Sandra Lee Barber

Sandra Shaffer Barber of Oceanside, California, passed away peacefully on August 12, 2026, at the age of 81, following a long and courageous recovery after a stroke in December 2025. She left this world with the same quiet strength, determination, and grace that defined her life.

Born on September 5, 1944, Sandra was preceded in death by her husband, James “Jim” Barber; mother, Erma Disney; father, Lyle Shaffer; stepfather, Lloyd Disney; and brother, Lyle Shaffer Jr.

She is survived by her sister, Terrie Savage; bonus mother, Carolyn Shaffer; and her children: Tania (Roger) Evans of Duchesne, UT; Ashley (Todd) Spurgeon of Fort Worth, TX; David “Lyle” Beers (Jessica Rios) of Petaluma, CA; and Jackie (Robbie) Feasel of Carlsbad, CA. She also leaves behind 16 grandchildren, 10 great grandchildren, and one on the way.

Sandra lived a full and vibrant life shaped by curiosity, creativity, and deep devotion to her family. Education was a cornerstone of her values. She believed wholeheartedly in the power of learning and worked tirelessly to ensure her children had every opportunity available to them.

Her passions were wide ranging and reflected her lively mind and generous heart. She loved writing, reading, history, and family history, and she spent countless hours researching genealogy and preserving stories for future generations. She also enjoyed horses, thrifting, detective shows, movies, and British period dramas.

Sandra wore many hats throughout her life, each with devotion and heart: college student, mother, daughter, sister, friend, single mother, wife, widow, political supporter, grandmother, aunt, author, genealogist, PBS anchor, UCSD secretary, supporter, encourager, and historian. In every role, she brought kindness, curiosity, and a steadfast commitment to the people she loved.

She will be remembered for her gentle humor, her love of learning, her unwavering support of her family, and her deep appreciation for stories — both the ones she wrote and the ones she uncovered. Sandra’s legacy lives on in the generations she nurtured, inspired, and loved so deeply.

A private family ceremony will be held. She will be buried at Eternal Hills Cemetery, Oceanside, CA.