Jonathan asked me to post these photos of a day at the pool with Mimom, June 2014

this is my grandmother, She is a great women and the kindest I knew. now please stand up with me. 
Good afternoon Mimom, we love you to infinity and beyond and back an back an back.. 
I would say my grandmother would do anything to save us or help us and I believe you would do the same, she had a awesome and sweetest personality but she could kick your butt if she wanted to


-As written and read by Jonathan, age 9, with help from Addison, age 11

Thank you for always being so kind.  You always made me feel like I had been in your family for years when Kim and JP got married.   You were always smiling and never failed to talk to me about how the kids and I were doing in life.  And you always kept up through Facebook with your posts, likes and interest in making sure you knew what was going on in our lives.

I will miss you, I always looked forward to spending time with you and Wayne at the holidays.  You taught a lot of people  to love unconditionally and to love BIG just by watching your example.

We know that you will be watching over everyone as we all go through the next chapters of our life.  Rest easy Arlene, you were loved so much!

Never ever forgotten - forever loved - somewhere in Heaven they're dancing again!

Family means everything..... memories - laughter - never ending love.

My sister - always laughter - great memories - and never a dull moment!

Reunions were a time to enjoy her extended families and remind us all of how important family is - and to live - laugh - love!

With each family marriage... each child.... each grandchild.... her family and her Love grew bigger and stronger.  There were no strangers.

Was always there with a smile and a laugh......

Wayne could always put a smile on her face - her laughter would brighten a room -  

So many memories - so many different episodes in our lifetimes - but always together - always family - always there for each other - never alone - 

Anytime and every time we had a chance to be together it meant -
a lot of laughs - a lot of drinks - a lot of hugs and a lot of Love!

Love - Laughter - Life - We get one chance to make our mark and did we ever!!

Special people create - special memories - special families

Good times - Great memories - Family is what life is all about!

Until we grew up ....  we always danced like no one was watching! The memories are many and great.

Mom
I don’t know where to begin. I have put this off thinking maybe it would be easier to gather my thoughts later, note to self, it is not. I never thought I would have regrets, yet here I sit wanting to tell you one last time that I love you. Wanting to hug and kiss you. Did I do this the last time I was with you? It’s something I always wanted to make sure I did and looking back just days ago, I can’t remember. 
Mom, you are one of the strongest women I know. You had been through your own personal hell and back. You fought hard and you fought long. 
You have to know that you were my shelter.  You were always there to rub my head on your lap, rub behind my ears, trick me into taking naps, teaching me to read, pray, play card games, draw with me, watch Saturday TV with me, dance, sing, cry with me and laugh with me. You taught me how to keep a clean house and respect the Lord. You Mom, are the person I always want to talk to when I am sad and the person I want with me when I am sick or hurting.  I could tell you everything and anything and never feel judged. You always told me my strengths and always let me know what my sisters strengths were too.  You defended each of us always. Mom, we still had our ups and downs but you always had trust in me. Thank you!  You loved us girls and Daddy unconditionally, Thank you. I love you Mommy, my BFF, always and forever! Keep an eye us and know that ALL of your family loves and misses you. Hugs and kisses until we meet again. 

My sincere condolences. Sorry I'm late.  I've learned of this today from my cousin Ken Grocki.  I'll never forget her efforts to parallel park when she visited her mother-in-law.  Wayne, she was a great match for you.  I'm sorry for your loss.

September 13, 2021 - Part I
When you don’t have the words to say what you’re feeling, what do you say? To convey the images and fleeting memories filling your mind, when there are no words that can completely capture the milliseconds of footage whirring through your head, like an old film projector with short snippets of scenes playing out on a screen.
Memories of my mom, my larger than life hero as a child, the woman I was terrified of as a teen, but with whom I also couldn’t wait to eat popcorn and watch the campy sci-fi/horror flicks on USA Up All Night on Friday nights, and the woman who helped shape and mold the woman and mother I am today. The good and the bad, to be honest.
My mom liked a cold beer, particularly out of a frosty mug or glass. She liked sweet wines, kahlua and cream, root beer (always A&W, or course) and always, always water.  She liked the beach and the sound of the ocean, and actually loved the beach in the fall. She loved listening to Barbra Streisand. She loved Halloween and would get a kick out of her or Daddy wearing a mask and scaring kids on the front porch. She liked to play Rummy, but never let you stack the cards (I can’t remember what that’s called). She used to be a voracious reader, and loved a good mystery or paranormal movie or show. 

