Fay Alesso

June 6, 1933January 24, 2013

Fay (Reynolds) Alesso June 6, 1933 - January 24, 2013 Fay was born in Rector, Arkansas on June 6, 1933 to Corbett and Orine Reynolds. Corbett and Orine brought their family to Bakersfield in early 1937. Fay attended various elementary schools in Bakersfield, Panama Junior High School and Kern County Union High School (aka Bakersfield High School). Fay graduated from high school in 1950. She met the love of her life, Ernest D. Alesso when she was just 13 and they were married 4 years later. They celebrated their 62nd wedding anniversary on January 13, 2013. Fay is predeceased by her mother Orine Reynolds, her brother Clyde (Ed) Reynolds, and her father Corbett Reynolds. She is survived by her loving husband, Ernest D. Alesso, sons David L. Alesso and wife Eileen, Michael J. Alesso and wife Lynn, and daughter Judy Fay Alesso, grandchildren Michael J. Alesso II, and Alexandra Paige Alesso, sister Joyce Dobbs and her husband Kenneth Dobbs, her two dear sisters-in-law, Gloria Alesso and Mardean Alesso and numerous nieces, nephews, great-nieces and great-nephews. Fay had countless long time friends, many of whom she knew for more than 50 years. Especially dear to her heart were Joyce Thompson, Wilma Hender, Maude (Ellen) Freeman, Eva McNaughton and Gloria Henderson. Fay had a great capacity for loving people outside of her immediate family, which was evident by how she touched the lives of so many people. She never met a child she didn't love and was a second mother to many. She opened her home to foster children and friends of her own children who were going through rough times or just needed a place to stay. Her heart, arms, and door were always open to those in need. She wanted you all to know that if she told you she loved you, she loved you. She worked for 14 years as a Nutrition Aide for the University of California Extension Service through the Farm and Home Advisors Office teaching nutrition and money management to people in low-income areas of Kern County. She also volunteered at Beardsley School when her children attended there. She was a Cub Scout leader, Girl Scout leader, taxied what seemed like half the children in Oildale to and from school and sporting events. She was a great cook and loved to bake and is well known for her "buns", carrot cake and apple pie. Fay is already and will continue to be sorely missed. We take great comfort in knowing that she went home to be with Jesus Christ her Lord and Savior on Thursday, January 24, 2013. Visitation/viewing is Friday, February 1, 2013 from 4:00 pm to 8:00 pm at Hillcrest Memorial Park & Mortuary. Memorial services will be held on Saturday, February 2, 2013 at 10:00 am with interment and reception following at Hillcrest Memorial Park & Mortuary located at 9101 Kern Canyon Road in Bakersfield, California. In lieu of flowers, please consider making a donation to the Kern County branch of Hoffmann Hospice;nbp&of the;nbsp&Valley located at 8501 Brimhall Road, Bakersfield, CA 93312 or at The family would like to thank the following: Debbie, Mark, and Juanita from Hoffmann Hospice, the caregivers, nurses, and doctors at San Joaquin Community Hospital, Wayne Budney from Helping Hand Senior Care Services and the staff at Dean's Care Villa for taking such exceptional care of Fay.


  • Visitation Friday, February 1, 2013
  • Funeral Service Saturday, February 2, 2013

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Judy F Alesso

January 25, 2018

January 24 is a date that will never be forgotten. I cant believe its been 5 years since you were called home. It hasnt become any easier or less painful, you are missed constantly. I drove to Bakersfield today to give you flowers and to talk to you. Everything has changed since youve been gone. I just keep putting one foot in front of the other and keep moving along. Not exactly sure where Im supposed to be going. Your other daughter Elaine, always makes sure to send me a message on yours and Pops anniversary (1-13) and today (1-24). She sends a big hug, a kiss and her Love to Pop and lets me know shes thinking about me. I think her heart broke as much as mine when you left. Pops memory shrinks more every day with his dementia but, he never forgets his Sweetheart! He misses you tremendously. He is doing well and looks forward to our daily walks. I Miss You and I am forever grateful that you are my Momma...I Love You.❤

Judy Fay Alesso

December 25, 2017

Merry Christmas Momma. Christmas has never been and will never be the same without your smiling face here with us. I just couldnt get it together this year, Im sorry. Thank you for always making Christmas so special for all of us. I can never fill your shoes. I Miss you and Love you so very much.

Judy F Alesso

November 23, 2017

Thanksgiving is here again, tears are falling again and you are missedALWAYS!! Pop says sure do miss your Momma! Me too Pop, me too! I Love You Momma. I am forever thankful for you!

Judy Fay Alesso

June 6, 2017

HAPPY BIRTHDAY MOMMA! I will celebrate you today and miss you every second. Can't begin to explain the pain/void in my heart. It NEVER lessens. I LOVE YOU SO MUCH!!

Judy Fay Alesso

May 15, 2017

Oh my Sweet Momma... Happy Mothers Day. Such a bittersweet day as I am so grateful for you and to you but, I am so heartbroken that I can't see your beautiful smile and give and receive the best hug ever. To say you are missed is such an understatement. Words cannot convey the Love I have for you or the pain I have without you here. I do feel your presence when I need it most and that is always comforting. And having your Sweetheart with me dally is a Tremendous comfort and reminder of you. Pop is truly one of the most precious people on earth. I will thank God for the gift of YOU tonight in my prayers and to you my Sweet, Beautiful and Loving Momma...know that you are Loved more and more with every passing second. Forever in my heart, Forever part of my soul , Forever my Precious Momma. I LOVE YOU FOREVER AND BEYOND

Judy F Alesso

May 2, 2017

I miss you so much on my Birthday! I miss the homemade strawberry shortcake, the home cooked meal and most of all I miss you and you singing "Happy Birthday" to me. I Love You Momma. May 1

Judy Fay Alesso

January 24, 2017

4 years ago today, my life changed forever. I feel like I have been living with only half of my heart. I believe the other half went with you. I know how blessed I am to have you and Pop as my parents and I know how Loved I was/am. If every person on this planet was loved just a fraction of how much you loved me, this world would be more peaceful, more kind and more beautiful! Momma, Thank You for making my world beautiful! I Miss You so much. Time does not heal, it simply passes. There are certain wounds that never heal, my heart is proof of that. I LOVE YOU!❤

Judy Fay Alesso

January 14, 2017

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY MOMMA! Today is yours and Pops 66th wedding anniversary. Sure wish you were here. Pop misses you so very much and now that his beloved Mija has joined you, he is beyond broken hearted. In spite of his heavy heart, he is doing well and is still the most wonderful man I have ever known. How blessed I am that you and he found each other and began your lives together 66 years ago. I MISS YOU MOMMA and I LOVE YOU and appreciate you more and more everyday.

Judy Fay Alesso

December 25, 2016

Merry Christmas Momma. Your presence is felt and your hugs are missed. My Christmas memories from childhood bring a smile to my face. So many wonderful Christmas mornings. Thank you so much for always doing your best to make our Holidays so special. Your magic touch is definately missing but, I still try. I will head to the cemetery shortly and sit and play your favorite Christmas songs. It is my tradition for the last 3 yrs. and it brings me comfort. I miss you Momma. I hold onto the memories tightly and Thank the good Lord for giving me to you and Pop. I Love You .

Judy FAY Alesso

November 24, 2016

The holidays are here again, My heart is still broken and you are still missed every second of every day. Pop is doing well. He just had a visit from your best friend/ '"sister", Joyce Thompson. She was in Calif. and made sure she saw your sweetheart. I miss you so much Momma!! I LOVE YOU!!