Iva J. Connelly

November 30, 1925February 19, 2018

Iva was born on a snowy night to Earnest Looney and Wilma Rogers Looney on November 30, 1925, in Linn Creek, Missouri. Iva was the first of 12 children. She was raised during the Depression but grew up on the farm where her mom had a big garden, so Iva and the girls learned to cook from their Mom. They were taught how to make great meals when things got lean. Iva and her sisters all turned out to be fabulous cooks. Iva could take what looked like nothing and make a wonderful meal.

During World War II, Iva built air planes in Fairfax for the war effort. Like many young women of her time, she did her part to end the war and bring the boys home. After World War II, she went to work for Panhandle Eastern in the secretarial pool. During this time, she met a very smitten and persistent young man, Thomas Patrick Connelly. They married on May 29, 1948. They started a family and had two children, Kathleen Ann and Lawrence Patrick. She quit work at Panhandle to be a stay-at-home wife and mother. After the children were both in school, Iva attended the Aladdin Beauty School in the early 60s. Upon completion of her studies she opened her own successful beauty salon. In 1964, they moved from Independence, Missouri to Overland Park, where they lived for 45 years.

Iva and Tom were both hard headed individuals and had minds of their own, but they were married for 47 good years and loved each other dearly. They both were nurturing parents who made sure their children had wonderful educations and grew up to be successful and well-rounded people.

Iva cared for Tom the last 15 years of his life, lovingly and gently as was her way. She also took care of Tom’s mother, Aileen, the final 10 years of her life.

For the past 15 years, Iva has had debilitating pain in her back and knee. Iva’s children helped her stay in her home in Mission, Kansas, where she lived until her death on February 19th.

Iva was a strong woman who loved God, her family and friends, and life dearly.

Iva was preceded in death by her parents, Earnest Looney and Wilma Rogers Looney; husband, Thomas Patrick Connelly and her son, Lawrence Patrick Connelly. She is survived by her daughter, Kathleen A. Connelly, Mission, Kansas; grandson, James Patrick Bales (Becky), Round Rock, Texas; grandson, Thomas Daniel Bales (Amy), Shawnee, KS; granddaughter, Melissa Kathleen Owen (Cody), Divide, CO; great grandchildren, Reed Matthew Bales, Rory Joel Bales, James Thomas Owen and Bailey Ann Owen; grandpups, Harley, Lady, Angus and Lily and great grandpups, Jax and Lexi.


  • Visitation Tuesday, February 27, 2018
  • Mass of Christian Burial Tuesday, February 27, 2018
  • Burial Tuesday, February 27, 2018

Iva J. Connelly

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David Harris

September 30, 2018

As a friend of Iva and Tom's son Patrick, I knew his parents well during our several decades of friendship. Iva was always a friendly and kind woman who loved her children and family greatly; and was often quite bemused by the fun adventures of her kids and their friends. I remember her as always well dressed, and well groomed; and always with such a gentle and quiet smile. She was truly devoted to her husband Tom particularly during his last challenging years of illness; she was the model of behavior and loyal to Tom's needs.
I learned of Iva's passing recently and, not long before that, of the death of her son and my friend Patrick. I was always happy that Patrick had moved back to Overland Park in 1998 from Dallas so that he could spend time again with his mom and sister Kathy; I was so sad for Iva when I learned she had lost Patrick in 2017. I know that Iva, Tom and Patrick are all together again now in that Place where all pain and sadness is washed away; I pray eternal peace for them. A wonderful family; and my heart and thoughts will always be with Kathy and her children.
God Bless,
David Harris
Charlotte, North Carolina
September 30, 2018

Mary Lou Holmberg

February 25, 2018

I am so sorry to hear of the death of your mother.
We were great friends from our time at Panhandle to the time that she styled my hair in the basement of your family home.
She was wonderful friend and I miss her deeply.
My prayers go out to you and your family