David J Milam
June 13, 1969 – July 6, 2020
David Joseph Milam, 51, died July 6, 2020 in Chicago of a heart attack with no relation to COVID. He was born June 13, 1969 to Jack and Carolyn Milam in Houston, Texas. He graduated from Victoria High School in 1987. He was a graduate of Austin College with a degree in English and a Master’s degree in Library Science from The University of Texas in Austin. Following graduation, he moved to Los Angeles and secured a job with Warner Brothers. During this time, he received his Microsoft Certification. Eventually he began his career with MRI (JFK) in Los Angeles. Later he was transferred to Chicago where he lived and worked for the last 8 years.
David loved spending time with friends and family. He especially enjoyed travelling and eating special meals. Before he moved to Chicago, his adventurous spirit led him on a walkabout. He traveled from California through the south to Florida. He found Alabama to be completely charming and hoped to get back to the Alabama Coast someday. From there he traveled up through Eastern US where he found the Blue Ridge Mountains beautiful. Traveling through the Midwest he was able to spend time with his family. We all cautioned him to check the antifreeze and be careful through South Dakota and Wyoming as it was getting into winter months. He learned the importance of staying on main roads during a blizzard and decided to make his way back to California. He hoped to get to the Northwest on a future trip. After reflection on his trip, his takeaway was that he went backwards: spend summers up north and winters down south. He continued to love traveling and took the opportunities to travel with those he loved. He was looking forward to more trips with all his family.
Eating was always an adventure with David. He used eating as a time to learn and grow. Not only did he want you to try a variety of cuisines, he would often order one of just about everything on the menu. We all had the opportunity to share and sample A LOT. There was often a lesson to learn about history or why a food was important. David was also a self-guided mixologist. Not only did he introduce his family to new foods, he always had a new cocktail for us to try. Most of us still have obscure ingredients in our house. He knew how to get people out of their comfort zones for sure, including eating chicken feet for Christmas.
He is survived by his sister, Krista Milam (Jon) of York, PA; his brother Steven Milam (Ingeri) and nephew Tommy Milam and niece Beth Milam of Princeton, MN; aunt and uncle, Mary Schneider (Jim); cousins John Schneider (Meleah); and Mark Schneider (Emily); and Sarah Fiest (Brian) of Reinbeck, Iowa. He particularly loved spending time with his family including his niece and nephew (his monkeys) and all of his cousins who knew him as Picklehead.
The family will have a memorial at a later date. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to Rockport Center for the Arts. You may donate online at rockportartcenter.com/donate OR via mail Rockport Center for the Arts S Austin Street Rockport, Texas 78382 OR by Phone 361-729-5519 and email firstname.lastname@example.org. Fond memories and expressions of sympathy may be shared at www.ridgefh.com for the Milam family.
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David J Milam
August 3, 2020
I worked with David throughout his career at MRI...and spent more time with him when he transferred to the Chicago office (where I've always been). David was always the most helpful and fun person to work with--people talk about giving 110%, but that is what David always did. He once had good friends visit from TX. He had arranged for the teenaged daughter to have a private visit to the Chicago Art Institute's Fashion archives. David knew I had designed clothes when I was younger, and included me, so I got to share in this wonderful chance to examine original Chanel suits and Comme des Garcons jackets. He then took them all to Alinea for dinner. He was the most generous soul...always thinking of others. We all miss him so much.
Debra Dobson (Kubala
July 27, 2020
I met David as a freshman in high school while attending speech tournaments. He was the most fascinating person that I had met in all my fourteen years! So, of course, I immediately formed a major crush on him! As the crush fizzled out, a strong friendship began to build and we eventually became the best of friends. As time and distance grew, we talked less and less. Still, every so often, we would get in touch and catch up on each other's lives. I have a TON of fond memories and funny stories about David, but I really want to convey the effect that he had on my life. He helped me find my potential. He opened up my eyes to the possibility of reaching past the limits that I had set for myself. I will always love him for that. I miss my dear friend. It is very hard to accept that we won't get the chance to catch up again. I'll have to settle for opening my photo album and remembering the fun times that we had and the special bond that we shared.
July 20, 2020
I have known David since I first started with Mediamark Research in 2002 and my memories of him are just wonderful times. When we first got in contact with each other, he was helping me with some questions I had about data and software, not knowing that our relationship would grow from professional to a close family friend. Every time he came to visit NY for work, we always made time to hang out and spend our days just talking about nonsense, eating, drinking and not focusing on work at all. Our fav dining out was sushi and always ordered sakki with plum wine. There was so much life with David, he made me realize many aspects of the arts and culture. He loved museums, loved cultures of all kinds. When ever we met, we made sure to visit new places together. I have always seen David as a smiling person, open arms to help, a shoulder to cry on and a person who just listens and gives his trusted advise. He was there for me through hard times and good times, always managed to bring light into any darkness. He loved meeting my family, seeing a different culture and trying new things. He loved my mom's spicy indian dishes, even though he would sweat so much, David just would say, this was a challenge he enjoyed and ready for the next course.
He was looking fwd to moving to the East Coast and I was excited to help him look for places even close to me. That was the last interaction I had with him, giving him places and ideas to move in NJ. Never would I thought I would ever speak to him again.
One thing about David I will never forget is that he is the most hardest working person and always focused on getting the job done but at the same time he always had the time to help you with the same exact effort he put for himself. I will miss my friend dearly. My family calls him the Coca Cola bear, as every winter he only wore a scarf and a sweater, no coat in the NYC cold. One day I will meet him and ask him, why do you not ever get cold and why did you leave so early?
July 17, 2020
My deepest sympathy to David's family and friends. How sobering it is to loose someone so young. While David was a part of my life for a brief few years in high school and college, he is a bright star in my memory as I am sure he is for many more. I have thought of him often over the decades and painfully regret not reaching out to him to reconnect.
I wish his family comfort and understanding during this difficult time.
July 17, 2020
Krista and families. So very sorry for your loss. Such an interesting traveler. Keep all those memories close to your heart forever. I know u will miss him so much. May perpetual light shine upon him. Love you Krista
July 15, 2020
I want to offer my condolences to David's family. I worked with David and want to share that he was the nicest, most caring and giving person I've ever met. Although David was my colleague, he was most importantly my friend. The way I would describe David is to say, to know David is to like David. You just couldn't help but like him. He brightened up my day every time I spoke to him. I can honestly say I never got off a call with David (no matter the purpose of the call) without feeling better than I did before the call. He was so very special and I am missing him so much. xoxoxo
July 14, 2020
Good-Bye my friend. I'm glad we got to reunite before you moved to Studio City. I can still remember playing on the ramp of the moving van the day you moved next door. We had plenty of fun with Micronauts and the Star Wars figures. (Especially the Death Star, someone always ended up in the trash compactor) Every time I tried to shoot your ship down you somehow jumped to light-speed making my lasers useless. I will miss your wit and dry humor. My heart goes out to Krista and Steve, all I can say is way too soon!
Until we meet again,