Brenda Louise Volker

By: Mark Hawley

I first met Brenda 31 years ago when I was only 19. Even though I had spent my childhood and adolescent days in Warren, Pennsylvania, I truly grew up having Brenda as a meaningful part of my new life. Regardless of the fact that Brenda has a crazy family, I would never trade my memories for anything different. It was through Brenda that I met and married her eldest daughter, who gave me love and two wonderful sons. Brenda was not only my mother-in-law; she was one of my best friends.

We had many good times together and I know because of her I did not walk this world alone.

We often make sacrifices for others with expectations of return while voicing complaints if appreciation is not readily shown. Brenda was not one who anticipated gratitude. All she cared for in return was love. Sure she complained, but at a moment’s notice when was back doing what she did best and that was caring for her family. Regardless of any flaws displayed by Brenda, she was the most wonderful person to share a life with. Several years ago Brenda gave me a ceramic angel to hang in my truck. She said the angel was to protect me from the perils and dangers facing my life as a trucker. Being a former driver, Brenda knew exactly what I was up against. That angel was the best gift I have ever received and I will always cherish it and the memories that I have of Brenda.

Some of us, including myself, often joked about Brenda being mean. Brenda did not have a mean spirit. She was just stern. My favorite way to describe Brenda was to say that she was Cast Iron. She had the most powerful back hand, one which would put any boxer to shame. If you were on the receiving end of the all mighty swing it was only because you deserved it. If you got scooped through a mud hole it was because you brought it on. Brenda only demonstrated her mean side to those who had it coming. We can all rest assured that Nana will always be watching over us and if any evil comes our way, she will back hand it through the goal post of life.

Brenda was loved by children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren.