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Robert Lewis Rubenstein

June 30, 1942October 13, 2020

Robert Lewis Rubenstein of Williamsburg, VA (formerly of Falls Church VA, Matawan NJ and Perth Amboy, NJ) passed away on Tuesday, October 13, 2020 at the age of 78.

He was preceded in death by his wife Leah of 52 years. He leaves behind his son Adam Rubenstein (Robin) of Williamsburg, VA, daughter Lisa Gerstenfeld (Philip) of Dallas, TX, daughter Allison Rome (Bryan) of Reston, VA, loving grandchildren – Seth and Saul Gerstenfeld, Hallie and Brad Rubenstein, and Elyssa and Jack Rome, and brother Dr. Carl Rubenstein (Debby) of Oklahoma City, OK, as well as numerous nieces and nephews who meant the world to him. He took immense pride in the accomplishments of his children and grandchildren, as well as celebrated his friends and other family members’ accomplishments.

Robert received his undergraduate degree from University of Pennsylvania and an MBA from Rutgers University. He worked as a CPA before transitioning into the field of Law Firm Administration. He served as director of administration for many law firms in Washington DC – most notably Sidley Austin, where he served as Director of Administration of the Washington office for over 20 years before retiring to Williamsburg, VA. He was a long-time member of AICPA, serving in leadership roles for the NJ chapter as well as remaining active on national committees. He was an active member of Temple Rodef Shalom in Falls Church, VA where he served on the board, was band booster president for McLean High School, served on the board for Lawyers Have Heart, and was active in the Law Firm Administrators organization. In retirement he served for a number of years as an adjunct professor in the Law School at the College of William & Mary. During retirement he enjoyed spending time with his friends and family, traveling, attending Christopher Wren classes, listening to the Williamsburg and Virginia Symphonies, volunteering at Riverside Doctors Hospital, mentoring and hosting students through the Reves Center for International Studies at William & Mary, and volunteering at the Information Desk at the Colonial Williamsburg Visitors Center. He will be missed by all who knew him.

A memorial service will be held at a later time due to the current pandemic. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made in Robert’s memory to Riverside Hospital Foundation (Riverside Doctors Hospital Make a Difference fund or Dr. Mark Ellis Cancer Care Endowment Fund), Pancreatic Cancer Action Network, or The Glass Ribbon Project.


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Robin & John Howe

October 17, 2020

We are devastated at the loss of Rob. What a wonderful man. A true mench. We send our very deepest condolences to his loving family.
Robin and John Howe

Katie Shafer Rivers

October 16, 2020

Dear Rubenstein Family,
I spent a good amount of time with your family over the years. Your dad was always a gentle man full of wisdom and dad jokes. I remember him fondly. I am so sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts.


David Biondi

October 16, 2020

Rob and I went through treatment together and I was lucky to have met him. He treated everyone around him with kindness and caring. Our chats helped me through some difficult times and I will miss him.

Ronald Shafer

October 16, 2020

My wife, Mary Rogers, and I send our condolences to the Rubensein family. Robert and Leah were like second parents to my daughter, Katie Shafer Rivers, when she was growing up in McLean with her friends Lisa and Allison. He had a great and giving life.

Sharron Lamkin

October 16, 2020

Dear Rubenstein family,

We are so sorry to hear of the death of Rob. Praying for your family to be comforted at this difficult time. We are Nottingham neighbors just outside the gate.
Wayne and Sharron Lamkin

Paul Marcus

October 15, 2020

I was so very sorry to learn of Rob's passing. Such a fine person.

Paul Marcus

Margaret loscalzo

October 15, 2020

Dear Adam, Allison and Lisa and the rest of the Rubenstein family

Bill and I were so very saddened to learn of your Dad's death.
I will never forget what an instrumental role Rob played in my starting my business. He was a great support in my early career, as I know he and Leah were with W & M international students.
We had many wonderful times with you all at the NJSCPA conventions, especially the Southwest ones.
May he rest in peace as he reunites with Leah.

Marge and Bill Loscalzo

Martha Gerstein

October 14, 2020

Rob and Leah were great friends and neighbors during the years we lived on Truman Lane. I missed them when they moved to Williamsburg, and I miss them all these years later. May their memory be for a blessing. With much love to their family from the Gerstein family.


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