Marilyn Amelia Dyer

23 May, 193122 November, 2020

Marilyn (Maker) Dyer, 89, of Wellfleet went home to be with the Lord on November 22, 2020 after a brief illness. She is survived by her husband, Warren Dyer. The couple had just recently celebrated their 70th wedding anniversary.

Mrs. Dyer is also survived by her two daughters Amy Kmiec Patterson and her husband Bruce of Wellfleet, Heidi Dyer and her wife Martha Wheeler of Wellfleet and her son Herbert Dyer and his partner Deborah Williams of Seminole Fl. She also leaves 7 grandchildren Adrien Kmiec and wife Kathryn, Ainsley Kmiec, Alexis Kmiec Topolski and husband Morgan, Ariana Kmiec, Arielle Patterson Day and husband Joshua, Amelia Patterson, Rachael Dyer and 12 great grandchildren Kayla, Taylor, Addison, Gideon, Silas, Gabriella, Ashton, Henry, Zachary, Drake, Meredith, Tristan.

She leaves behind her brothers, Eugene Valli, Sherburne Valli and sister Lucille Baker. She is pre deceased by her brothers Charles Valli, Edward Maker, Ansel Valli Jr and sisters Althea Stetson, Barbara Souther, Lois Atwood, Virginia Fauquier and granddaughter Jessica Dyer.

Mrs. Dyer was born in Wellfleet, the daughter of Alice Maker Valli and Herbert Winslow Maker. She met her husband, Warren in elementary school and was sweet on him since 3rd grade. They married November 10, 1950 and over the years she has had many careers. Real Estate broker, hair dresser and cosmetologist instructor, registrar, Wellfleet’s first Senior citizens programs director, but the job she was most proud of and happiest doing was being a wife and mother.

Mrs. Dyer enjoyed singing in the church choir, handcrafts, and was an avid coloring book artist.

Mrs. Dyer touched many lives and will be remembered as a very special Aunt to many nieces and nephews, a good friend who is caring and generous to all.

Due to Covid-19 concerns the services will be private for the immediate family.

In lieu of flowers please send donations to the First Congregational Church of Wellfleet, PO Box 1300, Wellfleet, MA 02667 c/o steeple fund or a charity of your choice.


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Paula and Joe Reilly

25 February 2021

We have had the pleasure of living between the two Dyer Bayside Cottages for many summers.
Getting to know them over the years, on our porch, or theirs, was a joy. We laughed with them , shared tales of our winters away, and even shed a few tears as we got to know each other’s families ups and downs. We will miss
Marilyn’s smiles and friendship dearly.
Paula and Joe Reilly

susan mayer

20 February 2021

Doug and I rented Driftwood from the Dyers in the late 80's when we came to Bayside to sail. They were so kind to us every summer for 4 years until we bought a house. Having the Reillys next door was an added treat as we befriended them and their kids fondly. Great lady....Our sympathy to her family and especially to Warren.

Happy Hilty

19 February 2021

Marilyn was a very bright place among our Bayside relationships. Our friendship with Marilyn was a wonderful extension of the long friendship she had with our mother. We have as a cherished memory beautiful quilted pillows she made and presented to us. They are always on display. Upon our arrival in Bayside in spring we always look at the Dyer cottage to see if Marilyn is on the porch. We will miss her. Jim and Happy Hilty

Paula and Joe Reilly

11 February 2021

Paula and I are saddened by the news of Marilyn's death. We always enjoyed our times together in Bayside and we were always amazed at Marilyn's upbeat personality and constant "go". It has been our pleasure to live in between Warren and Marilyn's two cottages in Maine for many years We will miss her winsome smile and warm personality but they will stay with us forever. Our love goes out to the whole Dyer family but especially to Warren and the children at this very sad time. We feel blessed to have known her. Paula and Joe Reilly

Winthrop Farwell Jr.

27 November 2020

Sincere condolences to the Dyer family at this time of sorrow. It was my honor and privilege to know the family during my time in Wellfleet.

Jennifer Brintnall

25 November 2020

I have many fond memories of my “Auntie M” , including baton twirling lessons in the back yard and her famous theme parties at the Maine house. She had a knack for bringing people together and accepting and loving everyone. She brought out the best in people and is already sorely missed. RIP Auntie M and condolences to her family ❤️

Kevin Swart

25 November 2020

I have many childhood memories from summers in Maine and stays on cape cod. All of which Marilyn was a part of. Always made me feel like like I was just another one of her grandchildren. I’m so glad to have seen her only days before I left Wellfleet last winter. My sympathies and condolences to her family.

Anna and Jim Annarelli

25 November 2020

Marilyn was an extraordinary person--loving, thoughtful, generous, strong, faith-filled, and so very talented. She was a person of grace--truly a graceful lady-- who exuded an inner warmth and goodness that immediately drew you to her. She truly was a beautiful person and a beautiful soul, and she will forever live in our hearts.

We have been truly and richly blessed to have had Marilyn and Warren as neighbors in Florida for 29 years. Yet, they have been for us and for our two children so much more than neighbors. They have been cherished members of our extended family, sharing both the joys and sorrows of our lives. The births of both of our children, the passing of our parents and siblings, the many birthday and anniversary celebrations, our children's various graduations, and 27 straight Christmas Eve Italian seafood dinners at our home--on these and so many other occasions, they were there to celebrate with us, comfort us, support us, and love us. Indeed, they are now--and always will be--an integral part of the fabric of who we are. We love them both dearly. Each year, we would look forward to their arrival on the Sunday evening of Thanksgiving weekend. Conversely, we always dreaded the arrival of May 1 when they would leave us to return north for the summer. This Sunday evening, when they would normally arrive, we will look next door and, with both thankfulness and sadness, call to mind the years of joyfully welcoming them back to their Florida home.

We are confident that Marilyn is now in the arms of our Lord and we pray that Warren, Amy, Herbie, Heidi, and the entire Dyer family will be comforted in their loss.

Ellie Pugliese

25 November 2020

I was at the Dyers for a dinner party and chose a picture colored by Marilyn. It said: “You are precious to God”and had #6 on the back which told you where to sit.
This precious card is on my fridge and will now remind me of Marilyn such a caring kind creative lady!

Barbara Hansen Basile

25 November 2020

My grandma was neighbor to the Dyers so knew warren and Marilyn.....marilyn had same middle name as my mother, Jenny amelia Thompson. Sorry to hear. Condolences to Warren and family. 💖