John Benedict Hernes
September 30, 1937 – March 16, 2020
John Benedict Hernes, 82, of Apex, formerly of Hartford, CT, passed away Monday, March 16, 2020 at Transitions Life Care Hospice in Raleigh, NC.
John was born September 30, 1937 in Hartford, CT to the late George and Madeline (Sargent) Hernes. He was a veteran of the US Marine Corps. John had a successful career as a sales representative in the printing industry in New York City and Hartford, CT.
He was preceded in death by his sister, Marcia Thibeault and son in law Donald E. Melinsky.
John will be lovingly missed by his wife of 48 years, Shirley Ann Hernes and his 5 children; Heidi Parks and her husband Gary of New York, Laurie Salzano and her husband Robert of New York, and Jennifer Melinsky of Michigan, Steven Mansfield and his wife Aida of Texas and Jodi Snyder and her husband Robert of North Carolina; Eight Grandchildren, Jayni Campbell, Ally Kepler, Derek Melinsky, Kimberly DeStefano, Alexandra Mansfield, Lauren Snyder, Rachel Snyder, and Erika Snyder and Maddie; and Great Grand Daughter Marin Harper Kepler; Brother, George Hernes and his wife Betty of Florida; along with several nieces and nephews and extended family members.
The family would also like to thank the caregivers at Heartsfield of Cary, who he lovingly referred to as Mr. Curtis (Curtis Thomas) and My China (China Yates) and the wonderful nurses at Transitions Life Care Hospice of Raleigh.
A private memorial service will be held Friday, March 20, 2020 at 3PM at Apex Funeral Home, 550 W. Williams St. Apex, NC 27502.
Donations in memory of John Hernes can be made to the American Diabetes Foundation. https://www.diabetes.org/donate
- Private Memorial Service Friday, March 20, 2020
John Benedict Hernes
Steve & Aida Mansfield
March 20, 2020
How do you condense 48 years into just a few words or memories? John came into our lives and filled a huge hole left by a missing father in my early teenage years. Our family became whole again. Life lessons, travels, experiences and everything else that any family would share created a full life that we have enjoyed because John was a big part of it.
I have memories that will be cherished always. From teenage years in the Boy Scouts, learning to drive (John taught), swimming, on to college then starting my career in the oilfield, there was always support from John.
Twenty-four years ago I found the love of my life. John supported our marriage and played a significant role in the wedding (gave away the Bride - of course there is a story behind that).
Family reunions at Myrtle Beach gave us further great memories of our whole family that we may have missed out on if it had not been for John's support. As a family, we all have much to be greatful for and can attribute much of it to John.
Rest in peace Dad, and thank you for everything.
Steve, Aida and Alexandra
March 19, 2020
Thinking of you, and Steven & Jodi, & John’s daughters. We are sending love your way.
I have such fond memories of visits to your home with our family. John was always so warm and welcoming, fun to be with, and funny! Such a generous person.
We send you much love,
Krissy, & Todd, Devon, & Sophie