Ray,

This is one of  your nieces Cheryl Simpson-Upmeyer writing.
 I only met you once in my life. That was when I was dropping my dad off to stay with you for a little while. My dad said he hadn’t seen you in 30 years so we all knew it was going to be weird walking up to your front door. 
Me, my older sister and my dad got out of the car to greet you on your front porch, the first words out of your mouth to my dad were “god dang! Why are you so ugly?!!” And then my dad said back “what happened to your eye?!!”  ... lol brothers. 
Raymond passed on December 5, 2018. My father Corey D. Upmeyer passed December 27th, 2018... only 22 days apart. Right after Ray passed my dad started to notice the same little bird that would come and sit on the same branch in my front yard. My dad would say to me “I think thats my brother Ray.” 

We didn’t immediately have the money for your cremation, it took a little while but we made it happen. The lady from the funeral home called me the morning of your cremation to let me know that, that you had finally been put to rest. When I answered the phone she was met with my tears because that was the same exact day that your little brother Corey left this earth.  12/27/2018. One brother left this earth and the other brother was finally put  to rest. Weird how the world works like that. 
I’m not sure who Michael Lee is but I cried when I read about you making potatoes that your mother made, my father would also
Make those same potatoes and he was also very particular about them! 
Those boys really loved their mom Joyce Elaine. 

My father gave me the middle name Elaine after your mother. Although we never had much of a relationship I hope you’re with your mom and my dad and the rest of our family. One day I’ll see you all again. Here’s a photo attached of
You and your family when you were kids. Raymond is the tallest boy to the right. 

Ray
  Your sense of humor enlightened me as a human being. You scared the girl at the drive thru by saying " Gimme one a those Jamocha shakes yer so durn proud of !" When we got to the window You said "Whassa matter? Cat gotcher tounge?" 
  You sure loved to add garlic to your cooking... I was safe from vampires after eating your egg rolls. I also remember how you liked to make cubed potatoes and cheese in a cast iron pan like your mother used to make...and was very particular to let the edges brown and not break them up by turning them too roughly.
  I remember I tried to ride a mountain bike up stairs... I think we both found that amusing...lol... I scrubbed some tread off the tires on that one.
  You laughed out loud at the original Pink Panther cartoons... 
   I'll never forget you.  I'm better for having known you Ray. 

Michael Lee

Hardage-Giddens Holly Hill Funeral Home

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Raymond Clifford Upmeyer

July 26, 1963 – December 5, 2018

Hardage - Giddens Holly Hill Funeral Home & Hardage-Giddens Holly Hill Memorial Park

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