Patricia Alto

August 22, 1928October 7, 2020

Patricia Alto who was better known as Pat, sweetheart, mom, sis, Aunt Pattycakes, Grandma, Gram, and good friend, to her family and friends. She passed away peacefully in her sleep, on October 7th, 2020 at her nursing home, Life Care Center of Kirkland.

Her family and all who love her describe her as loving, caring, thoughtful, diligent, responsible, honest, humble, loyal, faithful, funny, fun, and resilient.

Born in Lynbrook, NY August 22, 1928, number 14 of 15 children, Pat grew up understanding what truly matters; the joy of loving life, family, and friends. She spent her youth growing up on Long Island. At an early age she travelled to other states, providing babysitting for military families and waitressing at Woolworth’s. During World War ll, she was introduced to her husband to be John Alto by photograph and by writing to him while he was overseas. When he returned, they met for the first time and soon after married. Together they raised three children, and helped raise their grandchildren. Pat cared for her husband John when he became disabled and her terminally ill daughter Kathy until they passed. She was always there to do what needed to be done – and did so with incredible grace. She was unstoppable. Having never learned to drive, she walked everywhere to get what was needed. She was a hard worker, and a working mom.

Pat took on volunteering at the Community Center in the senior housing complex where she lived. She loved decorating for parties, helping to ready the cafeteria before and after meals, being a part of making social events fun and dressing up for Halloween. She also enjoyed taking pictures of her friends, family, and nature, but most of all she loved when her grandchildren came to visit. Her grandchildren, even as they grew older, loved spending time with their Grandma.

Pat eventually moved to Washington State and enjoyed touring the area with her son and daughter-in-law. Throughout her life, Pat faced every single challenge head on with the fortitude and wisdom to take one day at a time. She grieved the loss of her spouse, beautiful daughter, her parents and siblings, endured hurricanes, operations, and Covid. Despite it all, she continued to bring joy, she loved to laugh, chat, kid around, and share her bright smile. She lived a long life, admired, and beloved by all who knew her and she left us one enduring life lesson. It’s the simple things in life that will make you happy.

Pat leaves behind: Her sons Ed (+Sandy), Tom (+Phyllis). Her Grandchildren: Tara (+Brian}, Jonathan (+ Morgan), Michael (+ Sue) and Samantha (+John). Her Great Grandchildren: Kayla, Dylan, Jackson, Grace, Mae, Reid, Shea and Holten.

If you wish to make a donation, the family would appreciate your donation to the charity of your choice in Pat Alto’s name.

“Mother’s hold their children’s hands for a while, but their hearts forever.”


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Danny Parker

October 23, 2020

Just wanted to say that I am sorry for your loss, every-one's loss really, as she was every-one's friend, and a very nice and loving lady to all who really knew her ! She was always good to me, and I always loved both her visits to us, and when she came over (her brother's, our uncle) Ray's house, and when I was lucky enough to visit her house ! And when thinking about the simple things she liked, I can't pass up the chance, to say that I really enjoyed her lasagna, when we stayed later enough for dinner ! It may not seem like much, but to me, it was another way of remembering how she took the time and effort to please people ! Just one of so many, random acts of kindness she never sought praise for, as she was unselfish, and cared for others ! Again, she will be missed by me and all of her many friends and relatives, she's not gone, but has simply gone to live on with all those who have also passed ! And will now enjoy reuniting with (her loving husband) Johnny and (wonderful daughter) Kathy, as well as her sisters and brothers, and so many others ! She will be as busy up there, as she has always been, and will still be looking after all those down here, that she left in passing !
Love to you, my aunt Pat,
I will miss you always,
your nephew, Danny
PS, Tell every-one up there, I said "Hello" !

Judy and Mel Altman

October 19, 2020

You were my Aunt Pat and a large part of our family's history ....... We have so many memories and you are surly missed ........ If I close my eyes I can still hear your laughter, and I could pick your voice out anywhere .......... Your sense of humor always made us laugh .... R.I.P. Aunt Pat

Lorraine Miller

October 15, 2020

My Aunt Pat (Aunt Pattycake) was very special to me. She was sweet, caring, strong and very funny. She had a Big heart. Our families were close and spent many fun times together. I remember when she lovingly cared for me through my chicken pox when my Mom was in the hospital giving birth to sister Diane. There are just so many memories through the years including many enjoyable visits after I was married and then being there to celebrate her 90th birthday 2 yrs. ago. Even at 90 she was so full of life and fun.
I will miss her so much as will all her loving family. I do believe she is happy and healthy now reunited with all her family. I cherish all my memories . She will always be in my heart.

Eileen Lunsford

October 15, 2020

This lovely sweet lady was my Aunt and I have wonderful memories all through my childhood and up until celebrating her 90th birthday with her 2 summers ago of spending time with her and both our families together. She will be deeply missed by so many but I do like to think of a big family reunion up in heaven with all the laughter, love and talking which must be taking place!

Aunt Pat had a wonderful sense of humor and a great laugh and I have so many fond memories to hold on to. What a sweet and loving person - I love you Aunt Pattycake!


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