Patricia Toce

October 28, 1950May 28, 2021

Patricia “Patty” Toce, 70, of East Hartford, beloved daughter of the late Oscar and Raymagilda (Massita) Toce, lost her battle with cancer on Friday, May 28, 2021. Born in Hartford on October 28, 1950, she had lived in the area all her life. She graduated from Greater Hartford Community College and worked at Travelers for 25 years and then MetLife for 17 years prior to her retirement in 2012. Patty loved bowling with her brothers and celebrating birthdays and gatherings with family and friends. She always had a place in her heart for cats, and provided a home to many of them throughout her life.

A loving sister and aunt, Patty will be forever missed by her two brothers, Nicholas Toce of Mansfield Center and James Toce of Southington and several nieces and nephews. She was predeceased by two brothers, William and Oscar Toce and three sisters, Barbara, Maryann and Angeline Toce.

Calling hours will be Tuesday (June 8) from 11 a.m.-12 p.m. concluding with a Prayer Service at 12:15 p.m. at the D’Esopo-East Hartford Memorial Chapel, 30 Carter Street, East Hartford. Burial will be private at the convenience of the family. Donations in Patty’s memory may be made to the CT Humane Society, 701 Russell Road, Newington, CT 06111 or the American Cancer Society, 825 Brook Street, I-91 Tech Center, Rocky Hill, CT 06067. To share a memory of Patty with her family, please visit


  • Connecticut Humane Society
  • American Cancer Society


  • Public Visitation

    Tuesday, June 8, 2021

  • Prayer Service

    Tuesday, June 8, 2021


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Gai Brown

June 7, 2021

We knew Pat from our visits to Connecticut to visit and she showed us what a welcoming sweet lady she was. She will be missed greatly by my husband and me. It was a great honor to know her if only for a few years. May she rest in peace. Love you Patty.

Cheryl Miller

June 6, 2021

Patty my neighbor and good friend for over 20 years. I'm going to miss our breakfast outings I going to miss talking and laughing with you. I'm going to miss your kindness and caring that you always showed. You will always be in my heart. God bless you. Rest in peace my friend.

Lisa Moody-Hart

June 2, 2021

My Condolences to the Family. Pat was the nicest, talkative, fun & kind person I know. Worked with her for many years at Met Life. She will truly be missed.

Tami Moody

June 1, 2021

Good afternoon, please accept our most sincere condolences for the loss of one of the most giving loving human beings that ever walked this Earth. Pat was an angel, she came into my life in 1998 when I met her while working at Metlife. We became fast friends as she watched my family grow. She attended all functions we had at our home, always showing up with loads of goodies and surprises. She had a great interest in all people and their stories, she cared about everyone, I spoke to her last on April 24, 2020, and we talked abut getting together soon so she could enjoy some fresh caught fish with the family. She will be missed so very much. Our prayers for comfort are with you in this time of sorrow.

Tami and Brian Moody and Family
Portland CT