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OBITUARY

Donald Lee Beci

September 21, 1954January 21, 2019

Donald Lee Beci, 64 of Apex, passed away at his home on January 21, 2019.

Donald was born September 21, 1954 in Illinois to the late Victor Beci and his surviving mother, Alice (Fabrie).

Don earned multiple degrees from the University of Illinois including a BS in Social Work, magna cum laude, an MS in Social Work, and Juris Doctorate, cum laude. As an attorney, he used his expertise to fight injustice; he protected, and compassionately represented his clients. The highlight of his career was serving as a law professor at Campbell University School of Law, and at Chicago-Kent College of Law. In addition, Don assisted North Carolina Superior Court Judges for seven years as an advisor to the NC Pattern Jury Instruction Committee.

Prior to practicing law in North Carolina Don also resolved family law issues as the Director and Supervising Attorney of a family law clinic operated in collaboration with the Northern Illinois University College of Law.

Don was a partner with Wyrick Robbins law firm in Raleigh for several years practicing traditional family law involving frequent trials. After concluding that families do not belong in court, he opened Beci Family Law and refocused his career exclusively on collaborative law, mediation, and assisting his clients to resolve marital issues in ways that do not involve the court system.

While Don had many great achievements, he was always humble and kind. He will be remembered for his adventurous spirit, love of music, and for always seeing the best in those around him. He treated those he cared about with selfless love and kindness while expecting nothing in return.

He will be lovingly remembered by his daughters, Jenna Beci and Austyn Beci, their mother, Rose Beci; his mother, Alice Beci, brothers, Mark Beci (Jodi) and Thomas Beci (Nancy), sister, Vicki Sturms (David), and many nephews and nieces.

A Celebration of Life will be on Saturday, February 2, 2019 at 2:00 PM at Unity Church of the Triangle with a gathering to follow. Unity Church of the Triangle, 5570 Munford Rd, Raleigh, NC 27612.

In lieu of flowers, performing a random act of kindness would honor him.

Condolences can be sent to apexfuneral.net

Services

  • Celebration of Life Memorial Service

    Saturday, February 2, 2019

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Monica (Lee) Jackson

June 6, 2019

I just learned of Professor Beci's death reading the State Bar Journal, and am profoundly saddened to hear of his passing for reasons too numerous to include here. In reading the other tributes to Professor Beci, I saw a common thread with the reason why I wanted to share my gratitude and love for him. He was the all-too-rare example of what all humans should strive to be - empathetic, kind, generous, helpful to his fellow men (and women), always jovial... I could go on.

Until the day I die, I will never forget the kindness and empathy he selflessly shared with me, in such a small but powerful way, in one of the lowest points in my life. Just after I took the bar exam, I was violently assaulted by a stranger who broke into my apartment in the middle of the night near Campbell University. Neither the university nor the law school would acknowledge the incident occurred for fear of bad publicity. But Don Beci, Tom Anderson, and Jean Cary made an effort to console me, to comfort me, to be there for me when I was in shock, trauma, and fear. They simply took me to lunch, spent time with me, and showed me compassion when I felt so alone and scared. I have many other fun memories of Professor Beci, but this one I will carry with me and share with my children as an example of true compassion and love for others.

Thank you Professor Beci, your impact on myself and others will live forever.

Love and prayers to the family,

Monica Langdon Lee Jackson
Campbell Law
Class of 1998

Adele Fabrie

February 17, 2019

Grant that as we grieve
We may hold memory dear,
Living in hope of your eternal kingdom - where you promise
to bring us together again.

Bradley Bannon

February 13, 2019

Over 20 years ago, I was one of Don Beci's criminal law & procedure students at Campbell Law School. I remember his teaching style as being imminently accessible to me. I greatly appreciated that, because I'd learned during my first year that I was hardly a gifted law student. After graduation, I didn't see or communicate much with Professor Beci (that's what I still called him), but in some ways he's been with me throughout my practice, because I became a career criminal defense attorney. I only recently learned of his passing, or I would have paid my respects in person at his memorial service. Since I didn't get that chance, the least I could do is pay them here, along with expressing my deepest condolences to his surviving family & friends.

Lisa Angel

February 13, 2019

I was so sorry to hear of Don's passing. I only knew him professionally as opposing counsel in family law cases in Raleigh NC. He was always kind and upbeat. He had a positive outlook which can be rare in family law. I enjoyed working with him and so respected how he would help clients to get through the process without causing further harm to each other and their children. He was one of the good guys. He will be missed.

Brad Schulz

February 12, 2019

I met Don a number of years ago when he and Tom Anderson were handling the trial ad program at Campbell Law School. My prior firm in Smithfield was impressed with their work, and we were able to hire a number of summer clerks, and associates, who had excelled in the program. We became friends over the years, and have stayed in touch from time to time. He was a great Professor and a practicing attorney. My deep condolences to the family at this time of loss.

Brad Schulz
Beaufort, NC

Jim Barnes

February 7, 2019

Don was not only the best friend I have ever had, he was like the brother I never had. I was privileged to be able to tell a few stories about him at the celebration of his life, but there was no way to capture the depth and breadth of his personality in 3-4 minutes.

It was been a joy to read these wonderful tributes to him from his family and many friends. Together, they reflect his deep interest in the people around him. He was such a rare package of intelligence, compassion and humor.

Rest easy, Don. I will miss you dearly.

Alice Beci

February 6, 2019

Grant that my son, Don, who has been called from our homes and our presence enter into the embrace of Your Faithful and
Everlasting Love in Heaven

Arlene and John Bak

February 3, 2019

Dear Don,
You were so loved not only by the Beci/Fabrie families, but by everyone whose life you touched by your friendliness, sincerity, kindness and generosity.
We will never forget the wonderful evening you spent with us when you came for dinner when we lived in Geneva, Illinois.
Our conversations in the past year about our common concerns and the music you recommended that you so loved will always be special.
Your warmth and smile is unforgettable. You were more than a cousin; you were like a brother.
Peace be with you.........You will be missed.
Love,
Arlene & John

Trudy Gordon

February 2, 2019

I am so sad to hear of Don's passing. We worked together at the University of Illinois in the Office of Space Utilization after he graduated with his Masters of Social Work degree and before he decided to go to law school. We became good friends and had some wonderful adventures together. He helped me through a very difficult time in my life and I will always appreciative the impact he had on me. No one was more enthusiastic and fun. Through him I became a life long Bruce Springsteen and Bob Seger fan and I still think of him when I hear they're music. We lost touch over the years, and I'm so sorry I didn't know about his illness so I could have reached out to him. My condolences to his entire family. He was an amazing person and one I will never forget.

Scott Beci

February 2, 2019

We lost uncle Don too soon. I remember all the energy and compassion my uncle had. How much he cared for his family. He would always be there for the important moments no matter how far away he was. I will miss you Uncle Don.

FROM THE FAMILY

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