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Quinn-Hopping Funeral Home

145 East Mount Pleasant Ave, Livingston, NJ

OBITUARY

Joseph A. Caputo

June 26, 1964September 2, 2019

Joseph A. Caputo, 55, of Livingston, NJ, passed away on Monday, September 2, 2019.

His legacy is carried on by his wife, Donna (Amodio) Caputo, and his sons, Thomas J. Caputo and Anthony P. Caputo. Joseph was the beloved son Joan P. Caputo and the late Thomas J. Caputo. He is also survived by his sisters, Charlene Caputo Kahse (H. Jerry), Dawn (Caputo) Boudmer (H. Bruno), his sister-in-law Christine Slinger (H. Ronnie), and his brother-in-law, Peter Amodio (W. Angela), and many nieces and nephews. He will also be missed dearly by many friends and loved ones in the world of tennis and beyond. Special thanks to Dr. Leitner, Dr. Rieger, Dr. Zucker, and all the doctors and staff members of St. Barnabas Medical Center.

The family will receive relatives and friends at the Quinn-Hopping Funeral Home, 145 E. Mt. Pleasant Ave., Livingston, NJ, on Friday, September 6, from 3 to 8 PM. The Mass of Christian Burial will be offered at St. Philomena Church, 386 S. Livingston Ave., on Saturday, September 7, at 10 AM. Burial to follow at Holy Cross Cemetery, North Arlington, NJ.

In lieu of flowers, the family requests donations be made to St. Barnabas Cancer Center, 94 Old Short Hills Rd., Livingston, NJ 07039.

Services

  • Visitation Friday, September 6, 2019
  • Funeral Mass Saturday, September 7, 2019
  • Committal Service Saturday, September 7, 2019

Memories

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Lori Jacobs

September 12, 2019

Joe,

We met 30 years ago on the tennis courts. You coached me, Alan and each of our three children. There was never a dull moment with you around. When Jaime, my oldest - and not the most serious of students would walk into her lesson wearing a turtleneck and jeans you would yell at her “Jaime what are you doing? You can’t wear that on a tennis court” . Her 9 year old self would yell back, “Joe, don’t speak to me like that! “ You folded like a teddy bear :) . I think she may have been the only student who could get away with that with you! Matt came next and was a lot more serious - you helped him reach his potential and kept him calm and focused during tournaments and high school try outs. He was on his way to Bollettieri one summer and you came over with a brand new professional looking red tennis bag - you said he couldn’t go down there with the old beat up one he had…He had to look the part of a serious player! When my youngest Jonny was a baby and I would take him to the courts to see his older siblings lessons, you put him in the ball hopper so he could “play” too. Any errant ball that came his way was masterfully deflected by you.
Your other love, a good meal - brought our families together in the most enjoyable way. A few of us introduced you to Don Pepe in Queens - we knew it would be right up your alley. I remember one summer evening we made plans to go with Jonny and Thomas. They were probably all of 10 years old at the time. You were going to pick me up and we were meeting Alan there. You finished your lessons for the day and came racing into my driveway, music blaring - you rolled down your window and screamed “ LORI GET IN THE CAR - I’M STARVING!” The whole ride we talked about our order and how many baked clams we should get!
Joe, I will miss you. You loved hard and we loved you right back. Rest in peace, Lori Jacobs

Matthew Jacobs

September 11, 2019

Dear Joe,

From the age of about 7 years we started playing tennis together. There are so many countless memories on and off the court, some of which include Mets games, and just taking an “extended break” on the court at Maplewood as we ate goldfish and drank diet coke. I remember when you drove me to my high school tryouts Senior year for tennis. You picked me up in your truck with those huge rims and we blasted the music as you dropped me off. I was nervous, but in that moment I felt like a true BOSS.

You always had my back and sometimes that even meant tough love, but that was okay and important too. When I transitioned at 23 years old, we hadn’t seen each other as much since I had been away at college and had since moved to San Francisco. Years later, I came to visit you on the court with my mom. I remember you saw me and greeted me with the biggest hug like you had seen me just yesterday. I remember telling you after that interaction, I’m sorry I hadn’t reached out to you sooner, it had been a long time, and I just didn’t know how to approach it; to tell some people from my past. You told me “Matt never let anyone make you feel like you’re less than, and it was so great to see you and looking forward to seeing you soon” Every interaction after that was always seamless, like we hadn’t skipped a beat since meeting when I was 7.

Our last interaction, although I’m sad it was our last, was one filled with hugs and joy when I told you I moved back to the NY, and now we can finally go to Don Pepe’s.

Joe, your love for those around you, real unconditional love, was not only infectious, but it’s inspiring and will live on. I will miss you and always look back to our hours and hours on and off the court with a smile and true gratitude.

Chris Ito

September 10, 2019

Dear Donna, Thomas & Anthony,

Words can’t express our feelings of sympathy. And words can’t do justice to the impact that Joe had on our lives. A couple months ago, he called me out of the blue to tell me what a great kid (my) Thomas is and that he loved him. I think he wanted to make sure that he told me that in person. I told him thanks, but I also told him that the old saying “it takes a village to raise a child” couldn’t be more true. He was the village leader, and the impact he had on every kid (and adult) who ever walked onto a tennis court at WOTC or MCC can’t be overstated. We talked about parenting about 10x more than we ever talked about tennis.

The lessons that he taught Thomas will last forever. I will miss my friend dearly, especially on Saturday mornings. But I have zero doubt that I will hear his voice and words often (and loudly) inside my head. May you find comfort that he was so admired, loved his family with all his heart and left behind what will be an enduring legacy.

