OBITUARY

John J. Kane, Jr.

August 12, 1941March 14, 2021

John J. Kane, Jr. died on March 14, 2021, at North Shore Medical Center in Salem, MA, surrounded by the people who loved him. During a global pandemic, the surrounding was both live and via Zoom. He is predeceased by his parents, and following the "according to age” standard, he is survived by his younger siblings, Michael, Peter, Maryanna, and their families; his wife, Millice, and his children and grandchildren.

John, born on August 12, 1941 to Mercita Loyola Brett Kane and John J. Kane, Sr., was lauded for his large cranium, which required an equally large set of forceps for delivery. As a proud graduate of Notre Dame (class of 1963), he did not outgrow his large skull and thus earned his nickname “Little Dome” at South Bend.

As an Army Officer Candidate in Fort Sill, OK, John met a blind date who turned out to be the love of his life: Millice (rhymes with police) Frey. From a blind date to love letters, from a European courtship to a Thanksgiving proposal, and finally, a September wedding. Their union resulted in 10 exceptional children (per John; apologies if you’ve been forced to praise any report cards) and 54 years of wedded bliss (give-or-take 1986-1987 when there were 5 teenagers at once).

John followed in his dad’s footsteps at Finnessy Body Corp., and subsequently worked as a manufacturer’s representative until he found his true calling as the Director of Community Development for Collingswood, NJ, where he served his community for over 15 years and was integral in transforming the town to the vibrant, destination community it now is.

Although anonymity is fundamental in Alcoholics Anonymous, John K. would publicly celebrate that he was only 3 days away from his 36th anniversary of sobriety. He committed to sobriety on March 17, 1985 and never looked back. He spent much of his free time, and a great amount of energy, in service to AA, an organization he loved and was committed to entirely.

On a more personal note, John was enormously proud of his novel, "Deliver Us from Evil", which was published in 2020. A labor of love, John was thankful to have it published and would want you to know it is available as a hardcover (click directly on the link), https://amzn.to/3tvWHD2, paperback at https://amzn.to/3qZZuT8, and as an ebook at https://amzn.to/38QQ5qH.

John’s greatest joy in life was his family. Once told by a priest that “go forth and multiply” was not the responsibility of one couple; John’s pride and purpose was in being the best father he could be to his TEN children: Gabrielle (Chris Casieri), Jessica (Michael Strauss), Sean (Araceli Anderson), Meaghan (James Benjamin), Samantha (Giovanni Rosato), Brett, Brian (Sylvia Szczerbicki), Matthew (Nootik Risek), Kevin (Kajal Patel), and Andrew (Susie Dyer). John took credit for having 23 amazing grandchildren: Ivy & James Casieri; Julia, Alexander, Naomi & Sophia Strauss; Liam, Ethan, Brendan & MaryGrace Kane; Mercita, Jersey, Stella & Elias Benjamin; Gianni, Leonardo & Matteo Rosato; MacKenzie & Sasha Kane; Anya & Maximilian Kane; Arthur & Owen Kane. He also loved his granddogs: Tony, Ziva, Stanley, Rosie, Morgan, Millie, Natoma, Luther, Dutch, Archer, Phoenix, Tully, Monkey, Rhino, and Tiber.

John’s advanced Parkinson’s Disease did not stop him from doing his favorite things: feeding the ducks, checking the mail, and eating all the chocolate. He was the best that he could be, and the world was better while he was in it. Perhaps the best thing that can be said is that he will be missed by many.

Private interment. Celebration of Life will follow when COVID restrictions allow. If you would like to view the services, they will be streamed on the following link beginning at 9:30 AM, 3/20/2021: https://m.twitch.tv/kanefamily1.

In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to the Parkinson’s Foundation or the Maryville Addiction Treatment Center via websites listed below.

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Nancy Lingler Smith

March 21, 2021

Dear sweet Millice, I am so sorry to learn of the passing of your sweetheart and best friend in life. I have a wonderful memory of traveling with you from Ohio to Fort Sill, Oklahoma, in 1964 and attending the Officers’ Ball where you met your blind date and Mr. Wonderful .... the handsome Lieutenant John Kane.

You two were a match made in Heaven, and I know the two of you will be together again one day. Please accept my love and express to your children how highly I think of both of you. The two of you were a match made in Heaven!

May Heavenly Father send you and your family peace and the feelings of love from all those who adored you and John.

