Brent Allen Upton

December 15, 1982March 17, 2021
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On March 17, 2021 Brent Allen Upton, loving husband and father, passed away at the age of 38 after a valiant, lengthy battle with cancer. Brent was born on December 15, 1982 in Raleigh, North Carolina to Bruce and Melanie Upton. He was a proud graduate of North Carolina State University and a true, lifelong Wolfpack fan. He served as a firefighter with the Raleigh Fire Department for 12 years and proudly earned the rank of lieutenant. While with the department, he also served on the Hazmat Team. Of the many calls he responded to, he was the most proud of the two code saves he was a part of. Upon his medical retirement, the aspect he missed the most was the camaraderie with his crew shared in the firehouse. Brent married Catherine in May of 2013. Brent and Catherine spent their time together traveling the world, attending Carolina Hurricanes games, and simply enjoying one another’s company. He welcomed his beloved daughter, Ella Marie in January of 2016. Brent was a nurturing and ever-present father. He was always teaching Ella to love the fun things in life: being silly, making faces, wrestling, jamming out to all types of music. He made sure there was time for daddy daughter outings for ice cream, donuts, and the park. Brent will be remembered for many things, but being a dedicated father and husband was his greatest accomplishment. Anyone who was lucky enough to witness his time with Catherine and Ella could easily see the love he had for them. His family was his top priority. Brent had a wide range of interests that spanned from professional wrestling, playing video games, watching horror movies, and visiting haunted houses to catching a show at DPAC, reading, and doing puzzles. In a similar manner he had a deep love of music that ran through all genres from heavy metal to Buffet to the Beatles to his favorite, Sevendust. Brent was always planning his next trip. In his short life he was able to swim with dolphins and feed sharks and even helicopter to the top of a glacier to go dog sledding. Those lucky enough to travel with him knew that they would be walking infinite steps in order to pack in as many of the sights as possible. Brent had the innate ability to light up every room he entered. He was the most caring and compassionate person, always putting a smile on everyone’s face. From his family to his career to his many life adventures, for those who knew him best or only met him once, Brent was known for being courageous, kind, gentle, adventurous, generous, and funny. And he was quick to wish everyone a “Goood Eeeevening”. Those closest to Brent will honor his memory by continuing to travel, laugh, and enjoy life while making silly faces and remembering to eat “cookies and cake, chicken and feeesh”. He will be missed forever and never forgotten. Just keep punchin’! Brent blessed his family as a wonderful son, brother, uncle, and cousin. He is survived by his wife Catherine and daughter Ella, parents Bruce and Melanie, brother Blake (Amanda), niece Sydney, nephew Thomas, and many special cousins. He fought valiantly, quietly, and courageously until the end and now finds peace and comfort with God.

Brent's family will receive guests from 5:00pm - 7:00pm on Tuesday, March 23, 2021 at Good Shepherd Lutheran Church, 7000 Creedmoor Rd. Raleigh, NC 27613. Brent's Memorial Service will be a private event but all are welcome to attend virtually on Wednesday, March 24, 2021 at 11:00am. Please click "join livestream" to be routed to the livestream. The stream will be available at 10:30 am on Wednesday. All attendees of the visitation are required to wear a mask and social distance where possible. In lieu of flowers, donations can be made in Brent’s memory to the North Carolina Aquarium Society or The V Foundation.


  • Visitation

    Tuesday, March 23, 2021

  • Virtual Memorial Service

    Wednesday, March 24, 2021



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Jacqueline Olich

April 8, 2021

In recognition of the very special love that Blake and Brent shared, I send my condolences to the entire family.

Mike Chernovetz

March 24, 2021

Blake and all the Upton Family ,
We're deeply sorry for your loss. We're thinking of you all and everyone at Cisco is keeping you all in our prayers


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Amber Terry

March 22, 2021

Blake and family,
I am so sorry for your loss. I pray you all experience a peace that passes all understanding during this difficult time.

Celia Mullins

March 21, 2021

I cannot begin to express the kindness that this man just spewed about as he appeared in a room. Him and his wife are somenof the sweetest most thoughtful people that I personally have ever met im my entire life. He was humble, never boasting, always around the corner if his sweet Ella needed anything. You could tell where his heart was and it was with his sweet wife , and his sweet Ella. He was always looking for the next fun thing that he could do with his family. Always asking how everyone else was doing, even when he was weak and going through so many things of his own. We knew Brent before his sickness and through most of his hard times as he battled so courageously. My heart is broken , not only for the impact that he made on my life, ut for his sweet Ella. I promise to keep you catherine, and you Ella in my prayers. And please know I'm here if you guys need anything. I could go on and on about the love Brent showed to man kind in general each day, but for now, Rest Easy Brent.

Debra Poole

March 20, 2021

The Upton family is on our hearts & in our prayers! May Brent’s life be an inspiration to others & may the grace of God comfort your family as only He can do.
Love you Mel!
Debra & Scott Poole❤️

Marianne Bandur (Wagner)

March 20, 2021

Brent was like another son to me. For half of his life he was a best friend to my son Jay. They bonded the first time one of them mentioned “wrestling”. I recall his laughter, his sense of humor, and his love of the comically crazy side of life. Also, he was always there to lend a hand, a shoulder, and a sympathetic ear in times of stress.
One of my favorite memories was his trip to our beach home with Adam. Brent made this hysterical video tour of our condo with Jay narrating, and Adam doing something goofy and well, Adam-like in every room! It was a fabulous week - a week I will remember forever.
There are so many memories, and I feel blessed for the opportunity to know Brent. He made us all aware that every day we are called by God to laugh, love, and live life to the full. And so his Spirit is with us forever.

Andrea Smith

March 19, 2021

I remember the first time I met Brent at Rex Cancer Center. He was always the kindest person one could meet!
We talked A LOT about sports and how much the World has changed since the pandemic.
My heart aches knowing that he is no longer with us! I will miss him terribly!
My prayers are with the family during this challenging time.
May God bless!

Daniel Wright

March 19, 2021

Blake and family,
Please accept my sympathy for your loss. Brent has left far too soon but I hope that you can find some small comfort in your happy memories of him.

John Withers

March 19, 2021

Dear Blake and Family,
I am so sorry to hear of Brent's passing. Please accept my sincere condolence's. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
John Withers

Ryan Smith

March 18, 2021

Brent thank you for your service. I'm truly sorry to hear of Brent's passing. My deepest condolences go out to the Upton family.