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D'Esopo East Hartford Memorial Chapel

30 Carter Street, East Hartford, CT

OBITUARY

Richard A. Bender

November 22, 1940October 2, 2019

Richard A. Bender, 78, of East Hartford, passed away peacefully on Wednesday, October 2, 2019 after battling numerous cancers for twelve years. He is survived by his wife of 54 years Anita (Hamstedt) Bender, son Brian R. Bender (Wendy) of Bristol, CT, daughter Kelli M. Corsetti (Brian A.) of North Attleboro, MA and eight grandchildren: Nicole, Samantha, Rebecca & Lauren Bender; Allison, Madelyn, Katelyn & Zachary Corsetti. Born in Akron, OH to Harry A. Bender, PhD and Agnes L. Bender, he moved to Kingston, RI at the age of three. Richard attended local schools sharing the status of valedictorian with two other SKHS classmates and earned a B.S. in Mathematics from URI. As Alpha of Rho Iota Kappa fraternity (local chapter), he facilitated its transition to national Chi Phi fraternity in 1962. For 31 years he was employed as an aeronautical engineer at PWA. Before and after converting to Catholicism, he was involved in numerous Our Lady of Peace Church activities: Adult Social Club (Vice-President and President), carnival (money wheel), picnic, & weekly bingo. He golfed and bowled in several leagues. Many hours were spent watching sports on TV: UCONN Women's Basketball, Boston Red Sox, New England Patriots and Boston Celtics. Poker games were “sacred” for 53 years. The players changed over time but the games played on! Dick enjoyed taking the entire family to WDW, the Bahamas, and on a cruise to Bermuda to celebrate our 50th anniversary. Family time spent at Wildwood, Fox Hollow, and Cape Cod was special. RCCL cruises, Globus bus tours and treks to Naples, FL were happy events. His greatest enjoyment was playing board games & cards with his grandchildren, especially teaching them O S! He leaves his sister-in-law Carol Fletcher Bender of Wickford, RI, one niece, and five nephews. Dick was predeceased by brothers, Robert L. Bender and Roger H. Bender, PhD & wife Caroline Barlow Bender. Thank you to all the staff at St. Francis Hospital Cancer Center for the care given over the past eight years and the hospital's 8th floor oncology wing for their dedication and care in 2015 and this past week. You all have become “family”. Calling hours will be held on Thursday, October 10, 2019, from 4 - 7 PM at D'ESOPO-East Hartford Memorial Chapel, 30 Carter St., East Hartford, CT. A Mass of Christian burial will be celebrated at 11 AM on Friday, October 11, 2019 at Our Lady of Peace Church of St. Edmund Campion Parish, 370 May Road, East Hartford, CT. The family has asked that everyone go directly to the Church on Friday morning. Private burial will be at the convenience of the family. In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions may be made to the “Sister M. Consolata O'Connor '39 Endowed Scholarship”, University of Saint Joseph, c/o Office of Institutional Advancement, 1678 Asylum Avenue, West Hartford, CT 06117. For on-line expressions of sympathy please visit www.desopoeh.com.

  • DONATIONS

  • Sister M. Consolata O'Connor '39 Endowed Scholarship @ University of Saint Joseph

Services

PREVIOUS SERVICES:

  • Public Visitation Thursday, October 10, 2019
  • Mass of Christian Burial Friday, October 11, 2019

OTHER SERVICES:

  • Burial - Private

Memories

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Kevin Buechler

October 10, 2019

Our love and support is here for all of the Bender family. Of the many memories I have of Mr. Bender, my favorite is the level of obvious restraint he showed towards my grandmother and me during Sunday morning "Family Twosome" bowling matches at Silver Lanes. As one of the more competitive teams, the Benders must have wondered what level of purgatory they entered when they saw "Gallagher/Buechler" on the schedule. As with everything with Dick Bender, however, he handled it with good nature and I'm guessing a lot of prayer and affirmation.

Growing up without a father, Dick Bender was one of my examples of being a good man, good community member, and good father. Anne and I are so grateful that the Benders were part of our lives.

Carol COYNE

October 6, 2019

Dear Anita,
So sorry to hear of Dick’s passing.
Regina & I will always remember the Globus trips and what fun we had.
God bless you
Carol

Kerry OConnell

October 6, 2019

Anita, Brian and Kelli,

I am so sorry to hear the news about your Dads passing. I will always remember him with a big welcoming smile and deaf ears to Riley’s barking, demanding her entitled treat. He was a softie for Riley.

With our deepest sympathy,

Kerry, Dan and Riley

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