Evan J Lerner
November 15, 1972 – December 8, 2012
Evan Jarrod Lerner, 40, passed away on Saturday, December 8, 2012 at his home in Cedarhurst, NY. He fought a long and valiant fight, but succumbed to respiratory and cardiac failure due to complications of Multiple Sclerosis. Evan was born in Brooklyn on November 15, 1972 and is survived by his parents, Lois and Harvey Lerner. He was the beloved brother of Courtney Jacobs and brother-in-law of Adam Jacobs and loving uncle to Aaron and Alexandra Jacobs. He is also survived by his Grandmother, Gertrude Lerner and Aunt and Uncle Sheila and Bobby Kahn -whom he loved very much. He touched many people's lives with his caring, kind and sensitive nature. He was predeceased by his maternal grandparents, David and Pearl Sussman, Aunt Carol Chesney and paternal grandfather, Morris Lerner. Evan graduated from SUNY Buffalo where he majored in Theatre Arts and had starring rolls in university and professional stage and theatre productions. In recent years, Evan resided in his beloved Flagstaff, Arizona where he enjoyed the beautiful outdoors until the illness became acute. He will be loved and sorely missed by all who had the privilege to know him. He was a unique and very special person. Graveside funeral in Monday, Dec. 10, 2012 at 11:30 am at Wellwood Cemetery. Shiva services will be held at 540 Broadway, Cedarhurst, NY Monday afternoon through Thursday afternoon. The family asks that donations in his memory be made to The SASS Foundation for Medical Research in Roslyn or Congregation Sons of Israel in Woodmere.
- Graveside Service Monday, December 10, 2012
Evan J Lerner
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May 31, 2016
I lost touch with Evan a number of years back after the MS progressed to the point where he was unable to drive. He was my client quite a few years and I heard many stories of his life experiences, loves and stock market ventures! I grew very fond of him and was so impressed by his determination, intelligence & sensitivity! Love & Blessings to Evan & his family.
April 3, 2013
Evan was an intricate part of my childhood for so many years. Playdates with Courtney were so much fun, Evan was always willing to play with us and include his little sister and her friends in whatever he did. It didn't hurt that he was so cute! Evan and the Lerner family have made a dent in my heart forever. I feel blessed to have known him. RIP and thank you for all the fun times.
February 21, 2013
Evan- You brought so many smiles and such laughter to all of us at Camp Ramah. I am so sorry to hear of your passing. As much mischief as you may have gotten into, you were a very good person with a bigger heart. So sorry to hear of your loss!
February 20, 2013
Evan, you were like a brother to me for 8 years at Camp Ramah. We had so much fun those summers, from long distance running, to wandering through the woods and fishing in our secret spot, to boating, sneaking to the girls side of camp at night, and so many memories from the summers of our lives, ages 7-15. We freakin ruled that place, and always made our counselors earn their money. It was one of the best times of my life. It always sucked when the summers ended and we had to wait 10 whole months to hang out again. I remember visiting you once in high school for a weekend, and it was great to see you then and catch up with you. We lost touch, and I always thought we would reconnect some day. I didn't even know you were sick. I would have come and spent some time with you and created some new memories if I only knew. I am so sorry I didn't get to say goodbye and tell you what a positive impact you had on me, helping me to learn how to live in the moment, and how to enjoy life no matter what we were doing. I love you, my brother. May God take care of you until we meet again. My love and deepest condolences to your family and friends.
December 21, 2012
RIP Evan, I learned the best things about life from you.
Every trip around the sun is a blessing. Thanks for being there, your friend, Paul.
Aunt Sheila and Uncle Bobby
December 18, 2012
Evan, my dear wonderful, courageous, sensitive nephew,
You touched the lives of so many people, and never even realized it. You were gifted with handsome good looks, intelligence, kindness, compassion, talent and determination, to name just a few. Whether it be politics, religion, sports, philosophy, medicine or food, you always demonstrated knowledge and passion. How you loved to converse.
You were so passionate about how important a raw foods diet was, and you were able to achieve it for yourself. You encouraged others that you cared about to do the same, because you had such a kind and loving heart, and wanted the best for everyone. We have so many wonderful memories. What a joy it was to visit you and share your wonderful Arizona with you nine years ago. How you loved the mountains. You took such pride in caring for your plants. They always thrived all around you because they knew that they were loved.
Had life been different for you, we know, without any doubt, that we would all be seeing you up on the big screen, performing in some way.
You are our inspiration Ev, and we are so proud of you. It is an honor for us to be your Aunt and Uncle, and we will always cherish that role. We love you Ev, and you will forever be etched in our hearts.
