18, 2020.
The youngest son of nine children, Kazuro was born in Hiratsuka, Japan on
September 16,1932 to Shuji Saito and Ai Kojima Saito. He graduated from Hatano High School
then attended Waseda University in Tokyo majoring in Education. Kazuro taught English at
Hiratsuka Junior High for 2 years followed by another 2 years teaching at Hatano High School.
When he attended these schools as a boy, he would walk to school but as a teacher he rode a
small Japanese motorcycle. Early in his career, he participated in a Professional Teacher’s
Exchange with teachers from the nearby American military base, Camp Zama. There he met
three American teachers, Dorothy Earnest, Millie McClain (Chlupacek) and Patricia Lewis. They
spoke fondly of their Universities back in the States and he especially was intrigued at the
possibility of attending the University of Georgia. Meanwhile, his family had arranged a
marriage to a young woman through a go-between and young Kazuro agreed to marry her, but
first he wanted to fulfill his dream of attending graduate school in the States. Kazuro stayed in
touch with the 3 Americans he had met from the United States and decided to attend UGA.
Kazuro left Japan and landed in California and immediately took a cross country bus tour. He
did not realize how large the USA was and how long this would take. At that time, foreign
students could only bring $500.00 into the country and they were required to have a sponsor.
Kazuro was sponsored by well-known Presbyterian Minister and radio personality, Dr. Manford
George Gutzke. Kazuro majored in Educational Psychology and lived in the Law Graduate
Dormitory at the UGA. He joined the Cosmopolitan Club where he met a blue-eyed, brunette
freshman who hailed from Salisbury, North Carolina and Alexandria, Virginia. He introduced
himself, stating his last name first and Mom called him “Saito” for nearly half of their marriage.
And so, their beautiful love-of-a-lifetime story began. Their first date was going to the movie
Breakfast at Tiffany’s. Mom was a little uncomfortable because of the way Mickey Rooney
portrayed Mr. Yunioshi in the movie but Saito didn’t seem offended. Months later he would
profess his love and devotion by giving her a pendant necklace with a small diamond chip in it
and told her he was the “Prince of the Orient” and she believed him. He never gave another
thought about his betrothal back in Japan as he was set on his love match here in the States.
Karen Butler and Kazuro Saito were married at First United Methodist Church in Salisbury, NC
on September 2, 1962. They made their home in Augusta where Saito served as the Director for
the Lynndale School. In 1965, they moved to the Charlotte area so that Saito could teach
Special Education at Pineville Elementary and later at Randolph Middle School. Saito continued
his certification and ultimately worked as a School Psychologist for the Charlotte Mecklenburg
School System retiring after 27 years in 1993.
In 1967, Kazuro Saito renounced his Japanese Citizenship and became a Naturalized United
States Citizen. At that time, he took the middle name “Raymond” because, according to him,
both Kazuro and Raymond mean “Man of Peace”. Even though he was no longer a citizen, Ray
took his family back to Japan a dozen times. He relished planning the itinerary to visit his 3
brothers, 5 sisters and their families as well as many historical and tourist destinations. In his
later years, he managed to attend Middle and High School Reunions and took 7 grandkids one
or two at a time to tour his native land and meet many relatives. Whenever he visited Japan,
people told him that he spoke archaic Japanese. He admitted once that he had become so
American that he actually dreamed in English.
Family was everything to Ray. He converted from Buddhism to United Methodist to join a larger
Christian family. He raised his 4 daughters and was a strict disciplinarian. He stressed the
importance of education and encouraged all his children and grandchildren to earn scholarships
for college. He attended his daughters’ sports events and drove the horse trailer to countless
horse shows. He later got more involved and became the Navigator for Karen’s Haflinger
Carriage Driving events. He attended almost every Beeton-Vetter Family Reunion and played
“Oh Susanna” on harmonica at the Family talent shows. Ray loved to take the family camping
in a truck camper to Lake Arrowhead Campground in Myrtle Beach where they would stay in the
wooded campsites and eat Calabash shrimp at the All-You-Can-Eat buffet. He loved inland,
shore and deep sea fishing. He mistakenly assumed he wouldn’t get sea sick because he was
from an island country. He attended many activities of his grandchildren including A Wando
High School Soccer State Championship game, baseball games, Hickory Ridge Homecoming,
Butler High School and Drum Corps International band events and many swim meets.
Ray had a deep respect for the military and in the late 1980’s, he joined the Civil Air Patrol. He
often flew with the late Curly Martin to search for lost planes. He retired as a Major and his
biggest thrill was becoming an Honorary Tailhooker having survived an aircraft carrier landing
aboard the USS Lexington. He received the United States Air Force Auxiliary Civil Air Patrol
L.B. Martin Memorial Award (named for his close friend, Curly) in 1995 from the Piedmont
Senior Squadron North Carolina Wing.
Ray always had a garden and grew many Japanese vegetables from seeds. His friends of 50
years, Mati and Hiroko Suzuki were surprised to learn recently that Saito-san could cook many
traditional Japanese foods, such as Pork Katsudon, Sukiyaki, Shrimp Tempura, sushi, fried rice
and ramen. Customarily, Japanese men only cook special foods once a year on New Year’s
Day. Later in life, we were pleasantly surprised when he diversified and offered us his new
found specialities, apple pie, vegetable soup, Quiche Lorraine and enchilada casserole.
Ray loved meeting people and had many life-long friends, among them-- many Japanese
American friends, a 70 year friendship with Yoichi Ino of Kanagawa, Japan, a 60 year friendship
with Duane Farabaugh of Forest Hills, NY, a retirement friendship with Jim Lovett, a brotherly
friendship with the Late Juan Vitella, and a fatherly friendship with former neighbor, Samuel
Cortes. He also had a special relationship with all 4 son-in-laws, tackling home improvement
projects, automotive maintenance and going fishing.
Our father faced his pancreatic cancer diagnosis with hope and a deep desire to live as long as
possible so he could continue to help care for our mother and the 5 acres of land that he had
lived on for 44 years. We would like to thank his Internist Dr. Gregory Musa, his Oncologist, Dr.
Adam Kuykendal and their entire medical staff. We would like to thank Dr. White at Synergy
Holistic Health. A special thanks to Hospice & Palliative Care Charlotte and his Nurse, Vicki
Casstellucci, RN.
Survivors include wife, Karen Butler Saito of Matthews; sister, Fukuko Hamada of Oiso, Japan
and sister-in-laws; Miyoko Saito of Hiratsuka, Japan and Sarah Butler of Winston Salem, NC;
brother-in-law; Samuel Butler, Jr of Stockbridge, GA; Daughters; Dr. Angela Saito (Jeff
Donaldson) of Mt Pleasant, SC, Michelle Brewer (Buddy) of Harrisburg, NC, Aimee Saito
(Jimmy Wright) and Joanna Saito (Scott Betz) both of Charlotte. 11 Grandchildren: Zach
Donaldson (Meghan), Devin Donaldson; Adam, Madison, Abby, Branson & Lawson Brewer;
Cameron & Alex Wright; Jack and Graham Betz; and multitudes of extended family in the States
and in Japan.
Memorials may be made to Cokesbury UMC, 6701 Idlewild Rd., Charlotte, NC or pancan.org.
McEwen Mint Hill is entrusted with Arrangements. A Celebration of his Life is planned for a later
date.
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