Chris Ito

Mark Holtzman

September 8, 2019

To Donna,Anthony and Thomas—-

Words cannot express the sadness that engulfs my entire family over Joe’s passing. My Dad introduced me to Joe almost 25 years ago. Joe was like a brother to me—-2nd father to my son_-and dear friend to my parents—Joe taught my mom and dad,me and of course my son. Back about 20 years ago_-he gave me the confidence and doubles expertise along with a great partner in Justin to go undefeated in 3 years of club matches and win some matches I had no right winning—

He taught my son for over 10 years_—My parents would take Greg to his weekly lesson—joe would always set up chairs for my parents by the court even when it was not allowed. IT was the highlight of my parents week for 10 years to take Greg to his weekly lesson—during the lesson there would of course be the ongoing dialogue between my dad and joe on life,tennis and of course food. AT the end of the lesson—a very little Anthony was sometimes there—whether it was at a lesson, tournament or high school match—my dad would always give Anthony a kiss_-and no matter how old Anthony was—he always gave my dad a kiss back_—Joe trained his kids so well to respect elders!

Tommy was the hitting partner for my son’s lessons since he was 7 years old_—They must have played over 100 sets together growing up—Joe and I dreamed about the 2 boys playing high school tennis together and winning a state championship—never in a million years did we think it would happen. When the time came—TC had gotten so good that high school tennis was not looking good_—-Joe and I—over dinner at Angelo’s of course_—discussed what to do all night—AT the end of the night—TC was playing high school tennis_—and what a ride it was!!!!

The ride ended in the state finals against Westfield—As usual—Tommy and Quentin ran through their matches and the doubles both lost_—IT all came down for the state championship to my son versus arguably a more talented opponent_—I can still remember Joe—who was at his loudest that day

Mark Holtzman

September 8, 2019

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The entire tennis community and many schoolmates and friends were there—But my son only had eyes for you—so did I for that matter as we held hands for the entire final set and it took my hands a week to recover!

Greg won Thank God-and after first hugging my mom and dad—he was the first one to embrace my son when he walked off the court!!! None of this would have been possible without Joe!!!
We then went back to house—and celebrated with the boys

Joe was the type of friend who was even more there
for you in tough times—he was right by my side when my mom died 2 years ago which I will never forget! For 25 years on almost every Saturday and many mondays_—I was with Joe—No matter how bad my week was—I always felt better after being with Joe.

My life will never be the same without Joe

I miss him so badly already—God bless you my dear friend and brother! I will always be there for Donna and your boys!!!

Much Love,
Mark, Shari, Greg, Jenna, Donald and Bobbee Holtzman

Scott Kessler

September 7, 2019

Joe,

Thank you for being such a great coach during formative years in my life. You always demonstrated how to work hard and play hard, both on and off the court. It was always great to see you, even after I stopped playing as much when I went off to college. I can still hear in my head, “Oh look who it is!” You will be missed. Sending love to the Caputo friends and family.

Scott

Mark Najera

September 7, 2019

We never know where life will take us
I know it’s just a ride on the wheel.
And we never know when death will shake us
And we wonder how it will feel.
So goodbye my friend I know I will never see you again but the time together will take away these tears.
Life’s so fragile and love’s so pure
We can’t hold on but we try
We watch how quickly it disappears
And we never know why
But I’m OK now
Goodbye my friend. One day I will see you again. I love you my brother. Rest In Peace. Mark ...

Mark Najera

September 6, 2019

We never know where life will take us
I know it’s just a ride on the wheel.
And we never know when death will shake us
And we wonder how it will feel.
So goodbye my friend I know I will never see you again but the time together will take away these tears.
Life’s so fragile and love’s so pure
We can’t hold on but we try
We watch how quickly it disappears
And we never know why
But I’m OK now
Goodbye my friend. One day I we’ll see you again I love you my brother. Rest In Peace Mark...

Scott Rodgers

September 6, 2019

Dear Joe and Caputo Family,
Within 10 minutes of initially meeting you at the first USTA match played between Jeffrey and Anthony, I knew we would become fast friends. Over the ensuing decade, our friendship grew and I came to view you more as a brother. I looked forward to giving you a big hug, a kiss on the cheek, and a whispered "I love you" every time I saw you. I also loved watching you demonstrate your loving and caring manner with Dee, Jeffrey, and Christina throughout the fun times we spent together.
It's not easy summing up into the allotted words how I feel about a man who was "larger than life" and as "selfless, loving, caring, giving, and protective" as anyone I know. Simply stated, to be a Joe Caputo family member, friend, children's friend and/or client was to be in a very good place, indeed. You knew that Joe was loving you, investing in you, looking after you, and seeking to provide you with all that he had to give!
The happiest I observed Joe (on so very many occasions) was when he was giving something to others (ie. tennis lessons; university clothing; raffle prizes; catered meals; etc.). Only when it came to food did I ever hear him discuss his own wants and needs (think: two entrees a night cooked by his beloved Donna!).
Joe's obituary rightly mentions his legacy. To my mind, through his words and actions, Joe established an enormous legacy that will endure through providing great memories and comfort to those he touched for many years to come. Joe was a GREAT man who I will remember lovingly for the rest of my living years.
Joe, I love you forever and always...and look forward to sharing more fun times when we meet up again! Love, Scott

Mahendra Rampersaud

September 6, 2019

Words can’t begin to express how Joe touched the hearts of everyone that knew him, his passion for life, family & tennis were evident in everything he did.

They say the lord always calls on the good ones...Rest my friend, until we meet again.

FROM THE FAMILY