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Violeta Toledo Lara

July 7, 1939January 4, 2021
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Violeta Toledo Lara was born on July 7, 1939 in Sorsogon, Bicol and passed away on January 4, 2021 in San Leandro, California and is under the care of Brentwood Funeral Home.

Viewing will be held on January 12, 2021 at 2:00 pm at Brentwood Funeral Home, 839 First St, Brentwood, California.

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Deanna (Deena) Lara Arcilla

January 18, 2021

When I was little, my Mom was good at sewing clothes for me and herself. She made us matching dresses and sewed the only kind of pants that I was comfortable wearing. She and my Dad were quite skilled at sewing covers for all their household items like the oddly shaped table, mini ottomans, car seats and wicker chair cushions. My Parents liked dancing at parties, bowling in a team league, playing tennis on a summer day, and at one time, creating ceramic figures, jars, and a clock. We still have that first clock and jar that they created. My Dad taught my brothers and me how to be handy around the house and learn how to fix things before hiring someone. My Dad is the main influence my brothers and I like photography. He took photographs when we traveled to some scenic place or when we attended special events and occasions. I thank him for blessing us with this extraordinary hobby. He taught us the best way to preserve our beautiful memories. My Parents were always grateful for and appreciated what they had. They gave to family and various charities when they had the means. My Mom taught me how to pray not just to remind us that God loves us, but also to always say Thank You to our Lord. My Parents basically took care of Gabriel and Garrick since they were babies. My parents attended preschool graduations, grandparents’ days, open houses, 8th grade celebrations, band performances, sports events, first communions, confirmations, graduations and birthdays. They were that special support for each of my sons’ stepping stones in life. I Love you so much Dad and Mom. Thank you for your beautiful love, for your generous hearts, for all that you have done, provided and taught me during your presence in my life. You were the most important Blessings in my life. Rest in Peace and in Love Forever with the Lord. Please watch over Garrick and give him our Love... Until we are reunited.
Love You Guys Forever,
Your Daughter, Deanna Lara Arcilla

Gabriel Arcilla

January 18, 2021

Violets are Blue

My Grandpa Frank and Grandma Vi were the only grandparents I ever knew, and they were the best grandparents I could have ever had in any life time. They were grand in every sense of the word. They were the last line of defense whenever me or my late brother were in need in our early childhoods. They were the warm safe place when our close family got together. And they were the life of the party everywhere they went as My mother, and their daughter, Deanna, always told me. And they were rightfully so, as everywhere they went they uplifted everyone with a warm and welcoming energy. Although I've only known them for but a fraction of their long lives, they've been there for me for the entirety of my life. Their presence has been one of the greatest blessings in my life, something I wish I never took for granted. You always wish your loved ones could live forever, and although their time here on Earth has come to an end, I have no doubt my Grandma and Grandpa are living happily and peacefully in Paradise. And they'll continue to live on in our memories and hearts, because their life will still be felt at each party from now on.

Love Forever Always, Their Grandson, Gabriel Arcilla

Richie Tubice

January 15, 2021

Ching De La Rosa

January 11, 2021

With our deepest sympathy words fall short of expressing our sorrow for your loss Donnie, Deanna, Hector and Family. Mom and Dad was such an inspiration to many of us. I love them both so much coz they accepted me and welcomed me into your family from the day I first met them. They definitely made me feel and treated me like their own daughter. Mom and dad has always been lovable, supportive and a great advisor but most of all they've master how to be the best parents and grandparents anyone could ever ask for. That's why my Princess Dee always tells me "mom their my idol" and I totally agree and tell her "me too!! And their sense of humor is one of a kind😄 I will definitely miss their jokes and beautiful smile. I love you mom and dad💞!! May you both rest in paradise🙌. And may your souls and the souls of all the faithful departed, through the mercy of God, rest in peace. Amen🙏

Princess Lara

January 11, 2021

Grandma,

Thank you for sharing your light, kindness, and humor with us, your grandchildren. I’m so grateful to have spent the majority of my childhood with you. Thank you for sharing the importance of having dreams, doing what makes you happy, and giving when you can. Most importantly, thank you for setting an amazing example for the women in our family. I aspire to be as generous, successful, and as beautiful a human being as you. Lastly, thank you for sharing your funny bone with us, and giving us the skill of finding humor and light in all the right places. There’s so much more that I could write about, but that would take me years to do. I love you Grandma!

Forever & always,

Your Princess

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Biography

      When someone is identified as a natural leader, certain images come to mind. First thoughts are of a no-nonsense, tough-minded, dedicated and disciplined person. This description accurately fits Violeta Toledo Lara who was indeed a born manager. She will be remembered as being highly organized, practical and realistic. She was a person who always carried a strong sense of duty with her throughout her life. Possessed with traditional “old school” morals, Violeta was an individual who clearly communicated to those around her just who she was and what she was all about. Everyone acquainted with Violeta knew her as a well-respected woman who was a stable force in her community.

      Violeta was born on July 7, 1939 at Sorsogon in Donsol, Sorsogon, Bicol, Philippines. Her parents were Domingo Miletante Toledo and Estela Ellego Toledo. Violeta was raised in Poblacion, Donsol, Sorsogon, Bicol, Philippines. Even as a youngster, Violeta learned to be objective and decisive. Her faith in the principles of authority and dependability was something that she carried with her throughout her life.

