Elsa Sita M. Fewer

Many things can be said about Elsa M. Fewer (Sita). Known to friends and acquaintances as a friendly, energetic, empathic and decisive woman, her compassionate nature would always shine through, revealing her charm, warmth and conscientious demeanor. She was warmhearted, gentle and organized in all the things she sought to accomplish. Sita was a mentor, a natural “teacher” capable of seeing things clearly, leading others and bringing out the best in all of those around her. She generally had a focus on harmony and peace.

Sita was born on December 6, 1955 at Kern County Hospital in Bakersfield, California. Her parents were Rodolfo and Antonia Moreno. Sita was raised in Beaumont, California. When she was young, Sita's friends and family found that “straightforward” and “honest” were perfect words to describe her. Even as a child, Sita demonstrated strong qualities of self-confidence, perceptive ability and a disposition that was enjoyable to those around her.

Sita grew up with 16 siblings. Sita was constantly involved in all sorts of activities with her family. She was even-tempered, taking care not to get involved in too many family conflicts. This quality served her well, in perpetually bringing harmony, understanding and a sense of peace to the family. Sita carried these traits into her adult life and served as one of many reasons why family and friends found her pleasurable and delightful to be around. Sita was a person who genuinely understood and cared for others, making powerful connections with those she knew.

As a young girl, Sita was imaginative, ingenious, clever and a “novel” thinker. Regardless of whether her peers were older or younger, or came from different backgrounds, Sita could easily relate to other kids. She was a Girl Scout. However, to Sita, the most fun to be had was simply playing and spending time with her many friends.

During her high school years, Sita had a natural flair for cheering on and applauding just about everyone. She was constantly offering her support and encouragement to fellow members of the groups and activities in which she participated. She graduated from Beaumont High School in 1973. She did well in school and genuinely enjoyed telling stories in a way that drew people to her. In this way, Sita had a talent for becoming the center of attention, a kind of social catalyst. Sita was often found to be the lead person facilitating a group activity, frequently filling the role of being “the life of the party.” Teachers and classmates knew Sita as an excellent listener. She placed a high value on learning and always understood that there was a new lesson to be grasped waiting for her just around the corner. The teacher she enjoyed learning from the most was Mr. Hunter.

Always considered a “good” friend, Sita sought to understand the things that others enjoyed. For this reason Sita always seemed to possess a never-ending collection of acquaintances. Sita’s friends found her easy to know and get along with because of her talent for being socially at ease, adept at conversation, and always amiable in her dealings with others. Sita would always seek to learn what her friends enjoyed, and she would go out of her way to make sure that their needs were met. Sita was always seen as the type of person who was the more gracious giver. In fact, she sometimes felt ill at ease when she was the one on the receiving end. Throughout her life she had many friends. While growing up, some of her best friends were Glendora Elmore and Barbara. Later in life, she became friends with Elaine Moreno.

On May 23, 1976 Sita married James L. Fewer at the Silver Bells in Las Vegas, Nevada. Compassionate and devoted, Sita worked hard to make her new family happy. By trusting her emotions, Sita did her best to make sure that both the marriage and home life ran smoothly. This is just one more example of how Sita was truly a person of empathy.

Sita’s quality of being a caring and tolerant person who was very accepting of others translated to being a good mother to her children. Sita shared these values with her two sons, Billy and Jimmy. Sita was also blessed with two grandchildren, Kashmir and Carlos. Sita related well to children of all ages and was able to connect to them on their level. The children always loved her and she was completely and totally devoted to them.

Sita experienced success in her work life over and over again. Her primary occupation was Homemaker. Sita always made the effort to understand what was needed at home. Sita took pride in managing her responsibilities and taking care of her family.

Because she was organized and methodical, Sita took great pleasure in her various hobbies. Her favorite pursuits were collecting dolls and playing her DS. Sita enjoyed sharing her passions with others and could singularly focus on one hobby at a time.

Sita derived much satisfaction from sports. Because she was so instinctive and could always grasp the big picture, Sita delighted in the strategy and inner workings of a competition. Sita was also something of a sports fan and enjoyed watching her favorite teams' events whenever she got the opportunity. Tops on her list were the Lakers and the Cowboys.

Sita was well known to others for her ability to naturally and conscientiously move into action to help others, a quality that placed her as an active contributor to many community activities. Charismatic by nature, she was always viewed by others as someone who built bridges, connected to people, and upheld her personal values. Serving on committees for the Head of Hostess Committee of Canaan Church.

Sita’s faith was important to her. She was a member of the Canaan Church for 17 years. During that time, she was active in Women's Bible Study and Prison Ministries. She was compassionate and warm hearted, someone who truly cared for others and that was clearly demonstrated in her work with the congregation.

Sita enjoyed traveling, and because she was so well organized, she would take on the responsibility of planning and scheduling all of the family vacations. Her gift for keeping things lively meant that vacations with Sita were always enjoyable. Favorite vacations included San Francisco.

Sita was a lover of animals and cherished her pets. One of Sita's favorite was Mory the Cat and Lexi the Dog. They were best friends. She had Mory for 3 years and Lexi for 2 years.

Sita passed away on November 14, 2010 at San Gorgonio Memorial Hospital, Banning, California. She fought a brave battle against liver disease. She is survived by her husband, James Fewer; son, Jimmy Fewer, Jr; grandchildren, Carlos and Kashmir Shelton; brothers, Moises, Richard, Bob, Lorenzo, Jessie and Art Moreno and sisters, Yolanda Morales and Elizabeth Gonzalez. She was preceded in death by her mother, Antonia Moreno and her son, Billy Shelton. Services were held Saturday, November 20, 2010,at 11:00 AM, at Weaver Mortuary, 1177 Beaumont Ave, Beaumont, California. Sita was laid to rest on December 5, 2010, at 11:00 AM, in Mountain View Cemetery, 1315 Edgar Ave, Beaumont, California.

Throughout her life, Sita was a gregarious and enthusiastic woman. She was generous in sharing her personal attributes, giving and helping those she knew and loved. She would often fill the role of coach, bringing out the best in everyone. She was imaginative, original, tender hearted and easy to get along with. Sita leaves behind her a legacy of life-long friendships and cherished memories. Everyone whose lives she touched will dearly remember Elsa M. Fewer.

Arrangements were entrusted to Weaver Mortuary, Beaumont, California.