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Lindquist Funeral Home

1 Mayberry Ln, Yarmouth, ME

OBITUARY

Raymond Thomas O'Donnell

August 9, 1957December 18, 2019
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Raymond T. O’Donnell (August 9th, 1957 – December 18th, 2019)

After a seven-year disagreement with neuroendocrine cancer, a rare and difficult diagnosis, Ray passed away on December 18th at Gosnell Memorial Hospice House surrounded by his family. Throughout his battle, Ray was lucky to have led a normal life while going through various, but dwindling treatment options. He was eternally grateful to be able to spend this additional time on earth with his dearest Lisa and their three daughters.

Ray was born in Brooklyn, NY to a large and loving family. As the third of six children, he recalled many stories about his escapades and games of pick-up basketball and stickball with his siblings on the streets of Brooklyn. He also enjoyed many childhood summers at the family’s lake cottage in New Jersey. Ray’s family eventually moved to Yorktown, NY where Ray attended high school. He then graduated from SUNY Buffalo with a degree in Accounting.

Ray had an extensive career in the Accounting and Finance field. This included a stint with now Ernst & Young accounting firm, twenty years at TD Bank rising to the position of Financial Controller, and eventually at Portland Public Schools. Despite incredible successes, including a life-changing move to the state of Maine, the defining moment of Ray’s career was that it led him to meet his sweetheart, wife, and life partner, Lisa.

Lisa and Ray married in 1990 and raised three wonderful daughters. The family enjoyed exploring their Celtic roots with trips abroad, traversing the North East in their beloved Honda Pilot, and relaxing in the simple comforts of Maine, especially hiking, kayaking and relaxing on the beach. Though Ray was proud of his girls, most of the credit, in his own words, is due to Lisa. A terrific mom and guiding influence, Lisa supported the family in everything they did. Ray and Lisa were a great team, with Lisa as the Captain.

Ray was a man of many talents and hobbies. Aside from his mastery of the NYT Sunday Crossword puzzle, Ray spent over ten years learning and perfecting how to play the bagpipes. He was a member of the Claddagh Mhor Pipe Band in Portland, where he played at many parades and public functions including the Saint Patrick’s Day celebration in Galway, Ireland. Out and about, Ray loved attending and supporting Good Theater at the Saint Lawrence Arts Center. At home, Ray was a natural handyman. Whether growing tomatoes or putting down hard-wood floors, Ray abided by the words etched above the entrance to his tool shed, “May you always have work for your hands to do…,” the first line of a classic Irish toast. Locally, Ray was a long time communicant at Holy Martyrs Church in Falmouth.

Ray enjoyed sports of all types, and followed both the Boston and New York area teams. After participating in lacrosse, basketball, and football in high school, Ray discovered that what he lacked in size and speed he always made up for with tenacity and ball handling. It didn’t always work, but it was fun to be in the game. Eventually, Ray became a regular jogger, running in many 10-K’s and even completing one marathon (a hilly course in Yonkers, NY).

Ray would like to thank the medical professionals, specifically Dr. Evans and his team, at the New England Cancer Center who provided excellent care and guidance throughout his journey. In addition, his family would like to extend a sincere thank you to all those who cared for him as a part of Hospice of Southern Maine, particularly at Gosnell Memorial Hospice.

Ray was predeceased by his mother Marion (2006), brothers Brian (2009) and John (2011), and his brother-in-law Bill Taylor (2016). Ray is survived by his loving wife Lisa, his three daughters, Lauren, Kaitlyn, and Kerry of Falmouth, ME, his father Raymond Patrick O’Donnell of Danbury, CT, his sister Kathleen Belli and her husband Noel of Wykoff, NJ, his sister Margaret Taylor of Danbury, CT, his brother Michael O’Donnell and his wife Mary of Yorktown Heights, NY, a dear Uncle John O’Donnell and his wife Barbara of Mooresville, NC, as well as many nephews, nieces, one grand niece and cousins.

Help Ray’s family celebrate his wonderful life with services on Friday, December 27th at Lindquist Funeral Home in Yarmouth, Maine from 4pm-7pm and a Mass of Christian Burial on December 28th at 10am at Holy Martyrs Church in Falmouth, Maine with a reception to follow.

In lieu of flowers, Ray had asked for donations to be made to St. Jude’s Children’s Hospital (an organization he deeply cared for), Hospice of Southern Maine (which provided him with peace and comfort at the end of his days), or the charitable organization of your choice.

The O’Donnell family hope that their beloved husband, father, son, and friend is finally enjoying a piping hot cup of tea (or maybe a pint of Guinness) surrounded by those who have gone before him.

