Kathleen "Kathy" Low
October 8, 1953 – October 14, 2020
In the end we all become stories. What story would my mother want me to tell? Knowing her, she would say “don’t fuss with an obituary, I’ll be gone anyway”. But she was a writer, a journalist, and it seems important in the wake of her passing to just write. My beautiful mother, Kathy Low, of Woodstock, GA, completed her earthly journey on Wednesday, October 14th, 2020. She was born October 8th, 1953 in Hackensack, NJ to Charles and Thelma Low.
Looking back on what I know of my mother’s 67 years, her life was truly an adventure with both beautiful and heartbreaking stops along the way. She would often tell me her life began when she had me on December 31st, 1985. As the fireworks exploded in the sky outside her hospital room, she said somehow all was quiet, it was just her and me. That story would ring true for the rest of our time together. It was always the two of us. Having a single parent so devoted to only me was a gift I can’t quite put into words. Although it came with struggles, the bond the two of us have is directly related to there never being anyone else we had to share our time with. Everything I am, and the incredible family I now have, is because of my mother.
A lover of all things outdoors, my mom has instructed us to “listen and look for me in the trees, and mountains, and flowers, and hiking trails that I love so much. I am with you - always. Never doubt it.” Her greatest treasures were the words of loved ones – in letters, cards and emails – and she passed those words on leaving detailed letters to each of her grandchildren, Jordan and me. Each letter spoke of her love and adoration for each of us and emphasized that life is meant to be lived, so live it fully and without reservation.
A self-proclaimed “Jersey girl”, inventor of Lenny the Leprechaun, The Valentine’s Day fairy and “footsles”. Sun butter cookie maker, eternal teacher, and Cayden’s puzzle mate. Lover of Trader Joe’s, a good book on her Kindle, a smokin’ deal on kids clothes at Kohl’s or Target, and creating a tricky scavenger hunt for the twins. The list of what she has meant to our family goes on and on. How can I sum up my mother in mere words? Nothing seems sufficient for the most incredible person I’ve ever met.
Her greatest achievements include but of course are not limited to beating her father, “Mighty Low”, in tennis and ping-pong, getting me through college on an educator’s salary, hiking the Grand Canyon, taking down some Jersey mob guys in a newspaper story she covered in the 1980s, watching her grand twins grow over the past 6 ½ years and loving her most recent grandson, our Kinlin. Down Syndrome was never something we anticipated but the bond her and Kinlin have is indescribable. She would often say “when I look into his eyes I see Heaven so I know it’s going to be ok”. We would talk about Kinlin coming down and changing our lives in ways we could have never dreamed. He truly kept her going when the cancer pain set in. I could write forever about my mommy, and I probably will in private, but I’ll leave it by telling her (because I know she’s reading every word I’m writing, editing over my shoulder) you are my best friend, the most amazing provider, and the relationship I pray to have with my daughter. Thank you for the little things over the past 34 years, especially in the last 6 ½ with your grand babies. You will be missed every single day, but my children will know you, no matter how much time passes. I’ll enjoy my time here while simultaneously counting down the days until we meet again in Heaven. I love you, my mama today, tomorrow and forever- Your Pumpkin Girl
Kathy was the daughter of Charles Low of Pawley’s Island, SC who preceded her in death. She is survived by her mother Thelma Low, daughter Danielle Higley, son-in-law Jordan and grandsons Cayden and Kinlin, and granddaughter Emory. And her brothers Daniel Low and Chuck Low.
In lieu of flowers, please support The Down Syndrome Diagnosis Network out of Stillwater, MN in honor of her grandson, Kinlin Coast.
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Kathleen "Kathy" Low
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October 25, 2020
My first impression of your beautiful mother was meeting her when Dani and Lauren became school friends in Scripps Ranch. She was so calm and gracious and had the most beautiful smile, which she passed on to her daughter. We were both single parents, and we immediately had a connection. Although I regret never taking advantage of the opportunity to become close friends, I grew to love you, and thus, your mother, through you. She will always be with you because everything beautiful and wonderful about her is in you, Dani. I look forward to seeing her in Heaven one day.
October 24, 2020
There are no adequate words to express the sense of grief your family is going through. Our son, Lou, passed away from a 4th stage cancer two weeks before his 50th birthday. Why do some beat their cancer and your mother and our son not? The question for the ages, I imagine.
Dani, your mother had a unique sense of humor. At Charter, another colleague, Lyle Owen, and I were her"geezers". A term by anybody else might have gotten a punch in the nose.
Please know that, while the sharp grief will fade, much of it will morph into pleasant memories.
To my dear friend, Kathy, and family. Michael
October 23, 2020
Dani, what a beautiful tribute to your mom. I worked with Kathy for many years at Escondido Charter High School. Kathy was friendly and caring. She was in charge of our special ed students and as a teacher I would often confer with her about my students who had special needs. She was so great with those kids and their parents, wanting the best for them as we carefully worked out their plans. She always followed up on these kids and asked about them often.
I would see her out walking each day during her break wearing her cute straw fedora. Sometimes she was laughing with friends, sometimes she was alone and looking thoughtful. I won’t forget her big smile, her warmth, or that delightful laugh. I am especially grateful to her for reaching out to us after the death of our son. Even though she had moved away, she wrote me the most beautiful and compassionate note. All her many kindnesses are eternal and will never be forgotten. Until we meet in heaven, friend!
Sending my heartfelt condolences to you, Dani and family. May you feel your mom’s loving presence always near. Praying for your for comfort and peace.
October 23, 2020
I worked with Kathy at ECHS for many years, and what I remember most about her was her positive attitude and smile. She always had something nice to say anytime I saw her, even if she was in the middle of trying to get the school WASC accredited (which was not a fun task). I'm sorry for your family's loss.
October 23, 2020
My “Aunt Kathy” was a beautiful soul! She was so strong and had a beautiful outlook on life. I loved her smile the most, and the way she laughed. I’m proud to say I look very much like her and am very similar in my ways. I will miss her dearly, but have joy in knowing I will see her again. Forever in my heart and all my love.
October 23, 2020
Dani, that is absolutely beautiful. In the few times I chatted with Kathy, she echoed exactly those things: that it was always just the two of you, how incredibly proud she was of you, how much she loved the kiddos, and how Jordan was "the best son-in-law anyone could have". One day we had an extended conversation about the dying willow tree on our side yard. I was desperately trying to save it as I planted it many years ago and it held a lot of sentimental value. Even though she only ever saw it in it's weakened state, she said it was beautiful and that she enjoyed sitting on your side yard watching it wave in the breeze. She was so upbeat and sincere about it, and smiled happily as she talked about it. Unfortunately, like your Mom, we finally lost our battle for our willow tree. But I'll always remember that conversation. When I plant a replacement tree in the near future, I will be thinking of her and hoping she'll still be enjoying the view, just from a higher place.