YNC Michael Lee Milam

July 3, 1977May 27, 2013
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Atsugi, Japan- YNC Michael Lee Milam, 35 died on May 27, 2013 in Japan. YNC Milam has served his country in the US Navy for 18 years. Funeral services will be at 12 noon, June 15, 2013 in the gazebo at Forsyth Memorial Park. Prior to processing to the cemetery the family will receive guests from 10:30 to 11:45 at the funeral home. Chief Milam was born July 3, 1977 in Toledo, OH to Mr. & Mrs. Rex L. and Vickie Sue Coutchure Milam. He lived in Greensboro briefly where he graduated from Northwest Guilford High School in 1995 after which he made the commitment to serve his country. After graduating from basic training in Great Lakes, IL he reported to Naval Air Facility, Adak, AK and after the decommissioning of the Air Facility was transferred to Naval Technical Training Center, Meridian, MS. He then reported to Commander, Carrier Group 5, in Atsugi, Japan and was advanced to Yeoman 3rd Class Petty Officer. While serving at Nuclear Power Training Unit, Charleston, SC he achieved the rank of Yeoman Second Class Petty Officer. His next duty assignment was on the USS Gary (FFG-51) home ported in Yokosuka, Japan. He assumed the duties of Senior Enlisted Advisor to Commander, Fleet Activities Detachment Ikego, before deploying to Afghanistan. Upon his return to Japan he was selected and advanced to Yeoman Chief Petty Officer. His awards include the Defense Meritorious Service Medal, Navy and Marine Corps Commendation Medal (with gold star), Joint Service Achievement Medal, the Navy and Marine Corps Achievement Medal (with silver star), Navy Unit Commendation, Meritorious Unit Commendation, Navy “E”, Navy Good Conduct Medal (with four bronze stars), National Defense Service Medal (with bronze star), along with several unit awards.

He was honored to serve his country and although he was awarded several accolades and medals his proudest achievement was being a wonderful husband and an involved and loving mentor to his three children. He loved to play golf and always had the latest technological gadget.

In addition to his parents of Woodleaf, NC he is survived by his wife, Rumi Milam of Asugi, Japan and their daughter, Fiona; his son, Vincent and daughter, Emili Milam and their mother, Motomi Nipper of Yakuska, Japan; maternal grandmother, Vivian Coutchure of Ida, MI; uncles, James and Steven Coutchure, Dennis (Valentina) Milam, and Andrew (Flo) Milam; aunts, Diana Miller, Donna (Jack) Buckley, Linda Yates, Mary Milam, and Eileen (Ron) Turner; and numerous cousins. He was preceded in death by his paternal grandparents, William Lawrence and Emily Josephine Milam; maternal grandfather, Richard Paul Coutchure and uncle, Ron Coutchure.

In lieu of flowers memorial donations may be made in memory of YNC Milam to Wounded Warrior Project, 4200 Morganton Road, Suite 300, Fayetteville, NC 28314 or by visiting On line condolences may be made to

"The Watch" For eighteen years This sailor has stood the watch

While some of us were in our bunks at night This sailor stood the watch

While some of us were in school learning our trade This shipmate stood the watch

In those years when the storm clouds of war were seen brewing on the horizon of history This shipmate stood the watch

Many time he would cast an eye ashore and see his family standing there, Needing his guidance and help, needing that hand to hold during those hard times But he still stood the watch

He stood the watch for eighteen years He stood the watch so that we, our familes and our fellow countrymen could sleep soundly in safety, each and every night Knowing that a sailor stood the watch

Today we are here to say "Shipmate...the watch stands relieved, Relieved by those you have trained, guided, and led. Shipmate, you stand relieved. We have the watch."


  • Visitation Saturday, June 15, 2013
  • Celebration of Life Saturday, June 15, 2013

YNC Michael Lee Milam

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steve coutchure

July 11, 2013

rex and sue my heart is with you .was looking at pic of you and rex with little giz and it brought back so many wonderful memorys .and good times alway will be in my heart love you guys

steven coutchure

July 11, 2013

rex and sue my heart goes out to you.i was looking at the pic of you and rex holding little giz and it floods my mind of all the great memorys that i have of him and all of the great times we had. god has taken him but the memorys are still alive in are hearts. love you guys

William Majors

June 17, 2013

Rex and Sue,We are so sorry for your loss.Please know that your family is in our prayers and thoughts.Hope I get to see you soon

Doris Nelson

June 14, 2013

Sue and Rex Our hearts ache for your great loss. Our prayers are with you each day. May God give you peace.

Doris & Barry Nelson

Judy Cole Branham

June 12, 2013

Rex I am so sorry to hear of the great loss of your son Michael. My heart breaks for you and your wife. Know your family here in West Virginia have your family in our hearts and our prayers.
Your Cousin