Joan "Betsy" Fisher Barr

November 23, 1937April 4, 2018
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Funeral Mass for Joan Betsy Fisher Barr, age 80 of Norfolk will be held on Monday (April 9, 2018) at 2:00pm at St. Mary’s Cathedral. Burial will follow the service at Pine Hill Cemetery in Eel Weir.

Calling hours will be held prior to the service at the Fox & Murray Funeral Home from 11:00am to 1:30pm. Mrs. Barr passed away at the Canton Potsdam Hospital on April 4th surrounded by her loving family.

Surviving is her husband Ralph Barr of Norfolk, two sons William (Sherri) Fisher of Albany, and Gregory Fisher of Potsdam; two daughters Elizabeth “Liz” (Larry) Cambalik of Highland, NY and Molly Fisher of Princeton, NJ; grandchildren Lindsay Chlus, Jason Chlus, Mykel Kulkarni, Kristina Kulkarni, Lauryn Kulkarni & Isaac Signorelli, Amanda (Brian) Marzella, Mallory Fisher, Alex Fisher & Misael VirissimodeMura, Benjamin Fisher and Tory Fisher; great-grandchild Willa Jane Signorelli; and a brother Wayne Carpenter of Albany.

Betsy was predeceased by her first husband John Fisher in 1994; a son George Fisher; four brothers Leo, Bernard “Bing”, Alan & Roland Carpenter and a sister Arlene Bertrand.

She was born on November 23, 1937 in Watertown NY, a daughter of Leo & Irene Carpenter. She graduated from Ogdensburg Free Academy and continued her studies at Potsdam State earning a Masters Degree in Education. After the loss of her first husband, she later found love with Ralph Barr and the couple was married on Aug 29, 2009 at the Church of Visitation in Norfolk by Fr. Amyot.

Besty worked as a teacher and professor at the SUNY Potsdam Campus Learning Center and college. She enjoyed playing bridge, sewing, quilting, being on the St. Lawrence River, traveling, gardening, attending church and spending time with her children and grandchildren.

Memorial contributions can be made to St. Mary’s Cathedral, 415 Hamilton Street, Ogdensburg, NY 13669. Condolences and fond memories can be shared on


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Katherine Casey

April 16, 2018

Betsy taught a couple of our children in Pre-K. She was a lovely women. She had such a beautiful smile and always a kind word. I remember her great costumes. We saw each other at St. Mary's in Potsdam also. May your wonderful memories bring you comfort.

Judy Benson

April 11, 2018

Ralph, I was so sorry to hear about Betsy. My thoughts and prayers are with you and the family at this sad and difficult time. Have so many memories from our high school years. She was a great person, who I am sure will be sadly missed by many.

Angela Andrews-Commisso

April 9, 2018

Joe and I are thinking and praying for all of you during this difficult time. Betsy was a kind and thoughtful person who was always smiling! She was always full of hugs and kisses.... Betsy had so much love to give. Many fond memories of this beautiful lady! xoxo

Lucy McCabe

April 9, 2018

My condolence to the family . BETSY and I were friends in Potsdam ,before I moved to Florida, I knew of her in Ogdensburg, but when, I moved to Potsdam ,she introduce herself in the super market . She was so sweet, she always had a smile ,in fact I was thinking about her the other evening , we kept in touch via mail and x-mas cards for awhile and was going to get together when,I came to visit family ,but time was so short. She was a beautiful person . I am sure she is in Heaven! My deepest Sympathy

Lucy Tombolillo McCabe

Laura Kienzle Whalen

April 9, 2018

So sorry to hear the sad news, and that I couldn't be there in person. Such a sweet lady she was. I remember campus school days/stories with my mother in law. Glad to have been in touch with you by chance Greg, despite sharing the hard seasons we were/are going through. Sending love and prayers from my family to all of you! I love the picture from her youth, it certainly brings out more similarities!

Elaine Felten

April 9, 2018

I am deeply saddened to hear about your mother. She was such a wonderful lady. Many memories of her at camp. My best was when she got gramps to swim with Mrs Ashley. My sympathy and prayers to you all and your families. Hugs and thinking of you all. Elaine Massic Felten

Gloria Williams

April 9, 2018

Liz and family.....Bob and I are sorry to hear of the loss of your mom. Prayers and love to you and your family.

Brittany Blais

April 7, 2018

I am truly blessed to have met such an amazing woman! I looked forward to the days when her beautiful smile would brighten my day. She and her family certainly made a tremendous impact on my life! Peace and love, Brittany

Mary Jo Myers

April 6, 2018

Mr. Barr and family
I just want to let you know how sorry I am for your loss. Joan was a very kind and wonderful lady and I was honored to know her. My thoughts and prayers are with you all.