Mary E. Barlow

July 30, 1940August 7, 2018
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A Funeral Mass for Mary E. Barlow, age 78 of State Street in Heuvelton, will be held at 3:00pm on Friday (Aug 10, 2018) at St. Mary’s Cathedral with Rev. Kevin O’Brien officiating. Entombment will follow at Foxwood Memorial Park.

Calling hours will be held on Thursday even from 5:00pm-9:00pm at the Fox & Murray Funeral Home. Mrs. Barlow passed away at her daughter and son-in-law’s home in Heuvelton, NY surrounded by her loving family on Tuesday (Aug 7, 2018).

Surviving is her husband Richard Barlow; a son Richard (Renee) Barlow of Clifton Park, NY; two daughters Babette (Phil) Lenfant of Yorktown, Virginia and Colleen (David ) Steele of Heuvelton, NY; grandchildren Adam, Joshua and Nicole Barlow; Nicholas, Andrew & Ryan Lenfant; Alex & Noah Steele; brothers James (Judy) Durant of Helena, NY and Paul (Denise) Durant of Ballston Spa, NY; sisters Ellen (Daniel) Prosser of Webster, NY and Patricia (Matthew) Knox of Bedford, Virginia; a brother-in-law Kenneth Cole of Nicholville, NY; sisters-in-law Mary Durant of Brunswick, GA and Maryanne Durant of Louisville, NY; along with a special Aunt Ruth Klaus of Heuvelton, NY, and many special nieces, nephews & cousins.

She was predeceased by a sister Jean Cole and two brothers Joseph & Jeremiah Durant.

Mary was born on July 30, 1940 in Brasher Falls NY, a daughter of the late George & Hazel (Premo) Durant. She graduated from St. Lawrence Central School and continued her education at the A. Barton Hepburn Hospital School of Nursing where she received her nursing degree. She later married Richard E. Barlow on December 30, 1961 at St. Patrick’s Church in Hogansburg.

During her career she was employed at Mercy Hospital in Watertown for a period, and relocated back to Heuvelton in 1962 and began working at A. Barton Hepburn Hospital. She also worked as a school nurse teacher for St. Lawrence Lewis BOCES from 1971-1972. She later became the school nurse at Heuvelton Central School until her retirement in 1995, dedicating 23 years of service. She enjoyed retirement with her husband Dick. They travelled and spent winters in Lake Mary, FL

Mary was a board member of the St. Lawrence County Cancer Society; a chairperson of the Heuvelton Cancer Drive; a St. Raphael’s Catholic Church parishioner and parish board member; an alumni member of the Heuvelton Teachers Association and A. Barton Hepburn Hospital School of Nursing. Mary also received awards for NYS volunteer teacher of the year in 1993, and citizen of the year from the Heuvelton Chamber of Commerce in 1995.

Mary enjoyed quilting, crafts, and spending time with family. She was a kind and generous person who was always willing to lend a helping hand where needed.

Memorial contributions can be made to: St Raphael’s Church. Condolences and fond memories can also be shared online at


  • Calling Hours Thursday, August 9, 2018
  • Funeral Mass Friday, August 10, 2018

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Jerry Hourihan

August 15, 2018

Dick & Family, My thoughts and prayers are with you , We were out of town Dick or I would have been there to share this in person, RIP Mary

Joe and Marcia Derrigo

August 15, 2018

To the Barlow family,
Joe and I were so saddened to hear about Mary. We just found out today and wish we could have attended the services. By reading the previous memories it is so very obvious how Mary touched the hearts of so many. There are few people that you meet in this world who are so generous, genuine and kind. Mary certainly exemplified those traits. We count ourselves blessed that we knew her . Our hearts go out to all of you and know that you are in our prayers.
With Deepest Sympathy,
Joe and Marcia Derrigo

Joe and Marcia Derrigo

William Arnold

August 14, 2018

Dick I know your loss. My heart and prayers are with you and all family. Mary's essential information about my students' health was accurate and and always professional. Her help with other matters in school and her energy brought real warmth to HCS. She was always doing for others, in school and at home. I had glimpses of Barlow home life and saw how she kept her family first. That is all too rare! She did me many kindnesses and would not let me say thanks. I am grateful that I had the chance to do something in return when it mattered. I cherish that! Mary was one of the few who made HCS more family than a school. The Barlows were among those who made Heuvelton like family and my home. Life has made my time there now very scarce and precious. When my lady told me of Mary's passing she said I had always remarked that she was a delightful person. I wish they'd met. Al my life I've been lucky to know some remarkable and very special people. They all stay with me. Mary is one of the special few of a special few in my life. Peace - - - - Bill Arnold

Gregory Mitchell

August 12, 2018

So sorry for your loss. My condolences to the entire family. Mrs. Barlow was well respected and well loved. She will always be remembered by alumni of Heuvelton Central School.


August 11, 2018

May God's loving kindness and comfort help you and your family during this time of sorrow (2 Corinthian 1:3,4).

Steven Price

August 11, 2018

Sorry to hear the passing of Mrs. Barlow, it has been awhile since I have been in school (graduated in 1979) but remember her always with a smile and willing to lend a hand. All of us that went to Heuvelton Central School were fortunate to have her & her husband working there, both wonderful people.

Sheila Montroy Sears

August 10, 2018

To Colleen, Babette, Rick and Mr. Barlow, family and friends. Our condolences to you and your family, we are so saddened with the loss of Mrs. Barlow. I remember going to their house and hanging with Colleen having fried bologna sandwich. Working on homework and being in marching band and sports with you all. Heuvelton Central and the village will surely be missing a Great lady and her Smile! Sheila Montroy Sears.

Clive Chambers

August 10, 2018

Dick and Family,

So sorry to learn of Mary’s passing. Although the phrase “it takes a whole village to raise a child” is so often overused, in Mary’s case it is exactly what she did. Such a caring and compassionate person who only thought of all the children in her “village”. What a legacy she leaves behind for not only her own children and grandchildren but the countless number who knew her as their school nurse-teacher. A job well done and a life well lived,

Pat & Clive Chambers

Gwen Hougham

August 10, 2018

I was sorry to hear about your loss. Sending thoughts and prayers to you and your family as you celebrate your mother's life and in the weeks to come.
Gwen Hougham

Dorene( Hilborne) Shattuck

August 10, 2018

To the Barlow family,
When I went to school at Heuvelton, Mrs. Barlow was always smiling and you could always count on her for help! She will be deeply missed!