. For. In. Are. we will. Go. To miss. Her. In. The. Arc. We. Love. her. Her. Was. Away. having a great time with. Love. Forme. Erica

Linda Snyder

July 28, 2020

My niece, Kirsten had a wonderful full life. My best memory of her was her full out joy dancing the Macarena at a family wedding. She loved music and dancing, participated in many social and sports activities, and had many jobs in the community. She defied all the odds and lived a fulfilling life with her group home family and advocates. We will miss her sweet grin. Rock on in heaven, Kirsten.

Shala Roach

July 28, 2020

I am so honored to have known Kirsten! She was the kindest, most determined and joyful souls I have ever know. Through all her medical struggles She would never allow anyone to know she was in pain however was so empathetic to others she would cry at the thought of her friends being sad or hurt. She will be greatly missed and always remembered as my “turkey/princess” girl. Somewhere I hope she is enjoying a cold bud light or glass or champagne 😊😊❤️

Lauren Schenck

July 27, 2020

Sending prayers and thoughts this beautiful family and even though I never met her I know her niece who is my best friend and who is a angel and strong passionate positive women she would be proud. 🙏🏻😔❤️


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