OBITUARY

Lillian Ilene (Peltier) (nee Scott) Parker

July 15, 1918November 7, 2020

Lillian’s family are profoundly saddened to announce her peaceful passing at home on Nov.7,2020, aged 102.

She is survived by her loving daughters Maureen Fleury (Coquitlam B.C.) and Sheila Parker (Windsor). The death of their beloved “Mama Lil” will also leave a deep and lasting void in the lives of her 3 grandsons: Brendan Jonathan and Shawn Fleury. Lillian is also survived by her sister in-law Helen Cooke,1st cousin James Oates (Essex) and her dear friend and 1st cousin Nancy Dickinson (Northumberland England), with whom their lengthy conversations each Sunday was one of the highlights of her week. She was also the cherished aunt to many nieces and nephews in Canada and the United Kingdom. Lillian is predeceased by her husbands: Flying Officer J. Orval Peltier (1944) AND Joseph Parker (2004).

Although she and Joe attended the same secondary school and knew each other casually, it was not until after WW 2 that they were reacquainted, got married and began to raise their family. She was born July 15, 1918 to William (d 1936) and Katherine (Ogle) Scott (d.1990) at Welton Farm in Northumberland England. Almost immediately following the WW1 armistice, Lillian and her mother sailed on one of the first vessels that permitted a limited number of civilians to accompany the Canadian soldiers returning from the battlefields of Europe. They arrived in Canada on Dec.1 1918 and travelled by train to Windsor to be reunited with her father, who due to his war wounds, had been repatriated earlier. The family quickly expanded with the birth of her beloved brother James (d.2005) and the immigration of her grandparents, Thomas and Jane Ogle, who settled in the family home. Her aunts and uncles, (James and Janet Caldwell and John and Margaret Oats and their family), who came to reside in the Windsor area, were also a major influence on her life. The strong bonds between the three families, the kindness, care and concerns shown between them, and the varying types of support that they gave each other, helped them weather the difficulties of the Great Depression and the turbulent years of WWII. It was this older generation that was instrumental in shaping Lillian’s character and, through their words and actions, they demonstrated the values that she came to cherish and espouse throughout her life. In turn, she has tried to pass them on to her own family in the same manner. With her graduation from high school and the death of her father a few months later, Lillian took her first job to help support the family. This precluded the chance of formally continuing her education. However, her inquisitive mind and thirst for knowledge led her to adopt a less formal way to further her education. She was an avid reader and this combined with an exceptional memory, allowed her to retain much of what she had read. Over the years, she developed a vast reservoir of knowledge, especially in the fields of history, geography, literature, politics, and music. The people who knew her were astounded at her ability to recall people, places and events at a local, national, and international level. She retained this capacity until her death.

Lillian’s outgoing personality, zest for life, sense of humour and wit garnered her many friends over the years; however it was her qualities of loyalty, trustworthiness, concern, thoughtfulness and generosity that allowed her to maintain and their long last friendships. From those that she met at school and throughout her long years of employment to those that she formed more recently with the ladies of her aqua fitness classes, Lillian savoured every one of these friendships. She will be sorely missed by her friends that remain. On their retirement she and Joe loved being around people, particularly spending time with family and friends. They also began to travel more extensively to places around the world. Lillian retained her love for the arts. She was a season ticket holder for the Windsor Symphony, regularly attended performances by the Windsor Light Opera and enjoyed the ballet when the visiting troupes came to Windsor. Determined to remain active and to stay in shape, she joined aqua fitness classes and continued her thrice weekly regiment until the age of 98.

Lillian and her brother Jim had an extremely close relationship throughout their lives. Their love, kindness and protective instincts towards each other remained intact, even though he spent most of his working career in western Canada. They remained connected by letter, phone and yearly visits. Upon his retirement and return to Windsor they were able to spend a great deal of time together, enjoying each other’s company, visiting family and mutual friends, and reminiscing about the people and events that occurred over the course of their lives.

The family wishes to thank Dr. P. Smith for the quality of care that he provided to Lillian over the years and for his continued interest in her wellbeing in spite of her inability to visit his office. A deep sense of gratitude must also be extended to Dr. S. Bergeron, Dr. P. Valcke and to the staff of the Hospice of Windsor for making Lillian’s desire to die peacefully at home become a reality. A very special thank you is reserved for Claudette St. Louis, her primary palliative care nurse from St. Elizabeth, for her nursing expertise, unparalleled support and the friendship that she provided to Lillian, during this difficult period of her life. If you desire, donations to the Hospice of Windsor or Street Help would be appreciated by the family.

Funeral services will be held privately. **Due to the current restrictions put in place by the Ministry of Health there is a maximum number of guests allowed in the funeral home at one time. Please call the funeral home between 9 am and 4 pm to reserve a spot for the visitation period. No admittance will be permitted without a reservation.**

A public celebration of Lillian’s life will be held at a future date.

Services

  • Visitation By Appointment Only

    Wednesday, November 11, 2020

Memories

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Barb Morrison

November 27, 2020

Just heard Lil had passed away as I recently moved to Boblo and did not see when it happened.
Very fond memories of Lil for the past 30 years. Lots of fun times swimming and talking and sharing coffee at St. Clair College.
So thankful I shared her 100th birthday with her.
I think of her often.
My condolences to your family.

