January 6, 1928February 6, 2019

COLUMBIA - A graveside service for Ruth McIntosh Shay, 91, will be held at 3:00 p.m. Sunday, February 10, 2019 in Greenlawn Memorial Park. The family will receive friends one hour prior to the service at the graveside. Officiating the service will be her nephew, Rev. Kenny Nichols, minister of Marion Baptist Church, Williams, SC, and Rev. Ryan Howard, assistant pastor of Oak Grove Baptist Church, Landrum, SC. Dunbar Funeral Home, Devine Street Chapel, is assisting the family. Mrs. Shay passed away on Wednesday, February 6, 2019, after a long battle with dementia. Born on January 6, 1928, she was a daughter of the late Bertie Martin Cook and Willie Cook. She was raised by her paternal grandmother, Ida Osteen Cook. She moved to Columbia in 1953 from Walterboro. Ruth retired from the S.C. Department of Health and Environmental Control in 1998. She is survived by her four daughters, better known as the McIntosh sisters: Dianne McCarty (Terry Walkup), Cathy Davis (John), Donna Wagner (Ray), and Melinda Evans (Ricky); seven grandchildren, Michael Frazier, Tripp McCarty (Nicole Solano), Melissa Nicole Howard (Ryan), Jason Frazier, Drew Evans (Elizabeth), Ruthanne Pratt (Nevin), and Braden Robinson; nine great-grandchildren, Kaylee Frazier, Mason Robinson, Sam McCarty, Case Evans, Brooks Evans, Aiden Howard, Addison Howard, Gus McCarty, and Jaden Pratt; sister, Sadie Doggett; half-sisters, Patricia Schmidt, Billie Craven, and Sarah Herndon; one niece; and three nephews. In addition to her parents, she was predeceased by her husbands, Laverne J. “Mac” McIntosh and Lt. Col. Daniel B. Shay, U.S. Army (Ret.); sister, Thelma Newton; step-mother, Lois Cook; half-sister, Mary Frances Hester; half-brother, Franklin Cook; and two great-grandchildren, Audra Lane McCarty and Kaiden Alexander Pratt. Memorials may be made to the American Heart Association, 190 Knox Abbott Drive, Suite 301, Cayce, SC 29033. Memories may be shared at


  • Visitation Sunday, February 10, 2019
  • Graveside Service Sunday, February 10, 2019


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Brandy Kaloplastos

February 9, 2019

Many memories of Grandma Ruth over the past 20 plus years . I have so many. One thing is for sure she never turn down a Good ole Ripe Tomatoe or a good conversation ( even if you had to tell thru the conversation). Sending prayers Love all. 🧚

Teresa Brinkley

February 8, 2019

To all the McIntosh girls, our thoughts and prayers are with you and your families during this difficult time. Some of my best memories as a child include your sweet momma. I can just see them at the kitchen table now with a hot cup of coffee, laughing out loud; they were fortunate to be such good friends for so many years. If there was never a "hair day" in heaven; there may be one now!
Sincerely, Chris and Teresa Brinkley

Joy Blanchard

February 7, 2019

Our Moms are reminiscing now and happy in the Lord. Thank you Father for taking care of them.
With deepest sympathy and much love,
Joy and Rip