  • FAMILY

  • Raymond P. O'Donnell, Father
  • Marion Staunton, Mother (deceased)
  • Lisa O'Donnell, Wife
  • Brian O'Donnell, Brother (deceased)
  • John O'Donnell, Brother (deceased)
  • Bill Taylor, Brother-in-law (deceased)
  • Lauren, Daughter
  • Kaitlyn, Daughter
  • Kerry, Daughter
  • Kathleen Belli (Noel Belli), Sister
  • Margaret Taylor, Sister
  • Michael O'Donnell (Mary O'Donnel), Brother
  • John O'Donnell (Barbara O'Donnell), Uncle

Services

  • Visiting Hours Friday, December 27, 2019
  • Mass of Christian Burial Saturday, December 28, 2019

Memories

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Lucille Myers

December 28, 2019

There are too many kind things I can say about this man. The moment I met him, I just knew he was the right man for Lisa and that he would always make her happy.

His kind words, dry sense of humor and the ability to always tease me about my beloved Yankees (he always managed to like that OTHER team) made him so special to me. I will never forget how he went out of his way to make me and my pre-teen girls (he had a couple of his own at the time!) feel welcome in his home for 5 days one summer. Not only did he not flinch when they played the Spice Girls on FULL VOLUME for days, but he took us all to a baseball game with fireworks, ice cream nightly and made sure we tasted every whoopie pie flavor in the state of Maine!!!

Mostly, thank you for bringing joy and love to my dear friend's life. You were a living example of kindness, grace and devotion to family.

I know you are looking down on all of us and praying for our well being. I am blessed to have known you. My comfort is in knowing that your lungs are healthy where you are; a place where you can play your bagpipes all day long . In Heaven with our King.

Godspeed with Love,

Lucy McHugh-Myers

Carol (McGuire) Johnson

December 26, 2019

Dear Lisa and family,

So sad to hear of the loss of Raymond. Please accept my deepest sympathy.
The few times I met him were like I knew him my whole life. He was so filled with joy and life!

Sending my love
(Cousin) Carol

Grant and Blake Palagonia

December 25, 2019

To a great Uncle Ray, we had many special memories but the one that we remember the most is when we played wiffle ball against you in the front lawn. We told Uncle Ray that we were going to win and he said he wasn’t gonna let that happen. The game got competitive and in the end we won the game. Uncle Ray of course told us that we had cheated and was being a sore loser. Even thought Uncle Ray lost and wasn’t accepting his defeat he still wanted to take us to his favorite ice cream place Beal’s. We had such a great time and we will miss you greatly and love you dearly. Love Grant and Blake❤️🍦

James Waugh

December 23, 2019

James Collins once wrote “Good is the enemy of Great.” His reference was related to corporations but the same can be said about people.

Ray truly was a Great person. From his love of family, my sister, and my 3 nieces to the Sunday crossword puzzle of the NYT, to the bagpipes and so so much more.

His life is one to be celebrated. A warrior that did not let a diagnosis limit his achievements but rather added further fuel to his drive and motivation.

God needed another angel by his side and elected to call on Ray. Forever a Great man and role model.

Forever grateful that you entered our families lives.

Jimmy, Rene, and Brianna Paige Waugh.

David Glogower

December 21, 2019

Ray was one of the finest people I’ve known. Our paths in life crossed many times — more than a coincidence — we were acquaintances at SUNY Buffalo, in a few classes together. We then found each other many years later as colleagues at American Savings Bank, working closely together, hearing all about his wedding plans, and attending that wonderful marriage. We then moved on together to Hudson United Bank, and eventually Simon & Schuster, where I retired after 20 years. When Ray & Lisa relocated to Maine, I took my children there for a summer vacation, and we spent a wonderfully happy day with The O’Donnell Family. Typical of Ray, he guided us to the airport in his car because I get lost going around the block! A unique person, he will surely be missed.

Sheila Fay

December 21, 2019

Ray was a wonderful neighbor. A kind and humble man. I always loved when Ray was practicing his bagpipes at his home. It was beautiful sounds to hear as I was doing my outside chores!!!
Beautiful obituary. Beautiful family inside and out. So sorry for your loss.

James Drylie

December 21, 2019

Our sincerest condolences to Lisa and the O'Donnell family. We cherish the memories of our childhood when we came together as a family. Forever in our heart.

Geoffrey Emanuel

December 21, 2019

Ray was a consummate role model for what Good Guy means to me. Quiet competence; always kind and friendly demeanor; steady father setting a high bar for morality and integrity for his great kids to reach; and helpful and welcoming Neighbor. I will miss you Ray but always will remember your kind soul.

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