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Brown-Wynne Funeral Home

1701 East Millbrook Road, Raleigh, NC

OBITUARY

Andrew Brian Mayer

June 14, 1986August 11, 2019

Andrew Brian Mayer passed away unexpectedly on Sunday, August 11, 2019 at his home in Durham, NC. Andrew was born on June 14, 1986 at Seymour Johnson AFB in Goldsboro, NC to Dr. Theodore F. Mayer and Lisa Diane Mayer, but spent most of his life in Raleigh.

Andrew was warm and caring, a true humanitarian and scholar. He accomplished much in his short thirty-three years of life. Andrew was a certified and skilled Radiographic Technologist who took pride in helping people. He earned a B.A. Degree in Biology from the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, and a Faculty Award and Certificate in Radiographic Technology from UNC-CH. During high school at Millbrook High, he earned a BSA Heroism Award for saving life and limb on the Appalachian Trail, the Eagle Scout Award from Troop 342, and was also an AP Scholar who graduated in the top 2% of his class. As a younger student, Andrew won the Battle of the Books at West Millbrook Middle School, and received an award from Odyssey of the Mind at North Ridge Elementary.

Andrew will always be remembered for his sweet gentle spirit, his great smile and servant’s heart, always thinking and putting others ahead of himself. Andrew loved to travel and some of his happiest memories were from his semester abroad in Sevilla, Spain, his Birthright trip to Israel, and from vacations with his family. He loved animals, especially his dogs and turtles, and was a talented artist who enjoyed painting, nature, boating, swimming, fishing, skiing, reading, and music, especially by the Beatles. Andrew was truly loving and much loved, and will be missed by all who knew him. He had many close friends, most importantly his partner of more than 10 years and good friend Michael Griffin.

Andrew is survived by his parents Ted and Lisa Mayer; his mentoring older brother Eric, sister in law Julia, and nephews Kennedy and Zachary Mayer; his paternal grandparents Kevin and Marie Mayer; and numerous loving aunts, uncles and cousins. He was predeceased by his maternal grandparents Harry and Sara Hytoff.

Arrangements are in the care of Brown-Wynne Funeral Home in Raleigh NC, with a graveside service at Raleigh Hebrew Cemetery, 450 North State Street, on Friday, August 16th at 10:30am.

In lieu of flowers, memorial donations may be made to NAMI Wake County or to your local animal shelter.

Services

  • Graveside Service Friday, August 16, 2019

Memories

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Theodore Mayer

August 18, 2019

Andrew Mayer from his DAD, continued

Andrew did not conform to social norms, he was a free spirit who lived in the present. Andrew was my true friend. He made me smile ... most of the time.
Andrew, your brief life has filled my life with joy and love. I close my eyes and will always see you in my broken heart. Goodbye my son. You will live in my heart forever.

Ted Mayer

August 18, 2019

Andrew Mayer from his Father
To have lost Andrew so unexpectedly is heartbreaking. It came as a shock to all of us - his short life was much too brief. From his Mom, Lisa, and me thank you for remembering my Andrew.

As his father, I was looking at pictures of you this week and tears started to fall. I closed my eyes and you were there - your beautiful smile, your sweet voice saying you loved me, your laughter - as I gazed upon your face. It brought back such sweet memories of how our life used to be. Each picture being a time machine that transforms you back to me.

Although small in stature, my son, Andrew was competitive but humble. Always following in his older brother's footsteps, trying to excel, trying to do just a little better than Eric and my expectations of him. Not just a good student but a scholar. Not just an Eagle scout but an Eagle scout with a Heroism award, bronze palm and high adventure. Not just gentle and kind but truly loving to his family, friends, strangers and even to his nature friends: his dogs and lowly pond turtles and fish. Not just a fisherman like Eric and me, but a catcher of fish both in quality and quantity; but always having to throw them back. Even helping a poor older lady on the dock unhook her large catfish - then throwing it back into the water as the older lady, wide eyed, watched her fried catfish dinner swim away, exclaiming to all, "Did you see what he just did!"

My son, Andrew lived his life fully and on his own terms. He listened but did not take advice except once when he was deciding to apply to somewhere in Durham called DOOK. He's a Tar Heel born, he's a Tar Heel bred, and when he died he's a Tar Heel dead. So it's Rah, Rah Car'lina-lina. Rah Rah Car'lina-lina! Rah Rah Car'lina-lina! ........... I am so proud of both of my Tar Heel sons.
He did not conform to social norms, he was a free spirit who lived in

Ron Hytoff

August 18, 2019

I believe I am Andrew's only Uncle, he would call me Uncle Ronnie...
I will always cherish Andrew as a very kind person who cared a great deal about my father, Harry Hytoff. Andrew made an historical DVD interviewing grandpa so that future generations will know about life before, during and after World War II. I only knew Andrew as a very caring, funny young man who got along well with my boys, Brad and Jeff. He was adventurous, tried very hard to excel and achieved a great deal as a Boy Scout, perhaps Eagle Scout level.

Lisa and Ted, carry on....just as I had to following Brad's death. Enjoy Eric and his family, do good deeds as this is what Andrew would have liked.

Eric, love your family as I know you do. You were the best big brother one could ask for.

Love to Lisa and Ted and the family.

Ron Hytoff

Jazmine Ruiz

August 17, 2019

Andrew was the only person I kept in contact with from XRay school. I love Andrew. He was an amazing person and friend. I am completely devastated by his passing. Praying for his family, including Mike, in this time of need.

Susan MacNeela

August 17, 2019

I had the privilege and honor of instructing Andrew in several courses in the Radiography Program at UNC-CH. Andrew was an exemplary student. He contributed so much to the class. He was smart, but he was humble, and he added a warmth to the group that I can not adequately explain.
He will be missed by all the people he touched on this earth. I am very grateful that I had the opportunity to spend two years of his extraordinary life with him.

With deepest sympathy,
Susan MacNeela

Marcelo Levy

August 16, 2019

I am so sorry to learn of your loss. My heartfelt condolences. May his memory always be for a blessing.

Steve & Portia Walker

August 15, 2019

We knew Andrew best when he was a young boy at North Ridge Elementary School. He was a wonderful boy, and we felt fortunate to have Andrew be one of our son Elliot’s best friends. We also felt blessed to have Lisa and Ted as friends.

Time marched on, schools changed, and we lost touch with Andrew. However, we never lost touch with the warm feelings we had for him. Andrew surprised us with a visit last fall, much to our delight. He was clearly the same sweet boy we knew, just all grown up. Below is a photo of Andrew at Wrightsville Beach we’ve had in our den for 20+ years (with Elliot cropped out) and will treasure forever.

Judy Mulvihill

August 13, 2019

We are remembering Andrew as smart , witty and charismatic! Enjoyed times together throughout school and Boy Scouts. We will have a smile whenever we think of him! Our Love and Prayers are with you- Lisa,Ted,Eric and family! The Mulvihills

Ann McGah

August 13, 2019

So sorry for your loss. We are thinking of you and sending prayers.

Ann and Bill McGah

Michael Griffin

August 13, 2019

Andrew, you will be forever in my heart. We shared so many fun times together. The beach, Vegas, an earthquake in VA, our years on the farm playing with the boys, fishing, playing in snow. We celebrated every Christmas together, Birthdays, and Holliday’s , we made the best of them! I will miss our time together and will never forget you! You were smart, intuitive, stubborn, a friend, and my partner. I Love You! Your Pooga and Raisans! God Rest Your Soul!

FROM THE FAMILY