Margaret "Muffy" Wagner

November 3, 1930September 5, 2020

Mrs. Margaret "Muffy" Wagner, born on November 3, 1930 in Belmont, Massachusetts, passed away at age 89 on September 5, 2020. Muffy was married to her beloved husband Charlie for 62 years, with whom she raised seven children. Muffy graduated from Mt. Auburn nursing school in Massachusetts in 1951, then worked as a contract nurse for the U.S. military, making numerous round trips from New York to Germany, where she met her sweetheart Charlie, then in the Army. After starting their family in Portland, Oregon, Muffy & Charlie moved to Indianapolis, where they spent the remainder of their married life happily together. Muffy was a devout Catholic and an active member of Immaculate of Heart of Mary parish, then St. Pius X. In addition to raising seven children, she volunteered to read to the blind and also delivered meals to the elderly. Muffy loved the ocean, the Boston Red Sox and Notre Dame. She enjoyed visiting Hilton Head Island as well as her family home in the seaside town of Scituate, MA. She was preceded in death by her husband Charles; daughter, Mary Nelson; sisters, Pat Gillis, Jean Smolenski, and Sheila Fleming, and brother John Fleming. Muffy is survived by her sons, Charles (Elissa), Daniel (Jan), John and Michael (Lisa); daughters, Margaret Bower (Michael) and Ann Bourque (Peter); sister, Mary Fleming and brother Frank Fleming; grandchildren, Lauren, Evan, Ian, Heather, Hannah, Nick, Mark, Lexie, Jack, Kathleen, Brendan, Molly, Guerin, Emma, Mary, Erik, Brian and Joe; great grandchildren Graham and Logan; and niece, Theresa Hufford (Andy). Friends and family members may attend the visitation from 9:30-10:30am on Saturday, September 12th immediately followed by the Memorial Mass at 10:30 am, both at St. Pius X Catholic Church, 7200 Sarto Drive, Indianapolis. In lieu of flowers, donations can be made to Little Sisters of the Poor, 2345 W.86th Street, Indianapolis, Indiana, 46260. Online condolences are available at


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  • Visitation

    Saturday, September 12, 2020

  • Mass of Christian Burial

    Saturday, September 12, 2020


Margaret "Muffy" Wagner

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Elissa Wagner

September 18, 2020

Dearest Margaret, Danny, John, Ann Marie and Mike I sorry for the loss of your mom. Thankfully all of you just like Muffy always treated me kindly and made me feel like a member of the family.
Muffy was such a sweet person to me. Sometimes you would think that after 7 children and numerous other friends and relatives that you might become tired of welcoming any one else. Muffy though always managed to make me feel included in the clan. Life can be so ironic I remember first meeting all of you and thinking when I met Mike, Thank God finally one that is shorter than me!
Muffy and Charlie were both good to our family in many ways. They made several trips to Texas and spent several nice Thanksgivings with us. I remember we played many games of
Hand and Foot with us all trying to hide getting into our foot! We laughed about trying to all fool each other. I know from our many conversations that they loved you all deeply.
I recall one night a lot of us were up in Scituate. Everyone was getting tired and going to bed. Muffy was entertaining us with many stories and as Margaret stated they included wags factors throughout! She kept saying I have to go to bed soon! After a while it was only little Charlie and I left. We still talked for a long time more when Muffy asked the time, she stated , " I really want to be in bed by midnight." Charlie went to check the time as this was before cell phones. He came in and said 3:30 am. She was amazed and quickly laughed and went to bed.
Once right after they moved to Mystic bay, Muffy ,Annie and I were folding clothes , we were talking about songs and I said how I loved the song Tomorrow from the show Annie. She went in and brought out a music box with that song! Ann said she thought that was for someone else. It probably was but she generously gave it to me. That was so thoughtful!
Muffy was never harsh or unkind to me. I will pray we can all
receive that same grace! May you be hugging Charlie and Mary in Heaven.

