Thomas George Wehner

November 24, 1946July 9, 2020

Thomas George Wehner, age 73, passed away unexpectedly in his home on July 9, 2020. He was born into this world on November 24, 1946, in St. Louis, MO, to Joseph and Jean Wehner, and he was baptized as an infant into the Catholic faith that he actively practiced his entire life. His love for Jesus and others was evident in his relationships with his family, including his nine siblings, and the many friendships he forged throughout his life. He later graduated from Lebanon High School in Missouri, spent a little over a year in the seminary, and went on to earn a bachelor’s degree in Mechanical Engineering at the University of Missouri at Rolla (now known as Missouri University of Science and Technology).

On June 1, 1968, he married the love his life, Barbara, and the couple was blessed with five daughters, Christine, Emily, Rebecca, Elizabeth, and Jennifer. While building their family, Tom worked as an engineer for B.F. Goodrich Company for about 10 years, followed by a career of over 25 years with Anheuser-Busch Companies as an engineer and later Assistant Plant Manager in Jacksonville, Florida, where he retired in 2001. He was fondly respected by his coworkers and developed many genuine friendships that exist to this day.

After retirement, Tom remained very busy with volunteer work with Habitat for Humanity and specifically with HabiJax, the local Jacksonville branch. He began his own small business in carpentry and other home improvements, called “Tom’s Shop,” and he took great pride in providing these services to friends and family and to those who spread the word about the quality of his craftsmanship, efficient service, and friendly demeanor. He also enjoyed traveling to new destinations with family and friends taking him to places as far away as Mexico, China, India, South Africa, Panama, Budapest, Barcelona, Ireland, and Alaska. In his time at home, he loved to read, watch soccer, spend time with his grandchildren, build in his workshop, and enjoy weekly dinner outings with his close group of friends. He was an active parishioner at St. Paul’s Catholic Church at Jacksonville Beach for over 20 years.

To know Tom, was to love him. He helped every person he met in any way that he could – he was truly selfless. It was not unusual for him to help his daughters, grandchildren, or their friends move to new homes, haggle for the best price on a new vehicle, build a custom coffee table or even better teach them to build for themselves, hang up countless pictures (perfectly level, of course), or entertain with jokes or stories leading to his infectious chuckle and a warm hug. All who knew him respected him for his honesty, his fairness, his loyalty, his intelligence, his dependability, and his sense of humor.

Tom will be deeply missed by his family and friends. He is preceded in death by his father, Joseph Wehner, and his younger brother, Charles “Chucky” Wehner. He is survived by his devoted wife of 52 years, Barbara; his daughters, Christine Reitz, Emily Wehner, Rebecca Hewitt (Jeff), Elizabeth Wehner, and Jennifer Wehner; and his grandchildren, Katarina Shepherd (Michael), Thomas Reitz, Noah Wehner, Christian Cato, Joshua Hewitt, Jeremiah Hewitt, and Jillian Hewitt. Tom is also survived by his mother, Jean Wehner of Lebanon, Missouri, and his siblings Robert Wehner (Kathy), John Wehner (Carolyn), Joann Overstreet, Kathy Schuyler, Ron Wehner (Pam), Patrick Wehner (Karen), Mark Wehner, and Nancy Musice (Jerry).

A Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated at 11 a.m. on Monday, July 27, 2020 at St. Paul’s Catholic Church, 435 1st Ave. N., Jacksonville Beach, Florida. Due to COVID-19 constraints, the service will be private, keeping to the church limitation of 75 people. The Mass will be live-streamed and can be watched through the links below

In lieu of flowers, please consider making a financial tribute gift to HabiJax (Habitat for Humanity Jacksonville) in Tom’s name to assist in carrying out a mission to put God’s love into action, bringing people together to build homes, communities and hope – just like Tom did every day. You can donate online at or by mail to 2404 Hubbard St. Jacksonville, Florida 32206.

