Susan Marie Grave

March 22, 1958May 23, 2018
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Susan “Sue” Marie Grave was born in Morristown, NJ on March 22, 1958 in a middle of a nor ’eastern snowstorm. She entered God’s Garden on May 23, 2018 after almost a 2-year battle with brain cancer. She was a true Jersey girl as she fought every second. A perfect mother, homemaker, and chief financial officer of the house. Sue enjoyed working on her garden- especially her roses. Sue was also a very talented seamstress, loved quilting, and knitting. She loved to travel and enjoyed collecting souvenirs from different countries. She also adored her NY Yankees. So much so, that she named her beloved Westie “Jeter”. Sue loved music, “good music”, such as The Beatles, Stones, Aerosmith, Bee Gees, Michael Jackson, etc. And she loved to dance, as she was an avid ball room dancer and made Ed look so good! Sue had an unwavering faith in God. She was a member of St. Dunstan Episcopal Church in Spring, Texas for almost 15 years. After moving to Lake Conroe in 2015, Sue joined First Methodist in Conroe, Texas. Sue volunteered on numerous church projects and fund raising. Sue also loved animals. She would pick-up and try to find homes for many dogs often found along the neighborhood in Spring. Everyone knew that Sue couldn’t say no to a pet needing a home. Sue was the definition of a “soccer” mom. She transported the two sons Steven and Chris to numerous soccer practices and games throughout Texas. This is in addition to Olivia’s many activities such as; ice skating, gymnastics, cheerleading, soccer, softball; too many to list. Sue was predeceased by her sister Lynn Halle and her grandson Logan. Sue is survived by her husband of 40 years, Ed Grave, her son Steven, his wife Lauren and their daughter Leighton Grave, her son Chris Grave and her daughter Olivia. She is also survived by her brother, Bill Halle his wife Jan and her older sister Pat Halle. Her niece and nephews, Susan and Bill Wyland and Matt and David Halle, held a special place in her heart. The family will like to thank everyone at Memorial Hermann and all the care givers that cared for Sue. A celebration of life for Susan will be held Wednesday, May 30, 2018 at 11:00 AM at First Methodist Church, 4308 W Davis St,, Conroe, Texas 77304. Fond memories and expressions of sympathy may be shared with the Grave family by signing the guest book.


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Lisa Combs

May 30, 2018

I was lucky enough to have been Sue & Ed’s dance teacher for the last year they were able to take lessons at Arthur Murray Dance Studio. They both were wonderful dancers even before they came into our studio. You could see their love for dance and each other everytime, especially when dancing Argentine Tango and Swing. Sue was always so sweet and fun! I have missed teaching them both and will miss seeing her sweet face! I’m just lucky to have met them both. They both were a comfort to me as well, when I lost my dad, Feb 2016. Ed, you and Sue will always be an important part of our dance family! Please know we are here for you and your kids! Keep dancing Sue! Sue you are loved and you will be missed dearly!

Kathy Fowler

May 27, 2018

I worked at the Arthur Murray Dance Studio when Ed and Sue came in to start their lessons. She was one of the sweetest ladies I've had the pleasure to know, and she was always warm and gracious to everyone. It was a joy to watch Ed and Sue on the dance floor, and I'm sure she is tearing up the dance floor in Heaven. To the family---may God grant you His peace and comfort during this difficult time, and may you rest in the knowledge that she is whole and no longer in pain, in the arms of her Savior.



We first met through a mutual friend at work on a Monday Sept 27, 1976, where we cleaned a pharmaceutical office building in Clifton, NJ during the evenings while I was going to college. She was 18 and I had just turned 20. As soon as I saw her green eyes I knew she was special. We went on our first date that following Friday to Friendlies and had ice cream…rocky road sundaes. I didn’t much cared for rocky road ice cream but had two of them so that the date would last longer. She was wearing a long brown coat to her ankles, hush puppy shoes, and…overall jeans! Those that knew Sue are probably not surprised. She loved to wear those overalls and shoes! We as a family would have to convince her to change before we would go out! She was a mixed country/hippy type girl. Hated the city! We got married twice on July 15 in 1977 and again 1978…civil and then in the church.
Sue had tremendous drive and spirit.
Once she made her mind up on something there was no stopping her. When we first met she was smoking 1.5 packs a day. She knew I hated cigarettes and we even broke up for about a week because of it. She knew that we couldn’t marry until she quit. She did just that within 6 months and never smoked again.
She was a doer…a force you couldn’t stop…maybe guide it a bit if you were lucky!
I just had to agree on something, not that I had much of a choice, and before I knew it was done. We had just bought our second home in Hillsborough, NJ. In the front yard there were 5 crab apple trees that she hated. I agreed that they should come down. The next day I came home from work to find all the trees were chopped down…not cleaned-up! But they were down! Another time in Dallas I agreed that we needed to get rid of the love seat sofa bed in the play room. Came home to find the sofa bed downstairs by the garage. Of course, she hurt her back in the process and ended up having surgery.
She spoke her mind
As many of you know, we as a family are very outspoken. Our dinners are loud and full of sarcasm. Sue could give it as well as receive it. But sometimes it would get the better of her. On one of our trips to Rome, the tour guide at the Coliseum asked what the letter is for the number 4. I knew it had to be a trick question and kept my mouth shut. But not Sue! She said it was it was IV and she had a watch to prove it. That’s when the guide made an example of her during the entire tour and always made sure that the “little American” was in the front! She was so mad that she wanted to complain and write a letter to the tour company. But that spirit and fight in her is what made her never give up on her battle with cancer.

She was so Loving & Caring
She would always put others before her own wellbeing. The kids, me, pets, church activities, feeding homeless and women’s shelters, etc. Many times, we would have to force her to go out and buy clothes for herself or get her nails done. It was a struggle! When someone was sick or needed help she wouldn’t hesitate. She would always make me stop to help someone with car trouble on the road or to pick a lost dog, cat, turtles, and even ducks. Everyone in the neighborhood in Spring knew Sue would help with stray animals.
She tried hard to become a better person
She was always reading books on how to become a better parent, wife and overall better person! She went to church, prayed and studied the bible on her own. Often giving me grief because I couldn’t or didn’t want to do the same. She loved watching the History, Travel and Discovery channels and going to museums…with the kids in tow.
Finally, she loved to have fun!
But not roller coasters! My sister in law, Rose, took us on The Mummy ride at Universal Studios, telling her “oh it’s not bad”. OMG, we went backwards in the dark. When it was over she had passed out. Boy…Rose never heard the end of it. But she loved, log flumes, ice skating, sledding, dancing (hustle, swing, argentine tango, cha-cha, rumba, etc.) music especially the Beatles, Stones, Michael Jackson and Backstreet Boys. She also loved her white wine and Texas size margaritas. Sue loved her garden, being outside, being with the family especially my parents. Most of all she would want us to continue to have fun and to dance our life away!!