Carol Arey Deaton

December 25, 1938June 20, 2021

Carol Arey Deaton was born on December 25, 1938 in Southern Pines, North Carolina and passed away peacefully at home on June 20, 2021. She was preceded in death by her husband of 57 years, Donald Jason Deaton, and parents Ruby Clemmer and Melvin Leo Arey. She is survived by her three children and their spouses, Dr. Mark Arey Deaton (Nancy), Linda Deaton Adkins (Gold), and Bradford Jason Deaton (Dana); seven grandchildren, Samuel Coleman Deaton, Caroline Arey Deaton, Tucker Bibb Deaton, Dr. Arey Deaton Adkins, Dr. Gold Alden Adkins III (Hong-Anh Tran), Tyler Jason Deaton, Parker Asa Deaton; and her sister, Ann Arey (Marvin Runyon).

Carol grew up in Aberdeen, North Carolina before attending High Point College where she received an Associate Degree in Business. At that time, she met the love of her life, Don Deaton. They married and started their family, settling in Martinsville, Virginia where she was involved in her children’s education and activities. She later returned to college where she completed her BS, subsequently teaching high school business classes prior to starting her own business, Carol Deaton Interiors in 1984. With 23 years of experience in the design business, Carol left a legacy of bringing happiness and joy into homes to be enjoyed for years to come. She strived to create beautiful spaces for her clients with an attention to detail and sensibility. Carol had a real passion and talent for gardening and flower arranging and became certified as a Master Gardener. She and Don loved to cook and entertain, graciously welcoming friends and family into their home with enthusiasm.

Carol was a faithful member of Christ Episcopal Church, serving as a Vestry member, Altar Guild Chair, Junior Warden, Wedding Coordinator and Delegate. She was also active in the community as a member of the Garden Study Club, Chatmoss Country Club Board, and the Charity League. Carol had several interests and cherished the friendships that grew out of her bridge group, dinner group, book club, and fitness classes. Family was of upmost importance to Carol and she always provided a loving home environment. She especially enjoyed planning for Thanksgiving and “Camp Carol” each year. Preparations began months in advance as she and Don counted down for the fun to begin. They also took each grandchild on a “special trip” where lasting memories were made. The beach is where Carol found her solitude and a place to spend quality time with family and friends. Her love of the beach began as a young girl while visiting her aunt. Building sandcastles, surfing on boogie boards, shelling and watching sea turtles were Carol’s usual beach activities. She was a wonderful role model to her children and grandchildren, always encouraging each one to follow their passions and dreams. Carol will always be remembered for her kind, selfless and caring spirit.

A funeral service celebrating the life of Carol Arey Deaton is to be held at 11 am on Friday, June 25, 2021 with a visitation reception to follow in the Parish House at Christ Episcopal Church, 311 E. Church Street, Martinsville, VA 24112. A burial will be held at Bethesda Cemetery in Aberdeen, North Carolina on Saturday, June 26, 2021.

The family would like to thank the staff at Wake Forest Baptist Medical Center Comprehensive Cancer Center, Roman Eagle Rehabilitation & Health Care Center and Care Advantage for the kindness and care they provided over the past weeks. In lieu of flowers the family requests memorial donations be made to Christ Episcopal Church, 311 E. Church Street, Martinsville, VA 24112.


  • Ruby Clemmer Arey, Mother (deceased)
  • Melvin Leo Arey, Father (deceased)
  • Donald Jason Deaton, Husband of 57 years (deceased)
  • Dr. Mark Arey Deaton, Son
  • Nancy Coleman Deaton, Daughter-in-law
  • Linda Deaton Adkins, Daughter
  • Gold Alden Adkins II, Son-in-law
  • Bradford Jason Deaton, Son
  • Dana Strange Deaton, Daughter-in-law
  • Samuel Coleman Deaton, Grandson
  • Caroline Arey Deaton, Granddaugther
  • Tucker Bibb Deaton, Grandson
  • Dr. Arey Deaton Adkins, Granddaughter
  • Dr. Gold Alden Adkins III, Grandson
  • Tyler Jason Deaton, Grandson
  • Parker Asa Deaton, Grandson
  • Hong-Anh Tran, Dr. Gold Adkins III's wife
  • Ann Arey, Sister
  • Marvin Runyon, Brother-in-law

  • Christ Episcopal Church


  • Funeral Service

    Friday, June 25, 2021

  • Visitation

    Friday, June 25, 2021

  • Burial

    Saturday, June 26, 2021


Carol Arey Deaton

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Peggy Viverette

July 11, 2021

I was so sorry to hear of Carol's death. I have such sweet memories of her as a classmate all through school, but the sweetest and most memorable was our last class reunion when we shared a room at the Zumwalt house and and the time we spent together. The chats and pointers about my downsizing to my little condo and decorating was such fun. I caught a glimpse of her life and talent then but had no idea of the fullness of her life until I read her obituary. She left a true legacy and I'm sure she will be missed terribly. I am thankful for the opportunity of knowing her.

Noble Marshall

June 26, 2021

Carol Deaton was simply the best. She always had a smile on her face and it was a smile that made your day. When first in town, Carol helped Sarah and me with decorating ideas and we quickly became friends. Later she and Don went on a trip to Europe with us and we had a ball. Nice and adaptive to the European lifestyle the two were natural travelers. If I ever needed advice on just about anything Carol was a call away. Both she and Don had some of the best recipes that we still use. A trip to the Deaton’s for diner was an experience and Carol always made it look easy. She was the hostess with the mostest! She was super mom and super super grandmother. If it is possible to plan everything down to the last detail Carol could do it. We loved the Deaton’s and our lives Martinsville will not be the same without them! I wish Carol was still that call away! RIP Carol!

Mary Taylor

June 25, 2021

Carol was a sweet woman who I learned from and enjoyed working with for years. Her family is in my thoughts and prayers.

Ann Arey

June 24, 2021

Carol will always be my Big Sister. She was nearly 8 when I was born so we really had two families. One begun with Carol, born before the Second World War and with me, born after Daddy returned from the war. When she married, I was still in grade school. She and Don started their family before I was out of high school. So, she has always been the Big Sister whose life preceded mine showing me the way. Carol lived a rich and fulfilled life filled with family and faith. She was fortunate to have been able to spend time with her family in her home right up to the moment of her passing. We will all miss Carol, but the ripples of her life will continue to echo in the hearts and memories of her family and all those whom her life enriched.

Dru Rothrock

June 22, 2021

Martinsville has lost another one of God’s angels
Prayers and condolences go out to Carol’s family.

We will all miss her!!!

Martha Farrell

June 21, 2021

Carol and I became fast friends when I moved to the Ville in 2010. She and Don welcomed me and Jim with open arms when we arrived. She also opened her arms to my sister Mindy when she came to town with her clothing trunk show. She has been one of the most influential ladies in my life and I would love to be able to attend any memorial in her honor. Our last interaction was when she was in therapy for her knee surgery and shoulder, as I was going through my hip replacement surgery. We often commented on our same name (Martha) and I loved everything about her….I will miss her so much, but I will remember everything she taught me…I will forever be grateful that God put her in my path….