Arrangements are under the care and direction of HARDAGE-GIDDENS FUNERAL HOME BEACHES CHAPEL, 1701 Beach Blvd Jacksonville Beach FL,32250


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Stephen Wehner

July 27, 2020

Just watched the lovely funeral Mass. I was very impressed with the eulogy given by his friend Keith. Very thoughtful, sincere and gave a great picture of who Tom was, what he did and how much he meant to others. Unfortunately, other than as young boys when we would drive from our home in Dayton Ohio to Missouri, I never really got to know Tom (or to me, Tommy, the middle one in the Bobby, Tommy and Johnny trio of Uncle Joe's sons). Among the cousins, until my sister Teresa came along, it was all boys. I was the 4th cousin - Tom's brother Bobby, cousin Nick, Tommy and then me. We were all close in age so when did get together - either down in Ste Genevieve or up in Festus we always had a great time horsing around - playing down by the creek or along the railroad tracks behind Grandpa's house - where we would try and get the engineer on the old Smokey Joe steam locomotives to blow the steam whistle. One memory in particular is still clear as a bell . We must have been 10 or 11. Uncle Joe had invited us to go down to the baker shop to watch how the bakery started every day. We must have arrived about 1:00 in the morning. Uncle Joe had already started the bread which was rising when we arrived. I was not used to being up in the middle of the night so I was fighting to stay awake. Tommy saw this and said he knew what to do to help me stay awake. Uncle Joe had one of those old blue porcelain 2 gallon coffee pots sitting on the gas burner, that would later be used to fry the doughnuts. The coffee in it was boiling, with the lid jumping up and down. Tommy grabbed some hot pads and poured me a cup of the boiling brew. I don't think I had ever tasted coffee before that - certainly nothing so strong, thick and tar like. Wow, I could see how that stuff would keep you awake. As a result I never tried another cup of so called coffee till I was in the Coast Guard. Boy I sure wish I would have known Tommy through these years!

Joe and Gaye Moore

July 27, 2020

I attended high school with Tom, went to college with him and joined the same fraternity. Tom brought my future wife and me together (she grew up with Barb). Since my wife went to high school with Barb (Trotwood-Madison) we have stayed in touch over the years and spent many wonderful times together. About 30 years ago the 4 of us attended Barb's and Gaye's 20th high school reunion. To have some fun, Tom made his name card Tom Trotwood and I made my name Joe Gump (the maiden name of my wife). We spent the rest of the night talking and convincing everyone that we were part of the class that attended high school with them at T/M. Most people thought they recognized the names but didn't remember the faces. What a great night together.

Jane Lewis

July 23, 2020

I remember how nice he was when he came to visit and would come by the bakery. To all his family I'm truly sorry for your loss.

Peggy & John Wilchek

July 23, 2020

Barb and Family

We were shocked and devastated to learn of Tom's untimely death. When he wasn't spending time with Barb, their girls, and seven grandchildren, he was busy tackling complex and challenging construction projects. He was really enjoying his retirement and we all thought he would live a long and healthy life. Working with Tom for so many years, I knew I could always depend on his expertise and solid work ethic. Not only was he an excellent engineer and manager, he was a friendly, gracious man who will be missed by those that knew him.

DJ Kuehn

July 21, 2020

Barbara and family,
We just met Tom 2 months ago when he came to our home to give us an estimate on building a wall unit. Both myself and my husband, along with my sister who introduced us to Tom, liked him immediately. He was extremely knowledgeable..........funny.......and the kind of man you just liked being around.
I am so sorry for your loss. You all will be in my thoughts and prayers.
God bless you all.
DJ & Jack Kuehn

Kathy Mergel

July 21, 2020

Barbara and family
I’m am so so sorry and shocked to hear of Tom’s passing.
I got to know Tom through the wonderful work he did in my home!
He was such a great guy and I will always cherish the work and laughs we had as he worked...
My prayers are with you all...
Kathy Mergel

Stacey Drennon

July 17, 2020

Tom was the best uncle I could’ve ever asked for. After Hurricane Charley, we didn’t have much and Tom brought his love & supplies we needed. Through that , we got through it. In so much fear, he reassured us it was going to be okay. Seriously, they should name a Beer after Tom. He’s one of the best people you’d ever meet in your life.

Sarah Myers

July 16, 2020

Aunt Barb, Girls and Family,
I have always felt blessed to be part of the Wehner be so lucky to have wonderful family Uncle Tom! He will be missed by so many and I have amazing memories full of laughter and good times!
Prayers for comfort and peace.
Love you all!

Lora and Michael Lohr

July 16, 2020

Barbara and entire family,
We loved Tom and all of you so much! We were devastated for you all!
Tom was such a faithful servant to all who knew him and especially our Lord.
May God bless and comfort all of you. Barbara we are here for you and love you so much.
Much love Lora and Michael🙏🏻❤️

Barbra Revels

July 15, 2020

Tom will be missed by many. He was the best ever Boss at Anheuser-Busch. Tom had an infectious smile, was giving and loved his family with all his heart! His wife Barb and children were always so kind to me and I’m so saddened for their loss! A good man is gone too soon!!❤️