OBITUARY

Judith Haynes

February 15, 1939December 30, 2018

Judith Anne Bates Haynes

Judith Anne Bates Haynes of Yarmouth died at home on December 30. She was born in Guilford, Maine on February 15, 1939, the daughter of William L. and Betty Mae (Drake) Bates. She attended public schools in Guilford and graduated Phi Beta Kappa from the University of Maine in 1961 with a BA in Medical Technology. Judy was a loving wife, mother, grandmother and friend.

Judy was gifted at the art of creating a home. She provided a sense of welcome, warmth and hospitality that were gifts to many. Whether it was to the cottage at Shady Nook in Trenton or to their home in Yarmouth, Judy’s invitations were treasured. Judy had a unique way of providing a sense of belonging that crossed all generations. She extended that welcome to her children’s friends, their spouses and scores of others. She increased that feeling of home by always providing good things to eat. Her desire was that all felt included.

Judy was an avid reader, a passionate Red Sox fan, a competitive mahjong player, and a talented tennis partner. Judy also loved all of the arts, and supported many local organizations. In her sewing room and basement, she expressed her creative ability. She made beautiful gifts of quilts and other items for family, friends, and for church fairs. She often invited others to work along with her in such endeavors. Judy was a person of faith, and the church was a huge part of her life. She took to heart the words found in Micah 6:8. “What does the Lord require of you, but to do justice, love kindness, and to walk humbly with your God.” In often quiet, but powerful ways, Judy worked hard to live into those words. Her generosity in outreach was only surpassed by her generosity of spirit. She had a soft spot for those who struggled along the way. Her thoughtfulness of others touched many.

Her involvement made any community of which she was a part stronger. She helped create The Caring Connection at First Parish Church in Yarmouth which provides care for those in the church in need, with visits, cards and meals, and also provides receptions following funerals. Her impact was also felt at the Union Congregational Church in North Reading, Massachusetts and the Presbyterian Church in Bedford, New York.

Judy was a person who cared deeply about the people and the organizations in her life. She had high standards for us, which helped us to reach our potential. What made these expectations reachable was that they were partnered with her grace and her care; an amazing combination. Judy loved life, loved God’s creation, loved a meal shared and laughter expressed. Judy was a person who expressed gratitude freely and often. She was a person who held great wisdom. Of all the things she treasured, her family was at the top of the list. She will be deeply missed.

Judy is survived by her lifelong companion and husband of more than 57 years, Peter; her sons and their wives, Jeffrey and Beverly, Timothy and Jessa, Christopher and Yuki; her Italian “exchange” son Federico Orsino; 7 grandchildren and her brother Jerry and wife Hope. She was predeceased by her parents and her brother John.

A celebration of her life will be held at The First Parish Congregational Church in Yarmouth, Maine located at 116 Main Street on Thursday, January 10 at 11:00 am. The service will be followed by a reception at Camp Hammond at 275 Main St, Yarmouth, Maine. In lieu of flowers, people are invited to make a contribution to Friends of Kakamega, 51 Hunter Rd, Freeport, ME 04032 or Ronald McDonald House Charities of Maine, 250 Brackett Street, Portland, ME 04102.

REMEMBERING

Judith Haynes

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Joan Oneill

January 20, 2019

My heart goes out to you all on such a great loss. Love working on projects with you in N.R., but best of all was the fun we had with the youth group.Many laughs. Thank you for your friendship, you were a blessing in my life. Love to you all. The O’Neill family

Ella Flint

January 18, 2019

How blessed were Dave and I to have Judy in our lives when we lived in No. Reading. She was truly a beautiful person, inside and out. Always kind and giving and always "there" when a friend was needed. And fun! Oh, the stories I could tell! My heart is sad that she is gone and will always miss her Christmas news letters. What a beautiful legacy she has left with her very beautiful family. Be at peace, dear friend, you will be greatly missed. A bottle of Cold Duck will never be the same!

Leigh Fulda

January 6, 2019

To the Haynes\Bates family- so sorry to hear about Judy. I have fond memories of her and how much she loved all of you.

Leigh Fulda

Simon Cowley

January 4, 2019

Peter, Jeff, Bev, and family........ my deepest condolences to you all. Your thoughts here really captured who she was to us in our youth, and for that I am grateful. Always with a welcoming smile, a hug, and generous spirit, but never one to let you get away with anything. A precious few moms were moms to us all, but she was definitely one. I am sorry that I cannot be there next week, but my thoughts will be with you. I'm going to stop typing now, as unfortunately my keyboard is not waterproof.
Love,
Simon

Karen Orff Raddin

January 3, 2019

So sorry to hear of your loss. Many years have passed since high school days at PCHS. As I read other condolences , it is no suprise that Judy is “ her mothers daughter”. The Bates home was always open to her children’s friends. Please know , Judy, you are in our hearts. May you rest in peace with the knowledge that you made a difference.

Cherie Moore

January 3, 2019

I am shocked and deeply saddened upon hearing of this family's loss, and of the community as well.
My memories of Judy were from growing up close by, and spending endless hours with her younger brothers at Whetstone in the summers, learning to waterski, drive a motorboat, staying overnight on their porch ,all four of us lined up facing the water, sleeping to the peaceful sound of water lapping against the shore. The memories of Judy conjure up peace and calm. She was the patient older sister putting up with her younger brothers' antics and friends who were constantly around waiting for Betty's donuts to cool enough to bite into.
I know you bring serenity and kindness to where you rest, Judy; and to your family, I am so very sorry for your loss.

Sandra Lefebvre

January 3, 2019

Didn't; know Judy for very long but we instantly made a connection that will stay with me forever. She will be missed in our mahjongg group forever . Sandra Lefebvre

Cathy Bell

January 3, 2019

I will remember Judy for how she made me feel, she had a way of connecting with people in such a genuine way, I always felt special in conversation with her and was drawn to and interested in her because of her beautiful ways. Love to The Haynes Family 😘

Julius Fisher

January 3, 2019

Am so sorry for your loss you and your family are in my prayers

Marilyn Greco

January 2, 2019

I am so sorry for your loss! Judy was an exceptional woman! I loved her smile and how warm she was as a person. She always took time to speak with me at every event I was fortunate enough to see her at Jessa and Tim’s, in Dublin. She loved her family and was filled with grace and class. She will be dearly missed. I feel blessed to have had the opportunity to know her. My love and prayers are with all of you!