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David Peck Starr

September 12, 1957September 6, 2020

David Starr, age 62, of Concord, NH, passed away unexpectedly on Sunday, September 6, 2020.

He was a graduate of New Caanan High School in 1975 and received his BA at New England College in 1983. He was a proud member of the Liberty Utilities family for 13 years.

David had a larger-than-life personality that was only matched by his unwavering kindness and dedication to his family and friends. He was never too busy to lend a hand and would go out of his way to help others. His booming voice and trusted cowbell, even in a crowded stadium, were unmistakable to those who knew him and inevitably propelled him to legendary superfan status at his sons’ sporting events - much to the chagrin of athletic directors and referees everywhere. An active member of his community, he often volunteered his time and skills to improve the Concord neighborhoods he called home for nearly 28 years. To that end, he also committed to his country’s future, volunteering countless hours over the years to assist Concord Voting Ward 10. Undoubtedly, his pertinacious desire to donate blood to the American Red Cross helped save countless lives of those who will never meet him. Despite his often busy schedule, he was also a man who appreciated the little things in life, such as smoking a quality cigar and brewing his own micro beer. There was never a task that was too daunting for his “Mr. Fix-it” skillset, knack for improvisation, and unrivaled work ethic. Described by some as a gentle giant, he was capable of befriending anyone and everyone willing to give him the opportunity to reveal his quirky sense of humor and inquisitive mind. The unofficial pyrotechnic expert of all Starr-family July 4th events, he embraced every opportunity to bring fun and joy to the lives of those he held dear. Those who knew him can attest that David spoke often regarding his sons, leaving no mystery as to how proud he was of his boys.

Dave was preceded in death by his parents, Robert and Joan Starr.

He is survived by his wife, Joyce Burley Starr; sons, Justin and Kyle Starr; siblings, Richard (with wife Cindy), Jeffrey (with wife Orlyna) and Wendy Starr; uncle, Quentin Augspurger(with wife Nody); cousins, Deborah Tuxhorn, Gail Rector and Mindy Starr-Pfahler; and nephews, Matthew, Gregory, Jeffrey Jr. and Andrew Starr.


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Karen (Speltz) Abramson

September 20, 2020

I'd like to express my condolences to the Starr family. David was a childhood friend from our neighborhood in New Canaan, CT. In addition, our parents were close friends, so we were always playing at one house or another. I remember David always having a big huge grin on his face, and having a great sense of humor. As we got older we lost touch, but I'll always remember good times as kids with him. I'm thinking of you all.


Matthew Cleveland

September 20, 2020

I just learned of Dave’s passing and would like to express my deepest sympathies.
I met Dave years ago as I had done some drywall work for him. Later I would run into him on different jobs. He always had a kind word, loved to chat, catch up and had a big smile on his face.
He will be missed but remembered.

Matthew Cleveland

Steve Dombrowski

September 19, 2020

Extremely saddened at this news Dave was a
Great person always quick to laugh and share a story. Not just a coworker but a friend forever remembered. My condolences to the family and friends.

HyunSoo Lim

September 19, 2020

I’ve known the Starr family since I first came to the U.S. Dave became friends with my dad who couldn’t speak any English by going to our little league, soccer games. He was one to always share laughs and show kindness to my dad as their conversations were translated through emotions, not a language. That’s how D was, he went out of his way to make friends with a person who couldn’t speak any English. Who knew that would lead to countless sleepovers/ Korean dinners as Kyle quickly became my best friend. I spent my youth at the Starr residence. D was always working on something outside, waving me down, move cars while we waited for Kyle(always running late, but a blessing in disguise) which led to many conversations I had with Dave. Dave changed my life in many ways, memories like renting the Dame gym out so we could start our lacrosse careers with emphasis to make us better by building a small field in the backyard, things I took for granted back then. I realize how much time he gave to help everyone. It later led to the days where we played golf on Father’s Day with my dad, Kyle, and me.
I still hear echos of the legendary cowbell feared by every rival school and referee from CHS to Nescac schools that Bowdoin and Bates played. He had this kind way that made you respect him(not want to let him down)as a kid, but as I grew up I realized that youthfulness he later showed, that allowed me to call him Dave instead of Mr. Starr, sharing a cigar and beer on the golf course, pushing Kyle when he was younger to get the best out of him and be so proud of him later on with a chest bump on Sr.Night when announced. It was reflective of how your father becomes your best friend. Anyone who was fortunate to meet him would agree. It was a privilege to grow up with him watching over us, and forever he will. He was a great coach, person, fan, husband, friend but especially a phenomenal father to his two sons Justin and Kyle. My deepest condolences to the Starr’s.