September 13, 2021 - Part II

But none of that compared to how much she loved all of us. And, oh how she loved my dad. And us of course, and her 10 grandchildren, including Lia. 
When I was young my mother told me we may live in a democracy but inside our house was a dictatorship, and she meant it! Legendarily strict, getting away with anything in that house was impossible (unless you were Cindy, who’s exploits and tales woven to help her get away with things  are also legendary). You know what REALLY stunk? Being the child AFTER Cindy! And like Kim, I’d never lie, so I was also my own worst enemy, and she knew it. I may not answer with the entire truth but she also eventually figured that out, and then what questions to really ask, as well. 
My mom was her own force, and I think anyone who knows her knows that. She has had some incredibly, terribly rough times in her life, but she knew true joy, and how to laugh, and passionately loved her family, whether by blood or bond. 
She was the kisser of booboos, the voice behind the Cookie Monster that chased me through the house, the lady who always loved to hear me sing, especially Somewhere Over the Rainbow, and that’s where she is now. Watching over us from there, over the rainbow, with angel wings, and her beautiful smile, looking down on and loving all of us. And I miss her.

(Part three)


As we say “See you later” know that mom is dancing above with those she loved and lost.  She is free from all the pain she suffered and limitations she endured.  I ask you to do as my mom did, and love with all of your heart.  There are no rules.  Open your heart to everyone, I promise it will make you smile, as it did my mom.  I love you mom, Thank you for molding your trifecta to perfection.  

(Part two)

Mom welcomed anyone into our family unit as if they had always been an intricate part.  Our friends were not friends long, but considered family within moments.  I swear her heart grew larger and larger the more our family expanded. She was quick to comment, like or share a story of ours, and yours on Facebook.  Respond to every single snapchat.  That was moms way of spreading the love and pride she felt for all of us, and you.  That was her way of communicating with everyone, and and she absolutely loved it.  She was always keeping us up to date about what each of you shared, For that, we thank you. You kept our mom in your life.  I  know I am already missing her reply snaps, and liking my photos from way back when.  

As you know, our mom has been through so very much the past few years.  We often joked she had 9 lives like that of a cat. Her strength and determination to survive each hurdle was amazing to witness.  I am not sure anyone could have risen above each obstacle, and still have a smile on their face.  

When I contacted our pastor about her mass, he asked me what sticks out in my mind that my mom has taught me.  Without hesitation, I said to love.  I know now looking back that everything she did raising us three, both good and bad, was a testament to her love for each of us.  In fact, none of us would be who we are or where we are today without her.  We wouldn’t have known how to be a wife,  never have the love and support of our husbands, who tolerate us even when they shouldn’t.  We wouldn’t have the best 10 grandchildren you can find.  We wouldn’t have our extended families, our friends, and we sure wouldn’t have each of you here today.  



On behalf of my dad, sisters and I….(part one)

Growing up our mom was one stern woman, in fact, many we knew (@ Kent) were quite scared of her.  Ok, Kim and Mary were too, but they will never admit it. I like to think I toughened her up by pushing her to her limits, I’m sure she silently loved every minute of it, but I will never know for sure.  Mom enjoyed many hobbies over the years, reading, crafting, decorating cakes, and then working with the children at McCormick Elementary.   She oftened referred back to those days, with a bright smile on her face.  

Fast forward to my sisters and I marrying.  We knew the true meaning of being a wife, as mom gave us the greatest example, every day of our lives.  Her love and devotion to our dad was nothing short of spectacular.  They were like bread and butter, the moon and stars, salt and pepper. Their destiny was each other, they were born to be husband and wife.   It was evident to everyone that knew them. Dad was moms soul mate, and we are forever grateful for their union.  

I think becoming a grandmother was mom’s true calling in life.  She loved her nine grandchildren with the same enthusiasm as she loved us three, and my dad.  When Codi married Lia, mom embraced her as if she had been here all along.  She was proud to tell anyone and everyone who listened she had 10 grandchildren.  Her body may not have physically allowed her to do all she wanted to do with the kids, but she was certain to tell every single one of them hem how much they filled her heart.  She had been caught doing tic tocs videos and snap chat snippits. Gone were the days of the stern woman!  

Growing up across the street from my best friend, Miss Arlene was like my 2nd mom. She was kind and generous, but also knew when to keep Mary and I out of trouble. I’m glad my Mom had a great friend in her and we had her looking out for us. The love she showed for Mr Wayne, her girls, family, and friends (and even their chihuahua  who only liked her) was obvious to everyone. My childhood was only made better by having her in my life and I have nothing but fond memories. Sending my love to you all from afar but know that I will celebrate her life with a toast and a round of cards on the patio. 

To the Barlow Family, 

I’m so incredibly sorry for you and your families tremendous loss. Mrs. Arlene was always so kind to me and my family. She had a huge heart and you can tell how much she loved her family and how much they all loved her. I hope you all feel surrounded by love durning this difficult time.  You all have been in our thoughts and prayers. 

Love, 

The Eisenhuth Family 

OBITUARIO

Arlene F. Barlow

30 diciembre, 1946 – 13 septiembre, 2021

Schimunek Funeral Home

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