James Cox

Born November 18,1925 Died May 22, 2022. Jim was 96 years old, married to Pricilla Cox who resides at Falmouth House at Oceanview in Falmouth,Maine.

Jim grew up wanting to serve his country. His naval career started with graduating from the Naval Academy. He married Marilyn Brooks, a North Texas state graduate who also was born in Denton Texas. While in the Navy, they had three of their first four children. Angela, Cecelia, and James Cox, Jr.

Jim had high aspirations of climbing the ladder in the Navy, but had a problematic eye, so he switched his career focus to working for IBM. A job promotion required that his family move from Texas to the San Jose area in California, where child number four Mary Susan Cox was born.

Jim’s second marriage was to Shirley Stone. She is survived by her wonderful children Carl and Laura Stone.

Jim met wife number three, Joan Sullivan while venturing to New York to open an office for Data Design. Beautiful and charismatic Joan lost the battle with cancer in 2000. Jim was devastated and found that he couldn’t bounce back after the loss. She is survived by her four kids; Patrick, Karen, Lynn and Megan.

Anger issues plagued Jim’s early marital and family relationships in both marriages. He stated that the only common denominator to his failed relationships was himself. Add to that, the grief from losing Joan, Jim earnestly sought out support.

In his later years, Jim’s favorite teacher was Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D., the author of Nonviolent Communication,a Language of Life. He gave all his loved ones a copy of the book. He became a role model in acceptance. He referred to himself as “Peaceful Jim” in his email correspondence.

It was several years after Joan’s death, when his long time friend and life coach Mary Radu encouraged Jim to join Match.com. This is how he met Pricilla Brown from Maine. Pril was looking for a younger man than Jim due to how physically active she was, but took a chance on getting acquainted with Jim due to the fact that he had run 19 marathons here and abroad. The grit and perseverance of completing a race says a lot. As a couple in their 80’s, they would fly to California and set up camp at a hotel in Paso Robles. Kids, grandkids and old friends of Jim’s would redevo there and catch up. You never heard Jim nor Pril complain, even if there were flight delays, forgotten medicines left at home, aches or pains, or for, understandingly, being tired. Both chose to stay positive. Pril and Jim made a wonderful team. Jim holding Pril’s hand never stopped after 20 years of marriage. With Jim’s passing, Pril has a great support system in place. First of all, from her four wonderful children, Jennifer, Suzanne, Rich, and Joe and secondly from all the children, step children, and grandkids from all his past relationships.

One of Jim’s requests was that there be a family zoom get together where Rob Robbins could play for everyone. He requested that this take place before he died. Rob Robbins, who sings and is a pianist, agreed to play his keyboard in Jim’s room at Falmouth House. He had previously touched dad’s soul when he performed for Jim and 5 other veterans. Jim was so inspired by the music, he wanted us all to be moved like he had been. He felt that Rob could convey his own heart better than he could himself. He got his wish.

We are all “complete”. This was a common phrase used by Jim and adopted by many. He would say “are you complete?” when a conversation was closing. It was to make sure that the other had said all they needed to and that he, or she, felt heard and understood. Dad, Jim, grandpa. . .we are complete. We felt your unconditional love.

Jim was a light and a model to so many. His outbursts of laughter, generosity, and sincerity, will be sorely missed. May you Rest In Peace, Peaceful Jim.