      As a young girl, Violeta was able to put her natural abilities to work. She was a bit like the sergeant of the family, helping to make sure that the others did what they should do and that they avoided those things they weren’t supposed to. In other words, she liked to organize and direct. Violeta was raised with six siblings. She had four sisters, Marichu, Donna, Bem, and Rita, and two brothers Rudy and Tony. Violeta had an inborn appreciation for the order in the family, allowing for the oldest members to be the most respected and to take on the most responsibility. For Violeta, this was a natural order of life, one she gladly embraced.

      Violeta’s practical work ethic carried over into her college years. Her logical mind permitted her to work hard without succumbing to the usual distractions of college life. She would tackle an assignment and work through it before moving onto the next project. Violeta’s orderly nature gave way to establishing personal study habits and procedures that not only helped her stay on track but often put her ahead of schedule. When Violeta saw the need or benefit, she would willingly take on the extra assignment or even attend extra classes in order to learn more and become a better student. She earned her Bachelor of Science Education from Saint Rita College, Manila and Associate of Arts from Bee County College, Beeville, Texas.

      An objective and conscientious individual, Violeta reveled in the security of her family. One of Violeta’s most endearing qualities was her uncanny ability to remember important dates and anniversaries, and her unending enthusiasm for organizing a celebration for her family and friends.

      Violeta was ever watchful of her children. She worried about them and was deeply concerned for their development as they grew up. She maintained a firm hand in their upbringing. Violeta would give her stamp of approval to their requests, as long as she could see how they might benefit. She also had the ability to enforce the rules as needed to ensure that her children were properly raised. Violeta was blessed with two sons and one daughter, Donato (Donnie), Deanna (Deena) and Hector. They were also blessed with five grandchildren, Diane (Dee), Gabriel (Gabe), Frances, Dominique (DJ), and Natalie.

      Being a hard worker who praised efficiency, Violeta was always striving to make improvements where they were necessary. She was able to analyze situations and problems, keeping everything and everyone on track. An excellent project supervisor, Violeta was a person who could quickly make decisions based on the information available. She worked cooperatively and expected the same from her colleagues. In both her personal and professional environments, Violeta upheld her standards. Her primary occupation was Supervising Payroll Records Clerk II. She was employed for 24 years by the County of Alameda, Social Services Agency. Violeta was a team player who certainly lived out the motto of “give me a job, and I will get it done.”

      Violeta approached her leisure time in the same manner that she approached her life. A person who enjoyed being neat and orderly and one who understood the nature of things, she appreciated the hours she was able to devote to her various hobbies. Her favorite pursuits were collecting jewelry, sewing, dancing, arts and crafts, home decorating and day trips to casinos. Violeta was content to enjoy her favorite pastimes alone but was also willing to share her interests with others.

      Playing by the rules was a natural thing for Violeta to do in life and that carried over to her enjoyment of sports. Recreational sports included bowling, tennis, swimming and yoga. She also was something of a sports fan and enjoyed watching her favorite events whenever she got the opportunity.

      Being generous with her time and energy, Violeta liked to belong to a variety of groups and organizations. She was a vocal leader who enjoyed being a part of things. Her desire to uphold traditions and her ability to take charge of any type of project made her a tremendous asset. In college, Violeta joined the theater and was an actress in some plays at Saint Rita College, Manila, Philippines.

      A civic-minded person, Violeta was usually ready to jump in and help with community activities. She was the type of person who could masterfully organize events and projects and then see to it that they were run in an efficient and timely manner. Violeta was a member of several community groups, including serving on committees for the Our Lady Queen of the World Catholic Church, Pittsburg, California. During these years, Violeta applied her analytical intellect to problem solving and so was an asset on most committees.

      Faith was important to Violeta. She held high moral standards and was worried about the moral decay she saw around her. For that reason she held deep spiritual beliefs that she was willing to share. She was a member of the St. Anthony Catholic Church in Oakley, California for 9 years.

      When it came time to travel or take a vacation, Violeta used her scheduling expertise to make sure everyone and everything was ready to go. That also meant that she made certain no single person was overworked in putting the trip together. Violeta had a knack for making sure that everyone who was involved had their specific tasks and that those tasks were completed. Favorite vacations included Europe, Hawaii and casino day trips.

      Violeta was a lover of animals and cherished her pets. Her family was rounded out by her goldfish, guppies, and four dogs, Nina, Kimmie, Sakura and Goldie.

      When Violeta’s retirement finally arrived in 2002, she was well prepared. She used her critical evaluation skills to make sure that every detail had been preplanned and attended to. Her new life involved relocating to Oakley, California. In retirement, she found new pleasure in taking a trip to Europe, day trips to casinos and taking care of her grandchildren. In many ways, Violeta loved retirement. It provided her with the opportunity to catch up with her friends, attend functions and group outings, and tackle new interesting activities.

      Violeta passed away on January 4, 2021 at Kaiser Permanente Hospital, San Leandro, California. Violeta succumbed to lethal Sepsis. She is survived by her children Donato, Deanna and Hector; her grandchildren Diane, Gabriel, Frances, Dominique and Natalie; her sisters Marichu and Rita; and her brothers Rudy and Tony. Services were held at Brentwood Funeral Home, Brentwood, California. Violeta was laid to rest in the Sacramento Valley National Cemetery, Dixon, California.

      All who knew her would agree that Violeta was a pillar of the community. She lived her life with her feet firmly on the ground. She had a strong work ethic, was pragmatic in her thoughts and acts, and constantly sought the means for self-improvement. She was willing to share her ideas and knowledge for the benefit of others, so that they could accomplish more in their lives. Violeta Toledo Lara did her best to ensure that her family, friends, loved ones, co-workers, and everyone whose life she touched was given the chance to become a better person.