OBITUARY

Tom Gray

February 17, 1942March 11, 2018
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Vandorf Thomas “Tom” Gray was born February 17, 1942, in Chicago, Illinois. He left this life to be reunited with the love of his life, Ann on Sunday, March 11, 2018.

It’s hard to put into words, the “Larger than Life” kind of guy that Tom was. He never met a stranger and always had a story to tell. Tom and Mary Ann Howard were married February 17, 1963. They raised three children and always opened their home to all of their friends. Tom was the neighborhood parent that everyone wanted to play with! His passion was and has always been his children and grandchildren. Coaching all the teams that Chris, Tim and Marianne were on brought him great joy! Tom retired from the US Postal Service in 2011 to be home with his beloved wife, Ann who had taken ill. She preceded him in death on January 1, 2015. He devoted all his energy to helping her. His parents and Angela Gray, one of his daughter-in-laws, also preceded him.

Continuing to be a part of his kids and grandkids lives, Tom could often be seen at football games, soccer games and Crossfit 134. Tom’s real and abiding passions were his family and friends. Tom was an avid lover of movies, theater and sports. He could tell you movie titles, actors/actresses that were in them and a few details that you might not even think about. He loved the theater. His top rated ones would be Les Misérables, Cats, Oklahoma! and Phantom of The Opera. He loved all sports, especially Chicago Bears football, but loved watching Thunder Basketball, OSU and OU sports as well. Tom is survived by his children, Chris Gray and wife Valarie, Tim Gray and Marianne Ballard and husband Russell. He also leaves behind 13 grandchildren and 7 great-grandchildren.

Ho-Dit! This isn’t done until some words are shared that he would want you to know. Always plan and be prepared for whatever comes along in your life. Love your family! Talk to people because you never know who you might meet and learn something from. But most of all “Have Fun! See you when you’re older!”

  • PALLBEARERS

  • Andrew Gray
  • Tate Gray
  • AJ Gray
  • Brent Gray
  • Brittany Gray
  • Van Gray
  • Brody Ballard
  • Reagan Ballard

Services

  • Visitation Sunday, March 18, 2018
  • Celebration of Life Monday, March 19, 2018
REMEMBERING

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Joan Deal

March 16, 2018

Dear Gray Family

My heart is sad because a wonderful man has gone on before us, but I have so many precious memories of my time with Ann and Tom and all of you at Baptist Temple. Thank you for the pictures you shared. I can't believe how all the kids are now grownups. Where do the years go. I won't be able to be at the memorial service but I will be remembering you all in my prayers.

Tate Gray

March 16, 2018

Stacy Burcham-Otto

March 16, 2018

Mr. Gray the life of the party! I remember playing on your soccer teams and collecting paper clips for our good plays. I remember the C on our uniforms when we lost every game. You always said we were champions. I remember you grabbing me and shaking me side to side as you sang “Stacy Lou”. I remember many New Year’s Day parties and of course the Fourth of July fire that you used your shirt to put out the flames. Chris, Tim, and Marianne your dad was one of the greats and was loved by many and will be missed. You are in our prayers!

Pamela Talbert

March 15, 2018

I always loved Tom & Ann. At every family gathering we had in Lindsay; Tom had to leave at a certain time, because he had to get home in time to watch Wonder Woman. He loved to play games with us kids. He hated to lose. We had so much fun playing with him . Tom & Ann will be greatly missed. I’m glad he went out talking & telling his stories. Love you guys. Will remember all of you in our prayers.

Becky Gaston

March 15, 2018

Tom was my supervisor at The Village Post Office. I enjoyed working with him. He was one of the good guys! And yes, as your words described him, he ALWAYS had a sorry to tell!!

Julie Stilwell

March 12, 2018

Marianne, Tim and Chris. I'm so sorry for your loss. Your Dad meant so much to me. I will never forget meeting him on the first day of soccer practice at Grove Elementary, 1977(!). Many others won't either. I still have a string of paper clips in a childhood treasures box. Many fond memories of you guys and your parents. So much fun and so much love in one family. Hugs Marianne.
love Julie

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Biography

Vandorf Thomas “Tom” Gray was born February 17, 1942, in Chicago, Illinois. He left this life to be reunited with the love of his life, Ann on Sunday, March 11, 2018.

It’s hard to put into words, the “Larger than Life” kind of guy that Tom was. He never met a stranger and always had a story to tell. Tom and Mary Ann Howard were married February 17, 1963. They raised three children and always opened their home to all of their friends. Tom was the neighborhood parent that everyone wanted to play with! His passion was and has always been his children and grandchildren. Coaching all the teams that Chris, Tim and Marianne were on brought him great joy! Tom retired from the US Postal Service in 2011 to be home with his beloved wife, Ann who had taken ill. She preceded him in death on January 1, 2015. He devoted all his energy to helping her. His parents and Angela Gray, one of his daughter-in-laws, also preceded him.

Continuing to be a part of his kids and grandkids lives, Tom could often be seen at football games, soccer games and Crossfit 134. Tom’s real and abiding passions were his family and friends. Tom was an avid lover of movies, theater and sports. He could tell you movie titles, actors/actresses that were in them and a few details that you might not even think about. He loved the theater. His top rated ones would be Les Misérables, Cats, Oklahoma! and Phantom of The Opera. He loved all sports, especially Chicago Bears football, but loved watching Thunder Basketball, OSU and OU sports as well.
Tom is survived by his children, Chris Gray and wife Valarie, Tim Gray and Marianne Ballard and husband Russell. He also leaves behind 13 grandchildren and 7 great-grandchildren.

Ho-Dit! This isn’t done until some words are shared that he would want you to know. Always plan and be prepared for whatever comes along in your life. Love your family! Talk to people because you never know who you might meet and learn something from. But most of all “Have Fun! See you when you’re older!”