Mary D. Adair

January 1, 1945April 4, 2018
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Mary Danne’ Adair – OGDENSBURG, N.Y. - Selfless. Infectious. Loyal. There are very few people whom possess the attributes that this woman possessed. Mary Danne’ Adair died on April 4, 2018. Mary loved helping others, working on her farm in Maine, gardening, rescuing feral cats, playing with her 3 dogs, CNN, chocolate marshmallow candy, heirloom tomatoes, and her husband Raj. Not necessarily in that order. She hated that there were people in the world who were suffering and Donald Trump. Not necessarily in that order. She was a dynamic psycho therapist who worked tirelessly to help all those in need, never turning anyone down.

Mary was also great at growing plants, cooking many dishes with her home grown heirloom tomatoes, shopping for the best deals, and honoring her husband over the last 33 years. When it came to her family, Mary was the best at making her children feel loved, adored, and wanted. And she loved doing all of it. Mary loved creating memories, making friends, and finding bargains. And you could be sure that Mary always gave everything she did100%. Mary loved to share stories about a new cat she had just rescued or to share news about a friend as she had many.

While Mary, herself, had many heroes, she was the hero to her five children: Chad, Dawn, Michelle, Danne’, and Ashwini. Mary adored these ladies. And each of them adored her. For more than 30 years, Mary helped clients, friends, and strangers through life’s difficulties. And each of them adored her. At an early age, Mary married while it didn’t last, out of it came two lovely daughters. Mary was not quitter, so she tried again. It, too, did not last, but out of it came two more wonderful daughters. The third time, she found the love of her life. For 33 years, she loved, honored, and cherished Pakkam Rajasekaran, and with him came a lovely daughter.

Preceded in death are Mary’s parents, Bill and Olean Adair, and a sister, Vonnie Allen. Although Mary has departed from this world, she leaves behind her daughters, Chad Kessel, Dawn Fletcher and husband John, Michelle Bell and husband Wesley, Danne’ Delano and husband Peter, and Ashwini Hull and husband Jim, and a sister Marian Marshall. Let’s not forget about her eight delightful grandchildren: Andrew Kessel, John Fletcher, Charles Fletcher, Robert Benca, Ana Benca, Lucy Bell, Carys Hull, and Jamie Hull. Also, Mary had several nieces and one nephew that she loved dearly.

Finally, she cherished dear friends: Virgil Vallie, Sitie Parcell, Wayne and Cheryl Ladouceur, among numerous others. A memorial service will be held to honor Mary on Tuesday, April 10, 2018 at 11:00 AM at Fox & Murray Funeral Home. Visitation with the family will begin at 10:00AM. Condolences and fond memories can also be shared on


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Anne Layton

April 10, 2018

I met Mary in Athens, Georgia when she and Dr Raj worked at Northeast MHSAMR Clinic in 1985 when it was located on Prince Avenue next to the Athens Regional Hospital. Mary has always been one of my favorite social workers and always had a great and fascinating mental health story to share. She was so funny and spunky, full of energy, with kindness for all of us. I was sad when she and Raj left the clinic because they were so much fun in the midst of chaos. It was a special time for me. I have been thinking about Mary and Dr Raj since I found out Mary died and it is hard to believe she isn't on the planet with us all. I feel sad for Raj, friends and family as I know you will miss her so much.

Shelia Latham

April 8, 2018

To My friend Dawn and Family,
May the peace of our Lord and Savior keep you and comfort you during this difficult time in your lives. Your Mother, wife, grandmother and friend has gone from your presence but she will live forever in your hearts and the hearts of those who knew her.

Shelia Latham

Dr. Michele Vondra-Harwood

April 6, 2018

Just a note to let you know you and your family are in our thoughts and prayers. Mary will be missed by many, sorry for your loss.

The office and staff of Dr. Michele Vondra-Harwood

Penny Marcum

April 5, 2018

Mary was my first cousin. When I was growing up my parents and I spent many weekends in Montgomery, Alabama, visiting my Aunt Olean and Uncle Bill, Mary's mom and dad. Mary and Vonnie (her sister) were like my sisters because I was an only child. Just about every childhood memory included Mary and Vonnie. I remember when I was 13 and Mary invited me to tag along on her date which included riding in a convertible for the first time and eating at Tony's Pizza in Montgomery, Alabama. That night they also took me snipe hunting. I was so excited to be included but I could have done without the snipe hunting..:) We spent many afternoons swinging in the porch swing on my grandmother's front porch and waiting on the ice cream man to come down our street. I thought she knew everything. She was so sweet and kind to me and I loved her like a sister. She was always very special to me. We both grew up and went different directions but when we were together, it was as if we had never been apart. I am praying for you Raj and for you sweet girls and grandchildren that the Lord will carry you, comfort you and give you His peace that passes all understanding. Love ya'll - Penny Marcum

Joe & Hilda Thomas

April 5, 2018

We met you only a few years ago,but you really touched us,especially Hilda.

May you and your family take comfort in these simple words from the Bible.
The Lord bless you and keep you;
The Lord make his face to shine upon you and be gracious to you.
The Lord lift up his countenance upon you and give you peace.

Hilda & Joe Thomas

Elsa Schmitt

April 5, 2018

Our dear friends Dawn, John D. Fletcher and family, please know that, in spirit, we are with you all.

Praying that at this time when your loved mother’s eternal soul is going back to our Father in Heaven, God’s peace and love may be feeling in your hearts to comfort you all.

Your all love and inspiring memories of her are honoring her life and also are the best testimony of her trascendency in this world that, became a better place to live on, thanks to people like her that raised a such of wonderful daughter like you are our dear friend!

Our fraternal love always,
Bryon & Elsa

Kim Mcknight

April 5, 2018

I knew Mary through Dr. Raj he always spoke of her with great love and respect , I cannot image the loss he and his family must feel. I pray that you all find comfort .

Kim McKnight

Cory Young

April 5, 2018

Sending thoughts and prayers to all of Mary's family and God Bless