Apex Funeral Home

550 W Williams St, Apex, NC


Haywood Arthur Lane Jr.

December 1, 1936February 10, 2020

Haywood Arthur Lane, Jr., 83, of Cary passed away Monday, February 10, 2020 at his home surrounded by his loved ones.

Haywood was born, December 1, 1936 in Wayne Co. NC to the late Haywood and Margaret Lane.

Haywood spent his professional career as the President of Fidelity Bank, retiring after more than 45 years of service.

In his free time, Haywood adored spending his days on any body of water with a fishing pole in hand. One thing he loved more than fishing was his precious family. His grin was always ear to ear when he had his arms wrapped around his grandchildren and great grandchildren. His smile will be sorely missed by many.

Haywood is preceded in death by his father, Haywood Arthur Lane, Sr.; his mother, Margaret Virginia (Howell) Lane.

Haywood is survived by his lifetime partner Peggy Ridout; his daughter, Nancy Marcom and her husband Thomas; and son, Haywood Arthur Lane, III and his wife Kristi; Along with 5 grandchildren Heather Beckwith, Janet Parker, Max Marcom, Aimee Lane and Haywood Arthur Lane IV; and 3 great grandchildren Taylor Johnson, Trevor Johnson and Aiden Parker.

A memorial service to honor Haywood's life is scheduled for 4:00pm, Saturday, February 15, 2020 at Apex Funeral Home, 550 W. Williams St. Apex, NC 27502. A reception with light refreshments will take place immediately following at Apex Funeral Home. The family welcomes all to stay to rejoice and tell stories of Haywood's legacy.

In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions may be made in Haywood's honor to Campbell’s Divinity School.


  • Memorial Service Saturday, February 15, 2020


Haywood Arthur Lane Jr.

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February 14, 2020

Haywood was a long-time tax client of mine. But more than that, he was a long-time friend of mine. We were both native Wayne Countians and we were familiar with a lot of the same places and people and had some of the same interests. We loved to talk about all that. I always looked forward to any business appointment with him because we spent almost all the time sharing memories and catching up on each other's lives. Everybody in my office also loved his visits because he was such a nice and down-to-earth guy who so easily flashed that big smile of his. Haywood, I am going to miss those business appointments but that totally pales in comparison to how much I am going to miss you as my friend.

Paul Helms

February 14, 2020

Haywood was my best friend for over 50 years. He was more than a brother to me.
We traveled to the coast on fishing trips and to the mountains for the view and to play golf. We were both right handed but played golf left handed. About 18 months ago, he came by the house and gave me his clubs and said he would not be playing any more. I am playing with some of his clubs and think of our fun times together every time I play golf.
For years every March we would go to Florida to see his favorite Yankees in spring training. We had so much fun attending games throughout Florida.
I am so thankful for his friendship and all the wonderful memories and will cherish them as long as I live.
Nancy and Hank...Glenda and I have always considered you as part of our family and love you very much.
Peggy...thank you for being so faithful to Haywood. Glenda and I had so much fun on all of our trips together.
Haywood was an extraordinary person and we will miss him very much.

Dwight Frazier

February 13, 2020

Shooting Ducks, Eating (trying to) Ducks
Visits / Parties and Business
Hank you and Nancy smile and take of yourselves

Brenda Green

February 13, 2020

I worked with Haywood at the Fidelity Bank, Robbins, NC back in the 70s. He was the best boss I’ve ever had, really enjoyed working with him. We had a great crew and we had lots of good times. I had never been in the bank until I went in to sign a loan, first time I had ever met Mr. Lane, before I left he had offered me a job, said he’d like for me to come and work with him. Those were good days, working for him and Billy Woodard. Prayers for all the family. He will be missed but never forgotten!

Jimmie Ann Lassiter

February 13, 2020

Haywood was my neighbor in Robbins many years ago. Will miss you and your nice smile. Rest in Peace my friend.

Willa Spivey

February 12, 2020

When you have a moment to look back over your life and think of the people that have most influenced you Mr Lane stands out like a Beacon. He was delightful in his delivery whether it was praise or a reprimand!! I had a lot of learning curves with him for sure! No doubt the world's light dimmed the day he left.

My deepest sympathy to his family.

Mamie Richardson

February 12, 2020

I worked for Mr. Lane at the Fidelity Bank in Cary,NC when he was the Manager. Mr. Lane and I got along very well. in fact I was the first and only African American woman working there in 1976. I always admired him and the talks we shared. To his family, I pray the strength from our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ to sustain you in these difficult hours and days.
With Peace and Comfort!
Mamie Mckoy Richardson
Fuquay-Varina, NC

Laura Scott

February 12, 2020

Mr. Lane will forever be remembered by me as one of the greats. I had the pleasure of knowing him both in and out of the bank. I looked forward to his phone calls and his encouragement at work. He was one of a kind and I often find myself quoting him or thinking of some advice he gave me. He will be missed by many. Continued prayers for his family.

Neil Wolfe

February 11, 2020

Sorry to hear of Mr. Lane passing. He was always an encouraging leader and a pleasure to work for. I will always appreciate that he helped me start my career and he made sure to call to let me know when I did a good job. Thank you for making a difference in my life.

Tom Choiniere

February 11, 2020

I’m sadden by the news of your passing. For all the right reasons, you were one of a kind. Thank you for being so kind to me over the years. I couldn’t be more grateful for the time spent, and the things I learned from you. I will always remember your humor, your people skills, the first glass of scotch I ever had was with you, how much you loved baseball, fishing, and most of all, how much you loved & cared for your family and friends. Heaven is lucky to have you.