Joan Elaine Parrish

It is with sadness we let you know of the passing of our loving Mom, Joan Elaine Parrish (née Tookey). We take great comfort though in knowing Mom does not have to live through any more challenging days or nights. Her mind is now peaceful and free.

Joan was born September 25, 1929 in Flint, Michigan to John and Irene Tookey. Her family moved to Winnipeg, MB when Joan was 2 years old. After a few years, they relocated to Vancouver, BC where she grew up and would meet her husband, Bill. Bill and Joan celebrated their 65th wedding anniversary before Bill’s passing in 2014. Their relationship endured many ups and downs but they always had a steadfast love for each other. After marrying in 1949, they together raised their three children in North Burnaby; Claudia Findlay (Randy), Jeff (Nancy), Brent (Kathy) and former daughter-in-law, Wendie. Joan "Gran" had five grandchildren: Jennifer, Kristine, Brent, Tyler and Lindsay. She called them her special treasures and loved them dearly – ‘millions’ she would say. She was known as Gigi to eight wonderful great grandchildren.

Joan’s career working at Eaton’s department store starting in the 1960’s defined her personality. She had a love for fashion. Shoulder pads and pumps from Ingledews always completed her outfit. And of course, there was Mom’s one of a kind blonde coiffed hairdo! Finishing her career in women’s fashion in the Signature Shop, capped off a much-loved career.

Friendships were an integral part of Joan's life. From her Steel Magnolias to her Eaton’s Ladies, Joan valued spending time laughing, lunching and reminiscing with them over the years. Joan and Bill together were fortunate enough to have many close couples friends too. Special friends, Marlene and Carl were never far in distance or heart from Mom and Dad. Whether it be playing cards, having drinks or sharing laughs, they were all paramount in shaping who Joan was. She prided herself on being a devout friend. Holding memories and secrets shared close to her heart. A defining word mentioned by all was ‘kind’. Joan's kind heart and warm hands were always a constant in their lives. Joan always had time for her friends and she will be sorely missed by them all.

When Joan and Bill moved to Calgary in 2014, they were initially saddened to leave their home near the water at Seagate in South Surrey, BC, however the promise of being close to their daughter and her loving care was seen as a gift. Joan and Claudia were inseparable after Bill's passing. A love like theirs is rarely witnessed in life. Whether it may be a lunch date at Ladybug Café - always with extra whipped cream for her waffles - or a quick dash through the Tim's drive-thru for a steeped tea, Joan never turned down an adventure. Always up for a ride down the highway in the "red bug" was when Joan discovered her love of the mountains and open sky. Joan would always remark about the beauty of the clouds. Finding solace in their majesty, Joan felt peace in their presence.

Mom met her challenge with dementia with her characteristic courage and grace. She was so appreciative of the kind and gentle caregivers on the 3rd floor where she resided in her beautiful Room 322. The caregivers helped to bring much happiness to her days and nights, as well as Dr. Tran and the entire Generation community. We her family, say a heartfelt thank you. Always with a gold-wrapped Werthers candy in her hand, Joan would be waiting for them to colour or sing with her and to wheel her down the hall for a ride. Joan's nurturing instinct was apparent when she would care for her Baby. Joan brought happiness to the third floor like no other.

On the evening of April 26th, Joan journeyed to Heaven to find her beloved parents and Bill. As we pause to take time to look up at the sky, we encourage you to do the same. Joan's warmth and love is shining bright.

There will be no service and we respectfully request no flowers, please. If you wish to make a donation in Joan's memory, it would be directed to Cerebral Palsy Association of BC or Calgary Cerebral Palsy.

“I can only say Mom I will miss holding your hand and talking with you, I cannot put my arms around you now but will always hold you safe in my heart along with the many memories we shared together. We can do it Mom.” Love Claudia