Shirley Iacopino

September 19, 2020

My heartfelt condolences to you and the boys, Joy. Dave was truly bigger than life. Stay well. - Shirley Iacopino


September 19, 2020

In this sorrowful time, I would like to extend to you my heartfelt condolences.
Dave will be terribly missed. All of us loved him and he will be cherished in our memories forever. .
May our Lord comfort you and your loved ones.
Dave McCormick

Michael Colburn

September 17, 2020

To the Starr Family -

We are so saddened by Dave's passing. He was a wonderful guy and had an amazing spirit. Michael will miss his many paddle tennis matches and all the camraderie with "The Gas Man." We know how much his family meant to him, and how proud he was of the boys. He will live on in our hearts and memories.

Michael and Jackie Colburn

Mark Reynolds

September 17, 2020

Of course, I can still hear David's voice booming from behind. I always thought of him as a character, but I was always impressed with how proud he was of his children. A good guy, who will be missed. Gob Bless, Mark.

Gary Hirshberg

September 16, 2020

Since we received the heartbreaking news, just a day after Dave and I had been texting, I have shared quite a few thoughts and anecdotes with Justin and Kyle. But last night I thought of yet another one that beautifully captures how he always wore his very large heart on his sleeve, when it came to his passion for his family. I was at Bates College one beautiful fall Saturday watching Ethan play a spirited soccer match at the exact same time that the football team and Kyle were playing, probably 1/4 mile away. At one point during the match, the entire soccer complex was treated to Dave's unmistakable bellow of "GO, KYLE!" rise above the crowds, PA's and general din at BOTH venues. It was like hearing Zeus from above. I will never forget Dave's intensity, passion, enthusiasm and unbridled love for his boys. A spirit like that just doesn't disappear and will be with me forever.

Stephen Davidson

September 16, 2020

Growing up, I always wanted to be at the Starr's house, there was always so much excitement. I'd beg my mom to stay over their house night after night after night. This is 1st grade on. Inside in the basement playing video games, camping, fishing, and by god the sports. David was persistently supportive of Kyle and Justin and their sport careers. It they wanted to play it, they were guaranteed to be good at it. Growing up with a distant dad and vague father figures, I always looked at the Starr's family and wonder why I couldn't have something like that. The guy was awesome to everyone, always smiling and laughing, rarely upset unless Justin and I were giving Kyle a beat down. It was always so funny to see Justin so heated with Kyle, who would already be getting a head start run to Mr. Starr. To this day I still don't slam my car door shut.
I'm 33 now, and have 2 daughters. I can't help but know that Mr. Starr is influencing my own family journey. I know for a fact I wouldn't have played lacrosse if I hadn't come over to shoot around in their back yard and insane goal and ball net. That very influence is why I have sticks for my 5 year old and I, and the desire to want to help her become successful at whatever she puts her mind too. Dave was a role model for me during a time when I needed it. Unaware of his influence, I can look back and know he played a pivotal positive role in my life helping me escape what I now know was unhealthy. Some of my favorite childhood memories came from the Starr Family, and I give my massive love and support to Joy, Justin, and Kyle. God bless you Dave.


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