Barb Morrison

Lesley Linton

November 18, 2020

I will always cherish my visits from a young age to “Grandma” Lil’s, enjoying pizza and a root beer. She was so kind, generous and a wonderful story teller.
She spoke to and about my husband and I as if we were her own grandkids and it always made us feel like part of her family. Sending our love to Auntie Sheila and Auntie Maureen.

She will be missed but never forgotten.

Love,
Lesley and Mike

JoAnne McEwan

November 15, 2020

My sincere condolences to Lil’s daughters on the passing of your mother. She was a great lady who could always find a topic to involve you during the conversation. When we had coffee after Aquafit we all were amazed at her knowledge of history. She was always the centre of the conversation. We’ve missed her in the last few years but so pleased that she was well enough to remain in her home with family and friends close by. May she Rest In Peace.

Nancy Peltier

November 14, 2020

My sincere deepest sympathy on the loss of your mother, living until 102 having all of her faculties. GOD has truly blessed her. My father's aunt was also blessed by GOD living until 105, also having all of her faculties. Like your mother going into a Nursing Home, my dad's aunt went in at 99 years old, because her daughter had severe arthritis. The daughter shared a room, but his aunt had a private room, both at the end of Bruillette Manor. At 100 she walked only with a cane and had a bottle of beer daily. At 105 she watched her soap operas daily and Mayor Dilken's interviewed her as she told her stories of being here before planes, TV's, telephones, etc. I'm so much like your mother, because I know things that happen to my brother, when he falls from his 10 year battle with Parkinson's, I know that something is wrong. I had 2 brothers and I also know when something is wrong with Larry.
I was just wondering if your family is related to me. My dad's father died before he was born while walking in a parade, probably from the Spanish Flu in Nov. 1919. His uncle Art Peltier was the first white Heavy Weight Champion in the World winning 22 fights. However, when he fought McCarthy he knocked him out within 90 seconds. The crowd yelled fixed fight. He left the wring went out celebrating, only to find out McCarty never got up, he had died. The Doctor said he would have died no matter where he was. Apparently he fell off of a horse the day before and had some kind of anorism. He tried nine fights after this but loss because he was afraid to punch the fighter. He later became a Police Officer in Ford City, where he had the largest Funeral of 16,000 people in 1921. He also died of the Spanish Flu. They did a live play and the wrestling belt was put in a Hall of Fame Museum in Chatham. If you are related you can come see this information which I will be framing and putting on the wall. Call Nancy 519-735-5401 at anytime.
Again I'm so sorry for your loss.

Brendan Fleury

November 13, 2020

This goes out to my grandmother, "Mama Lil". Growing up on the West Coast and having a grandmother living in Ontario was a big deal. It felt like we were two worlds apart. Or at least it did when I was a kid. I have such great memories spending time with you in Windsor. I can remember year after year stepping off that plane, at the little Airport, getting blasted with humidity. Although it felt like a sauna on the outside i had a warm felt feeling inside knowing soon I'd be reunited with you. Sure enough there would be Mama lil, my Papa joe, and my Aunt Sheila awaiting us off the plane. I know you always had something up your sleeve or planned to keep us kids busy. Whether it was visiting Niagara Falls or taking road trips to Cedar Point and that one year at Disney World. We were all together and they were always good times. I've always been amazed with the stories you shared. Growing up through the depression, surviving the second world war, and raising a family. I will always charish your encouraging conversations over the phone. Like clock work every there always was a card in the mail for birthdays and other holidays. They always brightened my day. You always said to me family and health are the most important things in life. You certainly showed us that by living over a hundred and two. I think doing crossword puzzles, participating in aqua fit and and watching jeoperdy kept you sharp. Although your body grew old your mind certainly did not. I love you Mama lil. You will always be in my heart and soul. Till we meet again.

Your loving Grandson
Brendan Fleury

Jonathan Fleury

November 12, 2020

I have some fond memories of Mama Lil growing up and still to this day I hold them dearly. When she would visit me as a child she would read me bedtime stories with warm enthusiasm that captivated my imagination. We shared the same interest in history and I always enjoyed listening to her speak about our family history. I will remember her sense of humour and the way she always spoke from the heart. I will miss you Mama Lil.

Love, Jonathan "Jolly"

Barbara (Jessop) Baker

November 12, 2020

Maureen, Sheila and family, my deepest condolences on the loss of your Mom. We shared many stories in our aqua fit classes. I was always in awe of her amazing memory. Hugs and prayers during this difficult time.

Linda Upcott

November 11, 2020

Shiela. Sorry to hear about your mom. We were just wondering a bit ago how you two were doing. Sorry I never met your mom but liked your stories about her. Miss you very much. Take care.

Penny Pula

November 11, 2020

Sheila...I am so sorry to hear of the passing of your mother. She sounds like an amazing woman and Mom. I will always remember your devotion and love for her and the light hearted stories you told of her. Thinking of you and your family & sending peaceful thoughts & prayers.
Penelope Pula

Effie Jennings

November 11, 2020

Sheila, sorry to hear of you mom's passing. You were blessed to have had her with you for so long. You sure will have many memories of your wonderful mother. Thinking of you at this time.

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