Charlie Wagner

September 14, 2020

I remember the special "alone" times we would have and loved every minute of them. Peace and quiet was a very rare thing in our house and we would share some mother and son little trips and laughs together. You would take me grocery shopping at the old Atlas Market on College Av. You would buy bags and bags of groceries to feed our hungry crew. I remember one wintery day we were there and you drove that old white 1963 Chevy Monza Corvair. David Letterman worked there as a bag boy and he would roll the groceries to the back of the car and stopped. You told him the trunk was in the front of the car, and he just stood in the rear with groceries in hand ready to unload, not believing the trunk was in the front. He finally shrugged his shoulders and said something and you and he just laughed and laughed. You gave me his tip money I put it in my pocket. He was getting ready to leave but grabbed his tip from my pocket and you 2 just laughed. On another one of our trips we went to G.C. Murphy's in Broad Ripple to get some school socks downstairs. It was 2 story shopping store back then. I really wanted some of that butter toffee fresh baked popcorn we would smell the minute we would go into the store. You said no. We stopped and got a submarine sandwich, and you sent me over to Mr. Keens shoes next door to pick up Danny's special shoes and wait for you there.When we both got back to the car (again your old Corvair) what did you have waiting for me on the passenger seat? But a fresh bag of that old butter toffee popcorn! We just sat in the parking lot gobbling on that fresh sub sandwich and eating that popcorn, talking about how special our little trips were and how much fun we'd have! Of all my child-hood memories those little trips just you and me are front and center! Even though there were many of us kids, you always seemed to have a little alone time with each of us. I love and miss you so so much Mom it actually hurts. You have that special twinkle of magic!

Rich Able

September 12, 2020

Muffy was a sweet woman, who was married to my boss at Lamfab, Charlie Wagner.
I remember going to hockey games with her and Charlie to see the Racers. Muffy's favorite player was Renee LeClair.
Over the years I met most, if not all of the children, though they were young at the time. They were all very nice people, which reflects their parents love and caring.
Years later I met Mike again as a fellow home inspector, and am not surprised that he has risen to be President of the American Society of Home Inspectors.
The world is a better place because of the time Muffy and Charlie spent here.

Becky Bell

September 12, 2020

My sincere condolences to Charlie, Elissa and the whole family.

John Christ

September 12, 2020

Mrs. Wagner was always the most gracious, most kind lady to me and to all the friends of the Wagner family.
As if having 7 children wasn’t enough, I was always made to feel welcome at 5555 Washington Blvd as if I were a member of the family and that is because of the incredible kindness of Mr. and Mrs. Wagner (I can never call them Charlie and Muffy; they will always be Mr. and Mrs. to me...) and, of course, because of their wonderful children especially my friend, Dan.

I can hear and feel and clearly imagine the cottage in Scituate in my mind’s eye. I am beyond fortunate that I was allowed to be included on those precious Wagner summer trips. They are memories I will always cherish.

Thank you, Mrs.Wagner for your kindness and grace and may Our Lady keep and guide and protect you and Mr. Wagner and Mary Wagner.
To Charlie, Margaret, John, Ann, Mike and especially Dan, the thoughts and prayers and love of your friends are sent this day and always. Peace, jmc

Mindy Greene

September 11, 2020

Wagner Family,
I’m so sorry for the loss of your sweet Mom. From spending the night at your house in grade school to having lunch with her and my Mom earlier this year at Hoosier Village, I have enjoyed her company for a long time. She was always so sweet, very caring with my Mom and so funny and feisty! She was also always a very proud Mom of all of you and proud to be Charlie’s wife.
I hope you take comfort in the fact that she is with her love and was surely greeted by a crowd of loved ones upon her arrival. Share stories with each other and take comfort in your memories.❤️

Cynthia Fisher

September 10, 2020

My most sincere condolences on the passing of your lovely mother. I have a memory I would like to share. My husband and I moved into 5643 Washington Boulevard in 1979. Shortly after Muffy and Charles stopped by. They told us of all the years of living in this house with lots of kids and of all the remodeling projects including the new kitchen that was still quite nice at the time we moved in. What stays sharp in my memory is Muffy telling us that they planted the oak tree in the front yard. Oak trees are always thought of as strong and enduring. What a fitting tribute to her now. The tree is still there. I love that I knew the person who planted it.

Sharon Bosler

September 10, 2020

Dear Ann and John,
Paul and I are so sorry for the loss of your mother. She was a fun, sparkly, friendly lady and you were so fortunate to have her with you for so long. Being such good People, we are sure your Mother and Dad are enjoying each other’s presence in Heaven.
Paul and Sharon Bosler

Jessica White

September 10, 2020

Muffy and Charlie were our next-door neighbors for ten years. We couldn't have asked for better neighbors or friends. Muffy's cheerful smile and positive attitude were always there, in spite of illness and concerns. She will be missed by so many. Rest in peace, dear friend!

Carl Lindblad

September 9, 2020

Mark, I’m sorry for the loss of your grand mom. I can see her life energy and service live on through you., and no doubt in your many fellow descendants. Happy trails Muffy!!


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