Roxanne Caputo

March 21, 2021

I have a few favorite memories of John. We served on our parish council together for ten years. When John spoke, everyone would lean up, as in an E.F. Hutton commercial, so we would hear him. He always had his phone alarm set for 9:00 to remind him it was time to take a pill. I think he also did it as a reminder "meeting adjourned." ... He, Millice and I bowled together on the Ravens. The man could throw a mean ball! My favorite part was bringing him a piece of chocolate. He loved sweets. Sometimes Millice would take my treat and delve it out to him ... Yes, John had a sweet tooth for sure. I remember dropping off cake to the house and John and Millice attending the various functions at church. He never missed out on an opportunity of a donut, piece of cake, etc. ... John will be missed by so many people. At church. At bowling. At his meetings. At family gatherings. But you can never take the memories away that will be cherished forever by all. R.I.P John Kane. You will not be forgotten.

Jimmy Drevs

March 21, 2021

My dearest Millice and Family;
Amazin Grace! What a beautiful ceremony and celebration of life! What a beautiful family. Unfortunately, we could not be with you in person today, but because of modern technology, we are able to share today with you. As in typical Kane fashion, the ceremony certainly touched everyone there! My peticuliar favorites- The Irish Blessing, the presentation of the American flag to Millice, and the bagpipes being played. Very sad today, but knowing what a great man John was! I met John just over 36 years ago. To be exact, 36 years and 3 days. John had a direct impact on me, and the life that I have lived for over 35 years. I have met many great people in this time, but the presence that John J. Kane had when he was present, was 2nd to none. He always seemed to have the right words to say, and always spoke with a reassuring faith. I am blessed to have gotten to know John, Millice, and family over the years, and have the utmost respect, love, and will miss John greatly. But I am extremely grateful to have John and Millice in my life. I had an opportunity to spend a day at Our lady of Lourdes hospital with John before he left New Jersey! Boy did he love his wife and was so proud of his family. We spoke of the days being long, but the years are short. I did not know that would be the last time we were to give each other a hug, but very thankful for that day. He was able to celebrate my 35 year anniversary with me and several of the men and women that he had such an impact on. Once again, he truly made a difference in my life!
The smiles of the people that were so happy to see John was truly special. So we have lost John, but have a lifetime of memories! Many prayers being sent! Much love, Many Blessings!
Jimmy Drevs. (Rest in Peace John)

Teresa Macauley

March 20, 2021

Millice and all the Kane family,

Our sincere condolences on the loss of a wonderful husband, father and grandfather. May your memories of happier times with John bring you comfort.

Love, Terri , Connie and Madelaine Macauley

Susan (Ross) Bowers

March 20, 2021

The world, or our little piece of it, has lost a wonderful man. I met John and Millice when I was only 13 or 14 and started babysitting his children, his wonderful children, and still tried to stay in touch with them after everyone was even married and gone. John and Millice helped make me into the loving wife, mother and teacher I am! I remember driving to the shore with John and we had to say the rosary on the way, and how nervous I was. I loved watching the kids but I also loved just being around Millice and John! Thank you God, for allowing John to be with us even if we feel that it could have been longer! I love you! ❤️

Jimmy Sell

March 20, 2021

John and I go way back. I cherish the memories of traveling with him and receiving his honest, plain-spoken insight on so many things. I will miss him. Farewell, my friend and fellow voyager.

Bill Thomasson

March 20, 2021

I sought my soul, but my soul I could not see. I sought my God, but my God eluded me. I sought my brother, and I found all three.”

John,
Your gentle way will be sorely missed!
Love,
Bill

Stephanie Lyles

March 19, 2021

John was a true gentleman and an incredible storyteller. Over the years he’s encouraged and believed in me when I didn’t believe in myself. I’ll miss him dearly...

Meredith Spindler

March 19, 2021

What a remarkable man John was. I feel so fortunate to have known him. I will always remember hearing his and Millice's stories about how they met, raising 10 children, and all kinds of experiences along the way. I look forward to reading his book! My condolences to Millice and his family.

Nancy Haynes

March 19, 2021

This sad news arrived on St. Patrick's Day which seemed so appropriate, a day I always think of John and the glint in his eye! I was fortunate to work with John for a couple of years in New York; he became a friend and a teacher. I vividly remember careening around Rye Brook in search of Saturday evening Mass; we were not always successful, but -- as in so many other things -- the journey was a great adventure.

I offer my deepest sympathy to Millice and the Kane family and send sincere gratitude for your generosity in sharing John's time with us all.

FROM THE FAMILY