Bruce Douglas Carbrey

January 24, 1946May 7, 2014

Bruce D. Carbrey, of Raleigh, 68, loving husband, father, and “Grandpa” passed away Tuesday, May 7th, 2014, after battling kidney cancer.

Bruce was born January 24, 1946 in Summit, NJ. During his youth, Bruce was an enthusiastic Boy Scout. He graduated from Madison High School in 1964, and then enrolled in the ROTC at Bucknell University where he received his BS in Mechanical Engineering in 1969. He was commissioned as a 2nd Lieutenant in the US Army and served in Vietnam from 1969-1970; he received two Army Commendation Medals, one with Oak Leaf Cluster, and a Bronze Star.

Bruce worked for the Army Research and Development Command at Picatinny Arsenal in Dover, NJ for ten years. In 1980, Bruce earned his MS in Computer Science from NJIT and relocated to NC where he began a lengthy career as a software engineer. He retired in December 2013 after working at SAS Institute in Cary for eleven years as a Senior Programmer.

Bruce especially loved spending time at the NC Crystal Coast, where he was an active community member. Some of his favorite pastimes included bicycling, playing with his APA pool team, sailing and kayaking. Bruce took great pride in supporting the Kayak for the Warriors (K4W) in Pine Knoll Shores, NC, an annual event to benefit Hope for the Warriors. His contributions included racing his kayak, earning significant donations, and working behind the scenes to build and maintain the K4W website.

Above all else, Bruce treasured his family, and they know of no greater gift than his sure, steadfast love. Surviving are his wife of 45 years, Sally-May, of Raleigh; three daughters, Katie Sawicki (Todd) and grandchildren, Gwendolyn and Matthew of Seattle, Washington; Evalyn Carbrey (Fernando) of Berkeley, California; and Betsy Castellow (James) and grandson, Brighton of Raleigh.

In lieu of flowers, memorial donations may be made to

A memorial service is planned for Sunday, May 18 at 2:30pm at Asbury United Methodist Church in Raleigh, with a reception to follow at the family’s home in Raleigh.


  • Memorial Service Sunday, May 18, 2014

Bruce Douglas Carbrey

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Sarah Bethune

May 11, 2014

To Bruce's family, especially Sally,
I was privileged to know and work with Bruce on the board of Maritime West for several years and also to know Sally and Bruce as kind, caring neighbors. I will always remember Bruce's calm, reassuring demeanor.. He kindly invited me to sit with your family at the July 4th picnic a few years ago. I will always treasure my years at the beach, including our being neigbors.
Sarah Bethune, C-22

Dana Daves

May 9, 2014

Hey Betsy and James, Sorry about your loss. I lost my mother May 3, 2014. God will bless both of them. Your friend, Dana.

May 9, 2014

Bruce was one of the very nicest and most unassuming men I have ever met. He was also quite brilliant when it came to web development work, which is how I got to know him. You would not have known just by talking to him that Bruce was also a decorated veteran who served his country in Viet Nam. Bruce was truly remarkable and I can think of no others in his mold. I am so sorry for the loss of such a fine man and exemplar of the kind of life all of us should all strive to lead. Peace and prayers to Bruce's family, loved ones and friends.