December 17, 2012
Evan was the best friend you could ask for. I have known him since 2005 and he was a catalyst in my life. I have never known a more enthusiastic soul and I don't think I ever will. I spent hours and hours with him every week, helping him figure out how to make raw food taste good, getting birds out of the fireplace and setting them free (he could not condone a trapped suffering bird) He is that bird and I will meet him again with open arms and a glad smile to see him running! He was great with children, my daughter, even though she was only 2 and 3 years old at the time remembers him fondly. He had every season of Sponge bob on DVD and that wasn't because he wanted to try to entertain a child, it was because he was a child at heart. No matter how tough things got for him he could always find humor in cartoons and children. I will never forget him, I will never stop telling the story of Evan. A great man has departed from us and He will be sorely missed... until we get to go jogging with him and he kicks our butts! No one could appreciate the ability to move freely more than he must, He has a good head start, so you better start training! Be grateful for life, be grateful for loved ones and be grateful that Evan was willing to live the life he did so that we could learn how blessed we all are. Evan, you will always be in my heart and I will see you sooner than I know. :) Until then, the Lord bless you and keep you, the Lord make His face to shine upon you.
December 15, 2012
To say Evan Lerner was a special person is an understatement. I knew from the first time I met him, a year ago, in the professional capacity as his massage therapist, that this was true. Though it was immediately apparent that this disease had ravaged his body, one look at his face, into his eyes..truly the mirror of the soul and ESPECIALLY in Evan's case..his eyes were so crystal clear, intense and vividly blue and peaceful..it was easy to sense the genuine, deep, kind, sensitive and intelligent soul that was housed in this body that was now poorly serving him. How badly I wanted to help him..in some ways I know I did at least bring some comfort to him in our weekly sessions..what I truly wished and prayed for was this dreadful disease to go away and leave him alone..give him a chance to have the life he more than deserved to have...I always held out hope that someday, the next chapter would be a happy one for Evan..those who knew and loved you will never know why this was not to be the case...Ev, your kind, loving, gentle soul touched my heart and my life forever.. I feel lucky to have had the privilege to get to know you, and all our talks will remain with me. You fought valiantly and I am so proud of you. I am glad your beautiful soul and spirit are free from suffering..I will miss you, my friend..I will take the best parts of you with me always. Rest in peace. I Love You!
December 14, 2012
I have been thinking of Evan a lot in recent days. I miss his positivity in the face of all the adversity he faced. I had the pleasure of helping Evan in Flagstaff, AZ and have never enjoyed such a wonderful boss, friend, and person. I hope all is as well as can be for his family back in New York. Mom and Dad sadly I can't remember your names, but I had the pleasure of meeting you two as well and I'm sorry for your loss. I will always think of Evan every time I think of New York, organic food, and living life to the fullest that you can while we are here. We all love you here in Flagstaff, so let me know if there is anything I can do to help.
gaye and allan jacobs
December 14, 2012
As the days and weeks pass, and as you return to life's routine, may you continue to feel comforted by the love and support of family and friends.
December 13, 2012
Eric and ! were soo shocked & saddened to learn of our Cousin Evan's Death. He was a Gentle,Wonderful Soul. He was a Loving Son-Brother-So Loved by his Grandparents-Uncle-Brother-in-law! He touched everyone's Heart. May he rest in God's Hands & be at Peace! Amen.Evan's Family should know no more sorrow -God Bless you All-Barbara-Eric-Justin
December 12, 2012
I grew up with Evan through the Lawrence Public Schools and remember him as an easy going, gentle and friendly fun filled soul who always walked with a smile. Im heart felt condolences to all his family and close friends for such an unfortuante loss. His spirit ans smile will be missed...May God grant him eternal love and peace..
December 11, 2012
I met Evan about 6 years ago. I met him because of his MS. I became his massage therapist and visited him every Friday. We soon developed a wonderful friendship. We would visit for quite sometime before each massage. We spoke of spirituality, hopes, dreams and fears. We would sit outside and admire the blue skies, the birds singing, the trees. He was so wise and helpful. I think he helped me out more on those Fridays than I ever helped him. He was such a dear friend, one of the most honest and open people that I have ever met. His heart was soo big and all encompassing. I have an eight year old daughter who got to meet Evan and hang out with him at times. She also loved him so very much. I would always look forward to my Fridays with Evan. After he moved away from Flagstaff back to his native New York, there was a great empty space in my life. I missed our talks and his presence so much. He was eating a "raw" diet for awhile and I remember him always trying to get me to eat something new. He was trying to convert me to eat raw as well! He was always so delighted when I liked something! I will miss him more now that he is gone from this earthly existence. My heart loved his heart. He made me a better person just by knowing him. I know now that he is at peace, that he no longer has to deal with a body that didn't quite do what he wanted it to do. I close my eyes and I can picture him riding a bike through the woods, a basket on the front filled with good, organic food! I can see him running and jumping again and being what he always dreamed he could be. His strength always amazed me, even on the worst of his days. I will miss my lovely friend but I am ever so thankful and blessed to have known him and to be loved by him.
December 11, 2012
I am so sad to hear of Evan's passing. We were really good friends in Junior High School. I have such fond memories of him. Love to you all. XO, Debby Relkin (Sicherman)